You can’t do that!

you can't do thatYou can't do that! Have you ever been told that?  How many people have doubted you in certain endeavors. The biggest question is how do you react to the criticism especially if it comes from family or close friends.

Too many times we are taken let others dictate our direction we take in life. It could be as little as how we should raise our children or why we shouldn't pursue our true ambition in life.

I have learned to be a good listener in many cases but ultimately take what I am told and use it as fuel for what I am perusing.

The biggest question you can ask yourself is “why am I doing this?” Your “why” is what should be the catalyst of any endeavor.

No matter what you do in life your always going to have critics, just don't let them carve a different path in your life's journey.


I love this commercial below… No, No, No…

You Can't do That! Oh, yes you can! #FaithFocusFinish

Try Something Different Today

You get that great thing where ideas and thoughts just don't seem to occur inside your mind. Instead of getting frustrated and mentally shutdown try something different today.

We lose that child like instinct when we get older to be spontaneous and let go. try something different

Today, take a different way to work, stop by and old friends house or drop the briefcase and hit the swingset for 5 minutes at the public park. Clear your mind of all distractions, bills, deadlines and detours in your life.

“Sometimes it's better to slow down so you can speed up” – David Putman

Today, I started doing a daily motivation to spur ideas…what are you going to do?

Give it a shot, try something different today


5 Awesome Tools that will help you Create crusher content

I wanted to get a list of 5 awesome tools that help me create content, I almost couldn't think of them because I had writers block!

Brain mush (writers block)  is a serious epidemic with bloggers and it can be quite painful. It is the inability to think of anything creative and can make you feel quite dumb if it is not addressed. We tend to lose are creative edge as we grow older because we forget to have that child like view of the world and makes everything we do dull and boring. Sometimes it takes the creative genius of your 13 year old son to put a fire under you to get the Brain mush flowing properly.

Effective ways to be creative don't require massive research or long words like Floccinaucinihilipilification to make you look smarter than you really are. You just have to be you and use a few tools to get that little hamster upstairs in your head running on that wheel faster than ever!

5 Awesome Tools that will help you Create crusher content

1. Ask you children questions: Sound a bit crazy but when you get down to it they can be a huge influence on your creativity. I like to watch my son draw something or ask him questions on an idea and he tells me either “Dad, thats stupid” or “Thats cool!”

Of course a good portion of the time he responds with “What?” but it's all good because I can teach him at that point.

2. Brainstorm and create a Mindmap for free Mind mapping is the process of using visual diagrams to show the relationships between ideas or information. You can use it for brainstorming, project planning, collecting and organizing thoughts.  A great tool to help solve problems, map out resources and uncover brilliant and fresh ideas.

3. Hashtag it baby! Use those hashtags and unveil some brilliant ideas. You can google a hashtag and come up ideas pertaining to your topic. Remember, it is to get those juices flowing that will create the brilliance you have stored up inside. A really cool tool I use is Storify, it helps by making sense of what people post on social media. Storify users curate the most important voices and turn them into stories. It can give you perspective on any event or topic.

4. Stay thirsty my friend – No, not thirsty for Dos Equis beer! Stay thirsty for the latest and greatest information on your particular passion or niche. A wonderful tool I use is Google Alerts, it helps monitor the Web for interesting new content. You set the desired keyword(s) and it informes you of what is being published, trending etc. Definitely a crusher tool that needs to be in your toolbox.

5. The 5th and final tool is one of my favorites.  is a tool that helps you come up with an array of titles for your next blog post or presentation. Some are funny. Some are genuinely useful for your post.

Now that you have been able to shake out some of the brain mush go ahead leave a comment, because your cool like that:)

When life changes suddenly in a blink of an eye

When life changes suddenly your world can feel like it's falling apart around you. If it's a relationship falling apart, losing a job, or losing a loved one, it never is easy to cope.

Living with something inside of your mind and not being able to shake it can be harmful . December 2007 was a day that changed everything. Getting

My beautiful mother, I miss you and think about you and dad everyday,

My beautiful mother, I miss you and think about you and dad everyday,

that call in the morning that my mom went to the emergency room is still embedded in my mind.

Our phone rang around 5:45 a.m. and my wife Kristy answered it. I of course was a zombie because I sleep like a log. She nudged me telling me that mom was on her way to the hospital. Of course I asked why and there was no clear answer because at this point in time nobody knew anything.

You see, I was blessed to be a part of a very close knit family. My sister Beth, Tammy and brother Marty (If he wasn't my brother he would most definitely be my best friend) kept close tabs on each other as well as our parents.

My Father who I miss dearly and my Awesome son Chase! (Older picture but one of my favorites).

After the phone call I was debating weither to just roll over and go back to bed because mom was bullet proof in my eyes. What I mean by that is she never got so sick she had to go to the hospital and when she did get sick it was over pretty quick. I decided to go because all of my siblings where going and in my mind at the point in time I didn't want mom (or dad) to be upset I didn't go.

I remember vividly driving to the hospital, in a snow storm. It was one of those snow falls where it is coming down in droves but it is completely silent outside. As I made my way to the hospital a very uneasy feeling came over me. I felt as if it was preparing me for what I was about to find out. I kept on thinking to  myself that mom had passed away and then arguing back “there is no way.” Sounds a bit crazy, I know, but I am sure everyone has had those moments. Of course, I wasn't rushing because I had to prove to that voice that they were wrong and I was right (I have struggled with pride all my life but I am much better than I used to be.

Now, I'm at the hospital, making my way to the emergency area. Calm, cool, collected. Say hello to the attendant outside and walk through the sliding

My Amazing, Beautiful, funny and adorable wife Kristy Ann. Love her with everything I am

doors. I didn't even have a chance to look in the waiting room because I saw both of my sisters peering outside of a door down the hallway crying. I was walking towards them telling myself over and over again “No, no way”. Mom had died of an aortic aneurism. Having coffee before she went off to work it just happened.

I remember seeing my dad sitting down and looking up at me with a blank look on his face. Little did I know what was going through his  mind, or the hell that he would go through mentally for the next year and a half. I wanted to see her, I had to say goodbye to my mom. So all of us went into the room she was in. I fell to one knee and cursed God asking him why? Why would you take someone that had such a kind heart for everyone and take her so quickly.

I felt God had made a mistake, I felt that he had abandoned my family. I was angry with life and with God.

The following days before her funeral I pretty much shut down. We were taking turns staying with my dad and I remember him crying himself to sleep. Drinking his scotch to take away the heartache and pain. They where married for 39 years and we where planning on getting them a cruise trip for their 40th anniversary.

The night before the funeral I wanted to write something to say at the funeral, but couldn't think of anything. Finally I gave up and went to bed, I had nothing. 2 a.m. I woke up (in which I never do) and I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. I remember grabbing an envelope and writing down what came to my mind, it flowed smoothly. I sincerely felt that someone was there beside me helping me along as I wrote everything down. When I was done I rolled back over to sleep but had the feeling that everything was going to be alright.

When life changes, what do you do?

My Brother in Christ/Pastor and friend @JeremySchweyer

Fast forward to now, my faith in God has changed dramatically. Dad passed away in 2010 in which I though was going to be easier but by far it wasn't. Losing someone you love in a blink of an eye is ever so life changing. We can ask why, but to question God and the reason is just not an option for me anymore. God is in total control even though we may not like the results at that point in our life.

My wife Kristy has been with me through every bit of this. She has seen me at my highest highs and lowest points. I thank God for her and my son Chase every day. So many times in life we have choices to move forward or digress backwards. I choose forward with my God, my family and my friends.

I know God taught me something that day, and I am not really sure what it was, but I know it was for something good. I keep striving to reach out to him as he helps me find my true purpose.

If you are going through something in your life that you are trying handle by  yourself, give it to God.

As the NewsBoys sing #God'sNotDead


This is for you mom and dad, I miss you dearly and love you forever and one day will see you again. XOXOXOX