Are you stuck in the gap

Are you feeling stuck in the Gap in your online business? Are you feeling like you hit a roadblock and nothing seems to be working? you're feeling like waving the white flag, giving up, not wanting to keep going.

Do me a favor and take a deep breath, sit back and relax and let's dive into why you are feeling this way. You may be deep in the notorious gap, a very uncomfortable and unrelenting part of life.

The Gap! How Do You Know if You're Stuck in it?

The gap feels like a prison sentence, and there could be a plethora of reasons why you are in the gap…

You are super frustrated because you have chipped away at this dream for so long that you thought was going to happen and it didn't come into fruition?

Then self doubt kicks in and you ask yourself the question of all questions.

Is there even a point to keep going on with my dream of building an online business?

First off, If you want to have success in your life, then, you better get rid of some of the thoughts in your brain that is holding you back.

Is Stinking Thinking Throwing You in the Gap?

Get rid of the stinking thinking that only you can hear inside your brain.

Getting rid of the negative thoughts in your mind is one of the biggest steps you can take to becoming successful in your life.

In order for your business to thrive, you have to thrive internally first.

There’s always a gap. It sits between who we are and who we strive to be.

It can feel like that gap is continually getting bigger, so that the farther we go, the farther the prize gets away from us.

The Gap is discouraging, and it can make it harder to pursue our dreams when they always feel so far out of sight. But you can’t let that stop you. Not now or ever. You have to continue to be persistent and keep going. 

You owe it not only to yourself, but to others as well. Keep moving forward and claim the power your message has over the world and people around you.

People need to hear your story, and you need to speak it for them to listen to it. Don’t let the gap that stands between where you are at this very moment and where you want to stop you from chasing your dreams and unlocking your best self. Instead, seek the reason you were put on this earth to do!

Keep going and keep making great strides. The one way you will undoubtedly get there is by moving in a forward motion. That’s how you’ll close the gap and call your success to come.

If Being on the Wrong Path Causing You To Be Stuck in the Gap?

I always ask myself whether I’m on the right path, even though my thirst to succeed is incredible. However, I have often felt overextended, like I’m clinging for balance in a world that’s constantly changing around me.

It wouldn’t be a trial if it weren’t difficult. And if receiving what we wanted is meant to be easy, it wouldn’t be worth the gold at the end of the rainbow. 

Besides, we would not be able to achieve what we want if we weren’t a little uncomfortable in pursuing our dreams. 

So keep going. Keep being creative. Keep moving forward, yet always be aware of the gap. Truth be told, being stuck in the gap is not a fun place to be.

Tap into real-world expectations.

This one has been critical to me.

So how do you Tap into real-world expectations?

First off you need to stop listening to people that promise you quick results.

Tap into it by listening to the people and or person who has already traveled where you want to go. Listen to the person or people who know what works and how you will fall and not succeed along the way!

Also, stay away from the people who tell you how long your adventure is going to take before success, How in the world do they know that?

I can tell you that my first year I bought into the hype and it got me nowhere.

By listening to someone that you know has been through the trenches, and came out on top. Obviously you won't get an exact blueprint. What you will get is wisdom to help you create your own blueprint that will get you unstuck and out of the funk you are currently in.

Why are you doing this?

Losing the big picture in the busy everyday life is easy. But if you feel like quitting, then really try remembering why you are doing what you are doing. I find this is the best way to get out of the gap and back on track.


Is it to financially support your family?

Live a healthier lifestyle, so you get to watch your kids grow up?

Travel the world and explore new and exciting things?

Write your answers to these questions in a notebook, and keep it close by!

Then, whenever you feel like waving that white flag, pull out your notebook with your most important why(s). It will be a game-changer for you!

It is always the darkest before dawn.

This idea has helped me to keep a grip when things have felt hopeless, and I felt like giving up and really not wanting to keep going. 

When certain things seemed to be at the lowest spot with my business, with my gym life, or with my get up and go in life in general something always happened.

Quite often because being at that lowest point forced me to change how I did things. But maybe also because life always seems to have some kind of balance if I just keep pushing. If I just keep going instead of giving up and doing nothing, then something good always seems to happen.

Seeing this cycle strengthened my belief, and holding on, always reminding myself to keep going even on tough days, weeks or even months at a time.

When I have run into a bump in the road or a more extended rough patch these two things have been helpful:

I admire people who operate from a place of love and who have gone through the rigorous process of finding and articulating their purpose, whatever it may be.

Caroline Ghosn

Keep it simple and take it back to the basics if your feel You're Stuck in the Gap

It is easy to become very overwhelmed by all the information out there about any change you can make in your life. That leads to confusion and trying to do too many things at once.

Learn more and make the correction in your direction. Reconnecting with the basics is an amazing thing to do! To look at how you are doing things, what results they are bringing in, and to compare it to how people who have done this sort of thing before me have done things.

Learn to be completely honest with yourself and admit that a shift in direction could be the reason you have fallen into a funk.

I often find it a great idea to take a step back and go back to the basics when I get stuck in the gap.

When I get into a funk mentally, I love to remind myself with these 4 words…


These 4 words are music to my ears, because I tend to over complicate things. So, I look in the mirror and remind myself to keep it simple stupid!

I promise you it is super refreshing to wake yourself up with those four fantastic words!

Final Thoughts

If you feel like quitting, that’s great. It means you’re intensely involved. Go ahead and feel like stopping. Just don’t actually leave. Instead, experience the power in that feeling. That’s your power. With that, you can do amazing things. What a shame it would be to walk away from it.

If Feel like quitting, you need to keep going! Significant success is right around the next corner. 

Have you been stuck in the gap before, and how did you get through it?

I would love to hear your story or ideas below.

26 replies
  1. Benjamin Pate
    Benjamin Pate says:

    Inspiring words Freddy – in life things can be difficult and you simply just can’t give up. As you mentioned the importance of us documenting the things that are important (notebook for example reference in your post) can allow us something to always reflect on when those times do seem dire. Keep Pushing, reflect back on why we are there to begin with so it can fuel our fire during the tough times!

  2. Marius
    Marius says:

    Great post, I can relate that to myself. All my life when it used to get hard or I fail I used to quit, but know I have change my mindset, I wrote my goal in notebook and look at it every day, to motivate myself that I have to keep going to achieve my goals. And your advice are really good and helpful, I’m using lot’s of your tips now and I can say that they are really working, we have to deal with our head and mindset first, that’s what holding most of the people back. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Olalekan Taliat
    Olalekan Taliat says:

    This post got to my heart . Am a blogger and I feel frustrated I have not been able to meet goal, for some months I struggled with my new blog trying to carve a niche for myself. I feel like qiuting and sometimes its just like I should try something else.

    This post has given an extra strength, reason, and hope no quit . Thanks for the invaluable courage you have instill in me. I will definitely keep coming back to this page. Bookmarked though.

  4. Badhan Biswas
    Badhan Biswas says:


    Sometime people just lose faith and confident on their self. Sometimes things doesn’t work well or doesn’t work that way it should be. The experts says don’t lose faith in yourself and keep on going. I used to do that but sometime like can’t believe myself and lose confidence to keep on going. But then I try to remember what kind of goal I have selected for myself and whom for  I’m going to leave my life. As we are the human beings we just can’t live only for ourself, that makes us selfish. When people lose faith in their self. They should try to remember why they are leaving their life. When I face situation like that I used to remember what my parents have done for me they have and how may times they have sacrificed their little emotions to make my life comfortable and for seeing me at a success full stage of life that they couldn’t achieve. So if someone lose faith in their self and decided to leave everything they must remember the sacrifice of their parents. 

    There is a old saying that, “The show must go on “.if someone can realise the main meaning of this they couldn’t just workout or hide behind the bars from the mainstream of life. If anyone can’t live their life for their self the must try to live for those who really matters to him/her. Now this was not from my old thoughts this came to my mind after reading your article. Which have inspired me a lot and drives me to claim back my faith and confident on myself. 

    That’s why I loved your article. Thanks Mr Freddy Owen for sharing this article.

  5. Badhan Biswas
    Badhan Biswas says:

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  6. Tom Guu
    Tom Guu says:

    Hello Freddy, you are dead on with you evaluation of staying on the right path and doing whatever it takes to stay there. I often have the  same problems, you spoke about on your site. You are so right about paying attention to the final goal to see them through. I often get stuck but like you said you have to get all of the negativity out of you head so you came move on. Excellent point Fred. I also like your part where you talk about getting back to the basics. That is exactly what I do or shall say am doing when I get off track with my writing. I just go to my training and get back on track. Thanks for sharing such an important topic.

  7. Adamuts
    Adamuts says:

    Thanks for writing out this lovely article and I must say its a must for everyone to read and digest.its a great post, success doesn’t come by accident but through some process and determination.  I was touched by this article,goals documentation is always a good thing to reminds someone of the success ahead.

    I always said to myself, it’s too late to quit, quitting isn’t in my dictionary. Am highly motivated by this article, thanks for the inspiration. Best regards 

  8. Fortune
    Fortune says:

    I am really inspired and motivated by your article. There are obstacles to face on the pathway to success in life but giving up is not an option. I agree with you that to be successful one need to have a written goals with procedure in achieving them in a notebook, thus would serve as guide. I have failed in many attempts to achieve something but I was encouraged not to give up. Yes there are times in life whereby it seems all is lost but pressing forward is still the option for us. It’s not the number of times we fall but how quickly we rise again and avoid the reason for our last failure.  Having a good and creative mindset help us in moving forward irrespective of the challenges that may come our way. Thanks for this inspirational article. 

  9. Tunde
    Tunde says:

    Oh… This is a great and inspiring piece,  and it’s nice meeting you Freddy. You might not know the number of souls you have lifted by sharing this motivational write-up, and for your your information, I am one of them. This article is very timely because I nearly gave up on something I have been pursuing for the past few years. But you have really awakened my spirit and got me back to my feet. Thanks for sharing this with us.

  10. Barry
    Barry says:

    Taking real personal experience and writing about it is inspirational. Freddy has taken his shared is struggles and disappointments to show (rather than just tell us about them) making his writing come to life for the reader.

    Understanding how where we want to go and planning are essential to success. Writing down our goals is so much better than just thinking I want to do this or I want to do that. By putting our goals down on paper makes us accountable to ourselves. Sharing our goals and successful accomplishment of our goals with others makes us accountable to others.

    This article is one that I personally need to read periodically to remind myself where I came from, where I want to go and aid myself in achieving success.

  11. Edgar Ahimbe
    Edgar Ahimbe says:

    Whenever I read motivational post like yours, I reflect upon my life and the goals I have set ahead of me. I ask myself the same question you shared, “Am I on the right track?” I reflect on how are feel about myself and others and the steps I have taken to improve myself to avoid being stuck in a gap.

    I will always remind myself why I set these goals (which is my family) to stay focused and never give up.

    I have enjoyed your post from top to bottom since I always reflected on my life. It will definitely make me better. 

  12. Chas
    Chas says:

    Hi Freddy,

    I think we have all been there, wanting to throw in the towel, quit and say it is just too hard.Sometimes, it seem the uphill battle is getting too hard. But, as you say, if we think about why we are doing it, and what we are striving for, It can make all the difference. Maybe we should list all the negative things we can find, and make a second list with all the positive things we can find. Then burn the first list! Put that positive list somewhere where we can see it, everyday!  Each night look at it and get up each day ready to take action to achieve progress toward our goal. Action is the key to achieving what we want!

    We need goals. If I am trying to lose weight, I decide how much I are going to lose, and set a deadline, or a total amount of calories I am  allowed each day until my weight goal is reached. if I don’t, m y weight will never change. If I fail one day, guilt motivates me to get right back on that goal. What ever it takes, quitting is not an option!

    I agree with you Freddy, whatever it takes, keep going. One step at a time, persistence wins out in the end.


  13. John
    John says:

    Great post, Freddy… very inspirational!

    It can be very hard when we are striving for a goal and things aren’t quite working out… I often wonder if I am on purpose and on the right path.

    Occasionally, I do feel like quitting, and in times like that, I have to reflect on my “why” and my reason for wanting something better.

    Ultimately, if you are striving, you will find your true purpose, and I know I will never give up on that dream.

    Like you said, it’s not meant to be easy… but it’s worth it in the long run!

    Great article :-)


  14. Ian
    Ian says:

    What an inspiring article Freddy. Thank you for writing it, the timing couldn’t have been better.

    Having a clearly defined “why” is the only thing that keeps me going and during the tough times it is easy to forget.

    I’ve often thought about building a vision board for my why and having it on the wall in front of my desk. Do you have any experience with this?

    I love your quote – “Feel like quitting, then keep going. Significant success is right around the next corner.” There is so much power in this.

    Thanks again.

    • Freddy Owen
      Freddy Owen says:

      Awesome brother 🔥💯 if you keep at it, no matter how long the road is you’ll eventually get there! Stay the course 💪


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