HE WANTS TO HELP YOU SET THE STAGE FOR THE PERFORMANCE OF YOUR LIFE!

The Freddy “O” Show Episode #7: Ryan Stanley wants to help you set the stage for the PERFORMANCE of your life!

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Episode #7 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen: Today on the show, we have Ryan Stanley. He wants to help you set the stage for the performance of your life. We got sales secrets, mindset hacks, emphasis on this episode. Let's go.

My Beautiful Wife: Thank you for listening to the Freddie iOS show, a podcast devoted to you, the listener, your purpose, your mindset and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now, here's your host,

Freddy Owen: Welcome to episode number seven of the radio show. lucky number seven. Yes, that's my favorite number. But before we get the train rolling, I wanted to thank you so much for tuning in today. It's always a pleasure to have you aboard and I mean that from the bottom of my heart sincerely, a friendly reminder, you can access all podcast show notes from today's episode at win with Fred calm. Also, the radio shows Available on these other fine apps, that is Apple podcasts, Spotify, Google podcasts Stitcher, I Heart Radio, podcast, attic pod chaser, Deezer, overcast pipe cast Castro and cast box. I truly appreciate your support. It means the world to me. Now, as we enter into today's episode, get ready to hang on tight because it's going to be a fun ride. We have Ryan Stanley in the house and he is ready to drop some knowledge today. He is a lifelong entrepreneur with a strong background in professional life, business and internal coaching. He's also a husband and a father of two boys, screenwriter, author and a Phish fan. I told you, we were going to be talking about Phish. I'm excited to have Ryan Stanley on today. Ryan, welcome to the radio show.

Ryan Stanley: So happy to be here. Thank you so much, man. Good to be here.

Freddy Owen: Awesome. So let's get started. Who is Ryan Stanley?

Ryan Stanley: Ryan Stanley is a guy who grew up in northwestern New Jersey. is currently a father, an entrepreneur, an author, a speaker, a coach, a thought leader, and entrepreneur. I might care more twice, but I'm pretty passionate about it. You throw Phish fan there. And that pretty much gives you a quick quick glance of who I am.

Freddy Owen: So real quick, you have kids, how many kids do you have?

Ryan Stanley: Two boys? Nine and six.

Freddy Owen: Okay, okay. Being a parent is pretty tough. Sometimes.

Ryan Stanley: You know, it's got its days, but I would say really my two favorite things in life are definitely Parenthood. Actually, being a parent is my favorite thing. And life coaching is a close second. I think while it is tough, they're definitely the two places where I find I'm constantly teaching and learning at the same time. So always lots of opportunities for growth and being a parent.

Freddy Owen: Wait, wait till they hit in the teenage years and it's still i'd love my son. He's actually home now. He was in New York City. He was sent home right before they did the lockdown. Yeah. And he was going to school amda which is an art school. And so it is. It's very, very, I love it because I'm very protective. You know, so when this was happening, and sometimes he's like dad, you know, you gotta let it go. Come on, you know, if I'm a grown up now I'm almost 20 years old. I know, I know everything. So. So you've been doing this since how long when you started?

Ryan Stanley: Well, I've been a parent for about nine years, and I'm just getting

Ryan Stanley: in regards to coaching. I've been coaching for about just over a decade, so 2009 I was certified.

Freddy Owen: Okay. What was the biggest struggle you had when you started? You started doing coaching and actually venturing into the online world?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, you know, so I attended my training in 2009. Before I was a coach actually came from A, I've always been a bit of an entrepreneur or worked for startups. So right before I started coaching, I was working as an artist manager working in band and artist management working with bands and there's aspects But I love those aspects of it that I didn't love. What I loved was really just connecting with and empowering people, especially working with creative people working with artists, working with musicians, being able to be in a live music space. There's a number of things I didn't like. But knowing that my passion was around connectivity, a lot of people don't really realize or think about the fact that musicians are entrepreneurs. And they are creating a product that they want to sell to the masses. And so I loved showing them that they were there, you know, their large goals were possibilities and more options. And I loved setting up specific plans and stepping into their greatness and being there to celebrate it. So that to me, ended up being coaching, really, I mean, I in October of 2008, I had like three conversations that on both coaching out of nowhere, and I was like, well, that that sounds like what I'm I want to be doing and it doesn't involve all the things that I don't want to be doing. So this is a long way for me to answer. But so I enrolled in a program called AIPAC, the Institute for professional excellence and coaching in 2009. They actually asked me to start working for them before I even graduated, I met a lot of leadership in the organization. We had some synergies, and so I didn't have to jump Write in full time. So I was able to, you know, work with AIPAC. I was their internal coach, I coached their staff. I worked as an admissions coach where I coached a lot of their people who are interested in their program. I coached them around whether it was a good path for them or not, all while also starting my own online practice. So it wasn't too much struggle as much as it was more of a creative endeavor. And that I was, you know, able to step in on a regular basis.

Freddy Owen: So let's go back to the artists and the musicians. Yeah. Okay. Let's say you've probably dealt with a lot of them and a lot of musicians. A lot of them prima donnas.

Ryan Stanley: I wouldn't say so. You know, musicians are definitely creative people. Right? So you know that coming in. So, pre Madonna, I just met a lot of prima donnas. A lot of the people who I worked with weren't necessarily but sometimes you know, a lot of musicians hang out with other musicians or your gig sharing or these different things. So I've certainly come across many, but in a coach's standpoint, you know, really typically, somebody who goes to a coach is somebody who wants to be better, wants to be more The best versions of themselves. And so that's one of things I like about it. You're working with people who are willing to invest themselves financially, but also timewise and energy wise. And so most of the people I've worked with, I would say are not prima donnas. But I'd say you certainly, of course come across people whose behaviors are unique.

Freddy Owen: So as far as musicians, you have dealt with any musicians that you would think that the 40 Oh, show fan would know.

Ryan Stanley: You know what I saw? I mean, I worked with a bunch of different people. So you know, I mentioned earlier that I'm a fan of the band Phish, but their lyricist is a guy named Tom Marshall. And he has a band called amphibian that I managed for a while. And karst is a guy named Anthony tries and who played in the Spin Doctors and played with John Waite. And you know, it's a pretty extravagant career played with no reading the bass player for Jimi Hendrix and so I you know, those people that that might come across, there's a band that people in New Jersey will know called karmic juggernaut. They're kind of a progressive, aggressive rock band from the Jersey Shore and I work with them for a while. And that was fun. Because another woman named cck coletti, who was a backup singer for meatloaf. So people know meatloaf, but maybe not necessarily CC. So spit bits and pieces here and there.

Freddy Owen: Well, not that it is a thing. It's not about how big they are. It's as far as the pre Madonna question. Yeah. It's, it's more so they're an artist. And they are there and it's hard to stray them away from their art, obviously, how they want it. And have you ever had where you had a musician that you were like, oh, gosh, just this is terrible music.

Ryan Stanley: I can see that I worked with bands that I didn't love. It just or just wasn't my style or my taste. I couldn't say that I would ever work with anyone that was terrible. Just I don't think I could. At some point, you're just like being authentic every day because then you have to sit there and tell them that they're good. But when you really don't believe there are

Freddy Owen: Why does Ryan have earplugs right now and his ears.

Ryan Stanley: So I'm gonna sneak out for this one. Why don't you guys go about it and we'll catch up afterwards. It sounds

Freddy Owen: like A lot of fun though.

Ryan Stanley: It is. I mean, it was great. There's aspects of it. There's a reason that I got into it from a management standpoint. I mean, I do love it, you know, I was younger at the time, and I wasn't really starting a family. So it was cool to go out to New York City and get some hang time and just be part of the growth and part of the scene and meet other bands and just kind of hang out be the side side of a rock star life so that there's aspects of their awesome, that's so

Freddy Owen: what did you do, actually, as far as you just coach them on? What do you coach them on?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, so my coaching clients, I mean, now I spent the majority of my career working musicians that now I've, since over the last couple of years really focused on a broader audience. I also now work with CEOs that work with doctors that work with authors that work with anybody who's interested in really being the best version of themselves and getting their ego out of the way and choosing to live on purpose. But musicians it's funny, typically when they come to me, it would be more about like, Hey Ryan, I want to get an album made I want to get more gigs. I want to build up my social media following like very left brain stuff, which of course is what people want to do. But really typically, even by the end of the first conversation that we had, it turned into more about like, what is your mindset? What is your thought process? What are the types of what's your internal dialogue? Like, you know, how are you waking up each day? What are your What are your core beliefs? What are your values? How is all that coming into play with who you want to be? Because once you can get all that clear, then you can the other stuff will fall into place for my experience.

Freddy Owen: Okay, so now you just brought up a question. left brain right brain? Yeah. And I don't explain that to me, if you could.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, and that's layman's terms, like a zone but the left brain really is the analytical. It's very technical. It's very, you know, it's like math or writing or, you know, it's very like number driven like very specifics right of like, making just this decision making decision. I didn't say I'd probably just say Chism, but decision making

Freddy Owen: marbling my words right now.

Ryan Stanley: It must be the passion. It's the passion. It's all good. No so decision making sure so the right brain is really creative. So the right brain comes with a creative process. So the art a lot of people who are artistic in some capacity utilize more of the right side of the brain, and people who are more analytical use the left side of the brain.

Freddy Owen: So his impulse right or left,

Ryan Stanley: obviously, right. Yeah, impulse, I believe is right.

Freddy Owen: Okay. Okay. Cool. So you talked about

Ryan Stanley: not to be confused with correct.

Freddy Owen: So you talked about daily rituals and things to make themselves better to be the best they can be. Okay. What type of daily rituals do you actually do on a daily basis that you think that that, you know, if you don't do them, you're going to be out of sorts? At what kind of daily rituals do you have?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, and I don't think it's so much about out of sorts, as much as it's just about living on purpose, right. So that for me anyway, that's my experience. So really You don't I mean, so it's not looking at what's the worst case scenario as much as Hey, I'm not living on the best case scenario. So for me having the routines are I wake up every morning between 530 and six, I get up, I come down and I meditate for anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour hour plus, to kind of get my brain straight to be present to understand the value of being president, let my body and my mind feel that way to start every day. After that, I exercise for about 25 to 30 minutes. Then I come into my office where I do what I call my Im statements and kind of now I'm all amped up, right? energetically, I've got all the adrenaline flow for my body from exercise, and I spent time doing some daily affirmations, just thinking about who I want to be in my life saying it out loud, being grateful for the outcome, imagining it and enjoying that that time is being who I want to be. After that, I sit down and journal a little bit like what's my plan for the day? What does my calendar look like? I kind of get some plans. I set up some things also I write down some things that I'm grateful for. I set up some goals for the day. And goals aren't necessarily specific tasks, because there's a separate area for that, but the goals are like hey, I want to be present with whomever I'm with. I want to be joyfully productive. I want to, you know, give love to my family, whatever it is like how I want to be. And then I write down tasks. Okay, I want to be sure I email this guy, I want to be sure that I have a great coaching session, I want to be sure that all the different specific tasks are.

Ryan Stanley: after that I go out every day. Yeah, exactly. So I prepare for the day and not that I get everything done every day. But at least I'm starting my day off with intention, purpose, and follow through, right. I do a little bit of stretching, and then by the time that's all done, it's like, 830 I go up, I take a shower and kick things into gear.

Freddy Owen: Right when you said that I started stretching my arms. So yeah, that's fantastic. So what with life coaching? What do you feel is your biggest strength when it comes to helping people realize that they're not put on this earth by accident?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, and thank you for putting it that way. That's an amazing way to say it. I would say my biggest strength is empathy and understanding and truly I'm a great coach, to be honest with you. There's a reason why I'm doing what I'm doing. I'm a good listener, I'm able to really meet people where they're at. And a lot of the time hear what they're not saying, and hear what they don't even know that they're not saying, but they are saying, and then ask them questions around that to help them look at it from a detached perspective, and then help them take action on that. And you know, my name is you got to be around, hopefully, I'm proud to say that that's my intention every day is to be somebody that people want to spend time with and want to learn from and want to. My intention is to be the light that I want to see in the world so that others can see it and want to be around it and magnify their own.

Freddy Owen: That's awesome. And that's that's, that's fantastic. I'm, so I'm going to go to you on your website. You have that you close $22 million in sales, I believe in eight years, which is not a chump change by any means. When it comes to sales, that's one of your strengths, obviously.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, and a lot of the time that's just about understanding people. So I have a separate company which is called Teach Me to Sell calm. And it is a sales training. It's an eight week sales sales training course for people who are coaches who are solopreneurs of some sort, people who are Fitness Trainers, people who are maybe in direct sales like that, but who want to serve the world in some capacity. So we're calling them SOS or service oriented solopreneurs. And so I partnered with a guy named Kurt van Linden Kirk is a sought after sales trainer. He's also a coach, but his superpower is sales training in particular. And he's done hundreds of millions of dollars in sales for Fortune 500 companies and been sought after to train their staff to do the same. And so my superpower is the mindset I've had a strong background in sales as well. So the combination really he focused more on the details of the training and I focus more on the details of the mindset and so it's a perfect combination to help our students really not only gain specific skills insight, so that to go back to our earlier conversation, it's the left brain and the right brain right so the left brain of like very specific skills, coaching questions, know how to use a specific sales process, and then the right brain of the creativity of the curiosity of being president of deciding who you want to be in empowering yourself to be the best.

Freddy Owen: So what do you see? Most solopreneurs entrepreneurs doing wrong when it comes to sales? Why are they not making sales?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, I think the biggest challenge is fear, right? That actually has to do with just about everything in life in some capacity, they're afraid of offending somebody, they're afraid of asking for too much money, they're afraid that they're not good enough. They're afraid you know, all these different fears that naturally come up for us as human beings that don't serve a purpose. And a big philosophy that we really stand behind him and used to guide us is to do the right thing, right thing for every person every time from a sales capacity, and be recognized that you're serving and you're not selling. Like if, you know, I'm to come to someone and say like, Hey, I have coaching. I'm not trying to sell them my coaching and I recognize that they have a need to be a better version of themselves, whatever that means to them. And I happen to have a great product that does it. So instead of getting caught up in what they fear, I don't know, she likes being charged or whatever. Should I ask him, it's like, Hey, this is what I do. This is how much it costs, what it looks like and what I've heard from our conversation, this is what you need as well, what questions do you have? Like, how do we make it happen? And it's generally an authentic thing as I would do to a friend. It's really more about making friends and making a sale, right? You're not looking at people with $1 signs in their head. You're looking at people, it's like, hey, how can I make a friend today? How can I create an opportunity for relationships to help people move forward in the best versions of themselves?

Freddy Owen: I love this. I love this. So you have four simple words on your What's the name of the site again? And this will all be in the show notes, everybody. So yeah, of course. What's the sale site?

Ryan Stanley: It's called teaching me to sell calm.

Freddy Owen: Yeah, you have stopped selling and started serving? Yep. Have you always had the attitude when it comes to sales? Or did you do that come into fruition in your journey to where you realized that maybe we're doing it wrong at first?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, you know, I think maybe when I first started years ago, as an entrepreneur, there are certainly aspects of that, that that came into play, selling my own stuff, but really, as I really Especially once they kind of shifted into coaching about, you know, 10 plus years ago, I recognized that what I was doing was serving, and I really was just excited to meet people who just wanted to to improve their life. And so I knew that I was serving them. And I knew that I had something that could make their life better. And to be honest with it, what I love most about coaching is a lot what I can't say most, but one things I really love about coaching is that when I'm working with people, and I'm coaching them around certain truths in life, and helping them get clear on certain aspects of what it means to be a human, from my perspective, I'm reminding my subconscious of the same things. So to kind of answer your question, I know even when I'm setting up a conversation to see if we are working together, I know just by doing that I'm serving them. I also stepped, you know, into my greatness a little bit more. So it is a constant Win Win scenario.

Freddy Owen: You're very upbeat, I love this.

Ryan Stanley: That's my intention. So thank you for reflecting on it.

Freddy Owen: Well, you got me, you got me there. So when it comes to, like, the secret sauce, if you were to , I guess there's the sound. Like authenticity is one of the biggest things in building relationships as far as selling. Yeah, people have a lot of different things I've had people try to say, you know, this is how you're supposed to sell this is how you're supposed to sell. And back in the day when I was in the car industry and I was a service advisor, service advisor basically selling was me just showing them what they needed. And like you just said, and putting myself in their shoes. Yeah, in a way what other things like secret sauce Could you give the radio show fame that could give them a significant edge? Or is it just that

Ryan Stanley: woman there is this little son that that there's asking great questions really being it's not just asking questions like Hey, what do you do? How's the weather? It's like, hey, it's when you first start any sales conversation to get to know somebody a little bit genuinely and authentically like I am not asking about where that is, how the weather is where you are. I'm asking you about yourself. So I can see where there are synergies and when somebody is a prospect They want to know, can they trust you? b? Do you know what you're talking about? And see, do you care about them in some capacity? Right, because once they feel those three things, they're going to be, you know, people make decisions based on emotion, and then back that decision up with logic. So if you can meet them where they're at letting you know and it's not Bs, you're not lying to them, but let them know that you care that that's why you're doing the service that you're doing. But know you care, let them know that and show them they can trust you by being authentic, and ask them questions and maybe share some information about yourself. And then obviously, it helps to know what you're talking about, like, you know, if you in our capacity, like if you are not passionate around your product, if you're the product that you have isn't a value, you believe it's a value, you know what, no matter what we teach you, it's not necessarily going to work. And if it did work, then we wouldn't really be the type people want to work with anyway because we don't want to sell I don't want to somebody wants to sell things that they don't believe 100%

Freddy Owen: and honestly when you see how sometimes sales are sometimes scripted I despise that, especially when somebody hits me with something and you know, it sounds scripted, right? It's frustrating. It's people would ask me like, how do you sell these jobs? And they're simple jobs, you know, you know, in the car industry but still, how do you do it? I'm just me. Yeah, you know, I show them what they need, you know, authenticity and just being real. That's fantastic. So, if you're listening to this authenticity, being yourself, and not being scripted is very important.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah. And obviously, as a man, if you're starting off in any capacity, there are aspects of a script that can help somebody who's new to sales. So it's not that you never want to have any ideas written down or that but you know, I'd recommend more than a bullet point right? And get used to the words that you want to utilize and or even just to have a process to go back to because you also want to be having a purse purposeful conversation, right? You want to know that you want to know ahead of time what the outcome is going to be. And you also want to prove to be an authority in the conversation. So you want to kind of control not in a negative way or an overbearing way. But if it is a sales conversation, you want to be able to be yourself and be authentic, but also know why you're there. And that also to be honest with you gets a positive response when people feel like they're being guided in some capacity. As long as it's not overwhelming and it's done with authenticity, you're able to move the call along and then hope that the outcome will be more of what you'd like it to be.

Freddy Owen: Now in sales, one of the hardest things for people is overcoming objections. Yeah, this is your sales course. Go over that.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, absolutely. Excellent, excellent.

Freddy Owen: So I really think all this stuff is going to be in the show notes. And I know a lot of people that I know personally, you know, Fitness Trainers that have been trying to get sales. They've been trying to allow online sales. I love automation, but I do believe that there has to be a certain aspect of personal touch. wouldn't win no matter what you do, you can't. Because they have to get to know and trust you. And if they don't do that they're not going to buy it from you. Unless you're lucky. It's and I think that your course will be fantastic for that kind of person, you know, whether you basically do any kind of sales. Am I correct? I know you talked about coaching, uh, you know, musicians?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, I mean, we focus on from a sales standpoint we focus on solopreneurs. But we also actually, that's not true because there are other people if you've recently started for a company that that has a wellness objective and is really there to kind of make the world a better place and maybe you're new to sales and that's why you started working in this company, but you're not great at it. We'd love to work with those people as well. But typically, like we want to do work with people who are service oriented in some propensity are altruistic and do want something in the grand scheme of things that does better life on Earth.

Freddy Owen: Now with coaching, oh, what kind? Because coaching, here's the thing, I've coached a lot of people when it comes to building your business online. You know, some strategies. What do you do? If you have someone that you give them a task or you tell them, this is what we need to do. And the next week you go, you know, you talk to them, and they haven't got any of that done. What do you tell them? How do you present that?

Ryan Stanley: So I heard you say, strategy. I don't know if it was an internet connection messed up. So I missed a little bit after the word strategy. And then I heard how you tell them?

Freddy Owen: So basically, you have and you have it to where you Okay, so let's say I give my students A, B and C. Okay. And next week, they come by and you said, Okay, so let's see those A's and C's, and B's and C's are done. Yeah. How do you address that?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah. And so I suppose that's a great question from a coaching standpoint. So it depends on the client. And it depends on how many times this has happened. So a lot of times when people are making great changes in their life, you know, the fact that you're going to a coach is a sign that you're ready for some change. But if you're the first week you kind of don't do it like that makes sense. Or especially even if you did a but not B and C, that's one thing. But if you're not doing a, b or c, like you know, we're going to address it we're going to kind of I'm going to acknowledge them and validate where they came from it and you know, it does make sense they didn't do it because this is all new to them. But it's also going to say something to me right off the bat if your first week and you haven't made any intentional changes. Now, the second week that happens like okay, it's, it's this is something we might spend some time really coaching them why they think they're not doing it. And if by the third week that's happening, even not all the way but a majority then it's like listen, maybe you need a coaching isn't right for you maybe you need something a little stronger, depending on what you're doing. It might be some sort of a therapy, right? You need to kind of go into why you are not functional? Why are you not taking effort, you're spending your money and your time with me to get this done? If you're not doing it. There's a challenge here, and they can feel that too. Right. So I've certainly worked with in fact, I had a client recently who is like her sixth sixth session in a row . He was just keeping time. He's gonna do stuff and keeps going with excuses or canceling sessions. And we just ended I just said, it just ended up not working out. So you do need to be willing to do the work. I think that that's the whole point of working with a coach. I mean, if you take old school coaching from a sports perspective, you're not showing up to practice, if you're not doing the exercise, if you're not making the task necessary to be the better athlete, your coach is gonna be like, Hey, listen, you're not on the team. Are you here? You're not here. So there's an opportunity for growth there.

Freddy Owen: And a lot of it's a mindset, because, like, you talked about the fear, fear of success, they, they have a hard time getting out of where they're at right now and into that realm. Yeah, a lot of it's fear. And it's crazy because fear of false evidence appearing real. It's just not there. You know, and I used to have, honestly, I had a fear of the camera, no fear of talking in front of people. And a lot of it was I was holding onto stuff from the past, of something that may have happened and really, it's that's holding me back. And it's silly because the futures right in front of you. Yeah. And it's sometimes hard for people to let it go. So sort of talking them down and saying, Listen, okay, you are better than you're giving yourself credit for. And not saying better as far as I'm the best, but your potential there, always utilize it.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah. And, you know, to your, to your point, it's like, someone if they're not, if it is like that first or second week, and they're there, they haven't done it. Like, we'll probably likely spend a lot of the session not necessarily talking about why did you do it? But really getting into your point, like the fears like Who are they? How are they showing up? What would they like to be different about that? So you know, you said you were going to do three things, you haven't done any of them? Why is that? Okay, we talked about that a little bit. So great. What would you like to be different about that? Well, I would like it to be done, obviously. Okay, cool. So why do you think you're not like, really when it comes down to it? And a lot of the times we'll come up with reasons that often blame other people, or different circumstances, but really, in the grand scheme of things, it's just about us not deciding who we want to be and not being willing to step out of our comfort zone to do something about it.

Freddy Owen: Absolutely love it. Love it. So with life coaching, is it like you have a weekly like life coaching group? Or is it like one on one?

Ryan Stanley: Both right. So my, my, the teach me to sell it is like a class, right? So it's a weekly thing you meet with us a couple times a week as a group, but for my coaching, it's one on one. I also do speaking engagements, I do some corporate things here and there. I've recently published this book, which has been, you know, getting some, I'm doing a lot of podcasts. And so there's opportunity for me to kind of speak about that, as well. So I really, it varies from week to week, and in a great way. That's one of the things that's kind of by design,

Freddy Owen: and all this information will be in the show notes, fam. Okay, so your book, you wrote a book, be patient, be present, be joyful, a first aid kit for the emotional bumps, scrapes and bruises of life. Yeah. Can you go a little deeper into that?

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, happily. So I as a coach, you know, over the years through my own personal growth or working with others, Recognize there some some basic things that I tend to cover often in my sessions and basic things in the sense that they're things that we can all do and really just not doing because of human nature and our past experiences. And as this growth was coming along, I, I also have read a lot of books, or listened to a lot of books on Audible anyway. And I'm not a great reader. I don't want to necessarily spend 300 pages like reading, I get to page 27. And I'm, you know, reading the same page over and over again, like my brain wanders and gets distracted. And so I was looking for a book that if you know, typically right now, there's some and this isn't to belittle any books saying they're not good, but they're back. They're great and they can be life changing, but they spend 200 pages telling you what they're going to tell you. And then they spend another hundred pages telling you what they're telling you and they spend a third hundred pages telling you what they told you, which is good because it helps your brain understand the concepts. But I was looking for something like Listen, man, I'm having a bad day so that I can give to my clients. If they're feeling stressed, they're feeling overwhelmed, and they just kind of want something to pick up and read through it in 25 minutes. To have some concrete actions that they can take to feel better about themselves in their life. And I'm not saying that there aren't those out there, but I wasn't finding one that really stood out to me. And so as a kind of a lifelong entrepreneur, somebody who likes to create things, I just thought it would make sense to create a first aid kit for people to have. And so the book was written with two purposes. The first one is that just as I mentioned, you can read straight through it in a short amount of time. And you can immediately take away some concepts that can serve you in the coming day, right immediately. And for the rest of your life if you practice them often. And I'll get into those in a second. But then the second thing is that you can at any point, if you're just having a stressful moment, even after you've read it or before, at any point, if you're just feeling you're having a tough day, you can literally pick it up and open up to any page and it was physically designed to where there's something going to be on that page that will pop out to you and stand out as something that could serve you in the moment. Whether it be a highlight, whether it be a quote from me, whether it be just different blurbs, there's also quotes from other people. There's all sorts of things on there, that point that would stand out to how this could serve you. So is in a sense, like first aid for an emotional or stressful moment. Love it. Go ahead.

Freddy Owen: So, now we're gonna you're gonna give this book away for free, and that'll all be in the show notes. So, it's gonna be the PDF version, but you guys don't want to as well as I do having a book in your hand, like an owner's manual, okay, it is the best thing in the world. So I'm gonna have that link on there as well because it's on Amazon, and it got raving reviews. So definitely you want to, you know, grab that book and keep it on your bookshelf or keep it next to you on your desk because it can really, really help me out.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, I really appreciate you saying that Friday. And I would say what's also cool about the physical one is it's it's intentionally physically small, like you could put it in your pocket, you could carry it in your glove box, you could put it in your, your purse, you can carry it with you wherever you go at any point, if you just need a quick open up and on the back, there's spots for notes. So if you want to take notes on something that stood out to you today and made you want to open this book, there's areas for that as well. Well a physical copy, you can get it on Amazon, you can get it on Barnes and Nobles, you can get it Ryan Stanley calm. If you're just you know, in in March when COVID really started to kick into gear and it recognized that people all over the world were suffering from all sorts of different stresses and overwhelmed physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, I did also give it away for free for people who weren't interested, especially people losing jobs or whatever, and spending more money but felt like they could use this. So you can get a PDF, it's certainly downloadable. And like you said, it'll be in the show notes. But click on there and you can download it but if you have the means I recommend personally just from that, like, as I would obviously it sounds like it's biased, but really, from a friend standpoint, I would say it's it's a cool thing to just be able to physically carry with you as well.

Freddy Owen: And like you said, COVID has brought out a lot of i don't i, it's hard to explain. I, as far as I would, want to say demons, but it's brought like a dark shadow over a lot of people and how they can react to things like this because honestly We're truly blessed in America in the country we live in. And to have something like this happen. It's put a lot of people in a really hard spot. Yeah. And they can't go anywhere. They're around their kids more often, which is good. But for them, it's not new, it's new. You know, they're not used to it because they're so used to saying their kids off to certain places. And it's really really been a tough situation for a lot of people. Have you had any like for you personally? Has it affected you at all?

Ryan Stanley: You know, to be honest with you, I'm under the belief from my small perspective, that this situation has made people more of what they already were. And so much like money if you're so for me, it has had a really a really positive effect on me, to be honest with you. As silly as it sounds. I've spent more time with my family. I've been working harder on my business. I don't have distractions like kids sports games and birthday parties and things like that, or even other social events on weekends, I'm able to really just focus on who I want to be every day. And it's really, every aspect of my life has grown exponentially. So I hate to be that guy. I don't hate to be that guy. I'm blessed to be that guy. And I'm excited that I'm intentionally being that guy. I know it's different compared to a lot of people's experience. But I think there's a lot of people who are also in a situation where they've been working extra hard, they have had more time, they've made the best of this situation, it's not making the best situation because at any given point, if we come down to it, life doesn't. And this is a weird thing to say, especially in this the circumstance, but life happens for us, and not to us. And when we start spending so much time thinking that life is happening to us and everything that's going on around us is really the result of our outcome, or causes us to be a certain way, then we're giving power to everything else, when really the power comes from within. And when we start recognizing that life is happening for us, even a global pandemic, and we decide if I wanted this to happen to me, I don't know why I would want this to happen to me, but if I did Why, what could that possibly be? And you get genuinely curious about that and you start taking action on that potential outcome. Start, things start to unfold and open up for you in ways you probably would never imagine.

Freddy Owen: Well, I know one thing as far as working from home, I love it. Yeah, I see people that are like, I don't know what to do. I can't do it. Okay, when I first started doing it, it was hard to get a routine set up. But yes, I actually love working from home and, and I completely love how you were straightforward to the point. It's true. It brought out who they really are at that point in time in their life. And yeah, the way you look at things perspective, perspective, everything's about perspective and, and what you have in front of you, and what you can do with that and not make excuses. not attend one of Ryan's life coaching sessions and not get the A, B and C done tonight. not grabbing the book, not taking advantage of, you know, simple ways that you can increase your sales by being more personable being yourself. And not just being a salesman, but being a person that wants to legitimately serve that other person. And I think that goes a long way along the way.

Ryan Stanley: Thanks, man. No, I mean, I always say I agree 100%. I say, you know, people like, Well, you know, what are some basic tips, right? It's like, Listen, here's the deal. And this is my honest belief. If you wake up, if you start today, anybody out there who's listening, if you want to change your life, you literally want to change your life. It takes dedication, I'm going to tell you that right now. It doesn't. It's not something that happens in a day, a week, a month, a year, sometimes a year, sometimes less, but I'm saying you need to have patience with yourself. That's why the first chapter of the book is Be patient. But make some time today to write down who you want to be and decide who you want to be. I'm not a fan of the Avett Brothers already. But there's a band called David brothers. I'm a big fan. They have a song and lyrics to decide who to be and go Be it right. So decide who you want to be, write it down, literally spend an hour today if that takes that long, but make time to write down who you want to be. Think about it. Because you are in that sense creating your life, you're creating a Northstar, you're creating a compass for yourself, you know who you want to be, you just haven't made the time to really think about it. Or you just thought of all the reasons why you can't be that and all the excuses on things outside of your brain that are keeping you from doing that. But disregard all those things. Write down who you want to be, then make some time to think about and be grateful for that outcome. What would it be like? How can I absolutely believe that that is a possibility and step into that. That's like an hour and a half. B is starting tomorrow. Wake up in the morning and read that out loud. I'd mentioned that I do it every day I do it. When I start my day I do it when I end my day. You're doing a couple different things. First of all, you're speaking into existence in some capacity. From a quantum physics level, you're making it a reality. Secondly, you're reminding your subconscious on a daily basis of who you want to be and when you have conversations that fall into your lap throughout the day or different opportunities for connection, you're going to be listening subconsciously, for other things that you might not have been before. Because now you're programming your brain to be on purpose and to be listening and to be on the path of who you want to be. So that's a and b. And then C is by doing all of that, reminding yourself to be the light you want to see in the world at the same time. Like, do it with love, do it with intention, do it with purpose, do it for the greatest good of all. And when we do that, we stop going, we stop coming from a place of competition, we're not competing to be the best human or better than any other person. We're just creating to be the best version of ourselves and help others to do the same. I mean, the whole world can grow and you can have a global impact in that way.

Ryan Stanley: A, B, and C.

Ryan Stanley: There you go. Now, taking it all back for next week.

Freddy Owen: No, no, it's so simple. Yeah. And I found that realm where I had a hard time with it, but it is so simple. I'm actually gathering Some great golden nuggets right now of what you're saying that I'm going to implement into my own life. Love it. And it's fantastic. That's why I'm not a life coach. And you are, that's why you have this certification. That's why you're the best at what you do. So I love it, love it. So I'm gonna have all this stuff in the show notes, everything, any way possible to get a hold of Ryan. And make sure you go to the show notes and you take action with it, get the book, grab the book, put the book, you know, in your pocket, put it in your dash of the car, wherever you're at the most. Do that. And if you start feeling down, look at the book and realize that it's really not that bad. You know?

Ryan Stanley: And but real quick, I will say you're right, and in most cases, it's your absolute. It's not that bad. And that's not to belittle anybody's experience because there are some seriously traumatic experiences that happen to people all the time all over the world, right. Life is a crazy adventure. And so I certainly don't want to take away from anybody's experience. And just say, hey, it's all rainbows and unicorns. Don't worry, just be happy. Don't worry, be happy. I am saying that there's something that you can do about it intentionally. I am saying that the prologue of the book talks about the fact that we are all creators. At any given point, we are creating something. You and I right now are creating two men recording a podcast. If I wake up in the morning and I decide to put on blue socks, blue pants, blue shirt, blue hat, I'm literally creating a man dressed in blue. If you get out some bread, and you throw in some mayo, some bacon, some lettuce and tomato, you're creating a bacon lettuce tomato sandwich. I know that sounds ridiculous, but I just want to prove the point. With that we are always creating even if you're sleeping, you are creating a person who is sleeping. And when we laugh, we create laughter when we are sad, we create sadness. When we anger when we're angry, we create anger, frustration, stress, these are all things that we are actually creating, often based on things that are happening around us. And so when you start to recognize that I'm creating in any given moment, and you ask yourself powerful questions like who do I want to create right now instead, and you ask it with authenticity, instead of being What else is happening? Yeah, but you're saying, Who do I want to create right now? How can I create a person who's patient? How can I create a person who is present? How can I create joy in a moment that doesn't feel like it is ending. And that's what this book is about really kind of steps into, and then the epilogue. So let's say there's four, five chapters, prologue, your Creator, chapter one, be patient, chapter two, be present, chapter three, be joyful. And then the epilogue keeps going. On your worst day. And on your best day. If you use those two words, you will step into your greatness every day and grow to be more of who you want to be.

Freddy Owen: That usually happens at the end of the show where I say, can you leave us all with something that's strong, but that's right there is it? That's right. So we're going to go right into the super hyper fast q&a round because already that was fantastic. So here we go. Four minutes before, okay, no sound right. There's a movie for what movie did you see that you were disappointed in? But everyone loved it?

Ryan Stanley: What movie did I see that I was disappointed in that everybody loves? Oh man, I really want to have a great answer. And nothing's coming to mind. Let me just coat it whether people loved it or not. movie that I was disappointed in.

Ryan Stanley: Can I pass? Can I come back to

Freddy Owen: that in a minute? Thanks. So do you sing in the shower?

Ryan Stanley:  I am not frequently but I'm not opposed to it.

Freddy Owen: And if you were to sing a song would it be

Ryan Stanley:  If I were to say so, typically I listen to a lot of music when I'm in the shower, so I'm listening. So this we're not saying so whatever's playing, but I would say it would probably be something by The Beatles or Phish.

Freddy Owen: Okay. Okay, like the Beatles and Phish. That's a second time someone's brought up Phish. In the first six episodes of the podcast. It's a sign. It's a sign I gotta listen to Phish. I love Pearl Jam, though, but yes, I will listen to Phish. Oh,

Ryan Stanley:  Go ahead. I don't wanna cut your cut your speed off when speed

Freddy Owen: round. No, no, no, you're

Ryan Stanley:  like, go see Phish finally. Find them on YouTube and go spend some time with them.

Freddy Owen: So doing live shows well not right now, obviously. But

Ryan Stanley:  up until now Yes, they in fact, they have a thing here's a little plug for Phish every Tuesday night, they do a thing called dinner and a movie that started once COVID kicked into gear. And it is they who do a live show from the past on YouTube and their Facebook page. And so you can watch a whole concert. And then they also send out some they have some dinner recommendations so that they give it a recipe and everybody makes the same dinner. They have a song called dinner in a movie. So they do this thing every Tuesday night dinner and movie. And then people also whatever shows playing that they have an opportunity for you to donate to a certain fund a certain charity.

Freddy Owen: They have a cult following. If I'm not mistaken.

Ryan Stanley:  They do that. That's a perspective. I'm a member of that cult following. But yeah, I mean, I've seen them over 100 times. They are definitely Wow.

Freddy Owen: Wow. That's awesome.

Ryan Stanley:  You are a big fan. I am a super Phish nerd. Happy proud.

Freddy Owen: Okay, what's your favorite emoji?

Ryan Stanley:  My favorite emoji is Got him a loser on the actual models? I don't use movies that often so I guess a smiley face that's a lame answer but that's how I feel about it.

Freddy Owen: Hey, smiley faces are good. You're happy. It's a favorite, favorite episode of Seinfeld.

Ryan Stanley:  He can't go wrong with the contest. Obviously. I'll say the contest.

Freddy Owen: The contest is a great one. Okay, so Jerry, Elaine, George or Kramer. Who would you want to have as your next door neighbor and why?

Ryan Stanley:  I would say probably Elaine because she feels like the slice I feel. I feel like I would want her to be my lane right when you look at the relationship and like just this cool chick that you can kind of hang out with but also mock and be mocked by like a best friend type of thing. Like a chick. That's a buddy like that. So I would pick a lane.

Freddy Owen: You know, what's crazy is I pick Kramer. I don't know why, because he would take all my food, but like, my son was watching Seinfeld with me. And he goes, Dad, you know, I just realized something. These people really aren't good people. Like You know what? You're right there.

Ryan Stanley:  When it comes down to it,

Freddy Owen: they're really not good people right? serenity now. Okay, what movie did you see that you're disappointed in but everyone loved if you can come back to that one I'll come

Ryan Stanley: back to that one and I will say

Ryan Stanley: I'm sad I don't know why but I'm drawing a blank. I'll go with the most recent Spider Man movie. How's that? I did not see it my son says love that so there you go. I did get good reviews. Which really doesn't matter. But in a lot of cases. I would say Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome is mine. Yeah. I don't know why. I just couldn't get into it. The challenges part of the reason but

Freddy Owen: yes, that's a good answer.

Ryan Stanley: Yeah, it's because I don't watch a ton of movies. I don't watch a ton of TV. I really haven't in a long time. And this is definitely all about me. I am just a little. I get a little. I get bored really easily with television. And movies like I just for some reason, I just can't stay present. I so I find myself being disappointed often it's not

Freddy Owen: as if it had it. But the thing is I'm the same way it has to grab me. Yeah, if it doesn't grab me that I don't watch a lot of TV. I spend a lot of time trying to create stuff. Yeah, but when it comes time to sit down with the wife, we love certain shows and like, it's crazy, buy Lego masters I thought I thought it was gonna be a joke. But it was so much fun to watch.

Ryan Stanley: I heard that was good. That show I love the watch. I'm a Sunday night HBO guy. They typically do something great on Sunday nights, obviously the Game of Thrones thing and I love Kirby enthusiasm speaking of Seinfeld, and so there's stuff like that, that I'll certainly sit down and watch like once a week. But you know, I'm going to think about this. This answer I'm going to retract my Spider Man episode because that was really me just trying to throw something on the table. And I will message you and we will put it in the show notes to later show up as what the movie is that I was disappointed in that event. So that's a teaser, guys.

Freddy Owen: There are no show notes. Read the show notes. Man, you're a rock star Ryan, I truly appreciate it just so you guys know, this is the first time I've ever talked to Ryan. And it's been a

Ryan Stanley: Had a blast

Freddy Owen: it's been a fantastic experience. Thank you so much, Ryan for being on the radio show. You are a rock star. And you guys take advantage of what he has to offer. Look at the show notes. And once again, thank you so much. Appreciate it, buddy. Thanks for being you. A huge thank you to today's guests. Ryan Stanley had a blast as always, he's a class act. Also thank you to you as well for tuning into today's episode of the Friday Oh show it is much appreciated. Also, you want to make sure to go head over to win with fred.com to check out the show notes, grab all that Ryan has to offer. It'll be well worth your time to do that. And that's it for episode number seven. This is Freddy Owen. Until next time, stay vigilant. Keep moving forward and stay hungry.

Henry gold wants you to live a limitless life

The Freddy “O” Show Episode #6: Henry Gold Wants to help you live a limitless life!

About Henry Gold

Henry Gold is founder and the host of Limitless Life Podcast where he interviews regular folks on what they do to live an extraordinary life. Many of Henry’s guests were once broke, worked in a 9-5 Just Over Broke (JOB) raised in a broken family, have had disabilities, bullied, and told they were no good. — Yet, they achieved what most people called impossible in life. 

After Henry went through many life crises, including dealing with a narcissist father, broken relationship, as well as diagnosed with a brain tumor the size of the golf ball, He made it his mission to show others how to live an extraordinary life regardless of their current circumstances.

His goal is to inspire you through his actions. He will also want to guide you to find your purpose in life, and show you how to live your life without fear, hesitation, and self-doubt.

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Episode #6 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen: Today on the show, a man who loves snow Yeah, he loves snow. Henry gold. He wants to help you live a limitless life. His story is awesome. Are you ready for episode number six? I am fam. Last Joe.

My Beautiful Wife: Thank you for listening to the Freddy “O” Show, a podcast devoted to you the listener your purpose, your mindset and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now here's your host,Freddy O

Freddy Owen: Boom! Welcome to episode number six of the radio show. Thank you so much for tuning in today. It's always a pleasure to have you aboard and I mean that from the bottom of my heart. Thank you so much. A friendly reminder, you can access all podcast show notes from today's episode at win with Fred calm. Also, The Freddy “O” Show is available on these other fine apps, Apple podcast, Spotify, Google podcasts Stitcher, I Heart Radio, Podcast Addict, Pod Chaser, Deezer, Overcast Pocket Cast, Castro and Cast Box. I truly appreciate your support. It means the world to me. Thank you so much. Today's guest I've known since 2015. And if you're in New York City, and you see someone shoveling snow in your driveway, there's a good chance it's the one and only Henry gold. This man loves snow. He has been extremely successful in the online space. And has overcome so much adversity, serious adversity in his life during that period. His story is truly remarkable. And you're about to hear it. I am super pumped. introduce my friend who loves to snow. Yes, he loves the snow Henry gold. What's up, my friend. Thanks for being on the radio show.

Henry Gold: Well, thank you so much for inviting me. I appreciate that. You give me the time to talk with your audience.

Freddy Owen: I'm actually very excited about this because I met Henry back. I think it's in 2015. I think it was at an event if I'm not mistaken. And it was a blast. And then he told me how He loves snow. And I was like, Oh my gosh, he's crazy. 

Freddy Owen: Let’s Welcome Henry Gold, Who was Henry gold?

Henry Gold: Well, I'm a serial entrepreneur. I've been doing this since 1999. And for if you if you want to give a if you want me to give a brief description, or you want me to give a long description,

Freddy Owen: I want you to give whatever description I want people to know. It's gonna be in the show notes no matter what, but I want people to know who Henry gold is. And just lay it on the table. What does Henry gold do? What's he all about?

Henry Gold: Okay, well, there are two versions of Henry gold in here. The first version of Henry gold is someone who was naive as someone who wanted to prove to other people that he is a successful guy. And the other version is someone that makes a realization that His time is limited. He wanted to share with people that you know what he can do to live a limitless life. So if I were to explain from the beginning that someone who is naive is I was that guy that back in 1997, I wanted to start my own business, because I saw a news article in a magazine. He said that the co-founder of yahoo.com, which is 27, and 28 years old, make roughly about $600 million each. I was just thinking that he was just yahoo.com. I mean, it didn't make any sense that he can, he could make that much money. So for me at a time is if somebody like them can do it, I could do it too. So back to back in 1999, I started my own business. It wasn't as successful as I wanted it to be. And I actually quit my corporate job because I wanted to do it full time. I was so eager, so hungry. And I wanted to make this happen. I want this to happen to me for me. So in 2001, I quit my job and decided to work in a 711 convenience store, which is kind of like people thinking, are you crazy? Are you not for doing that? That's exactly what I did. And I work from 11pm at night until 7am in the morning, and then work on my business from 9am in the morning until 10pm at night for two years, so I was sleeping roughly about three hours a day. I was lucky that I was able to bring free coffee inside the 711 convenience to stay awake.

Freddy Owen: So 7-11, I love 7-11  

Henry Gold: And then I made a breakthrough. That breakthrough itself was in October 31 2003, which I did over $10,000 in 30 days. I thought that that was like, awesome for the first time and then when I did a second one Launch itself I did over $50,000 in 30 days. That was back in April 2004. And then and then after that, I heard a lot of people say that you need to have a big list. And I for me, and that guy that didn't know what a list was for, I just knew that I was able to create a product and have a whole bunch of people promote my products and make money from it. Since people said that you need to have a big list, I decided to come up with a campaign. That campaign itself gave me roughly about 25,000 subscribers in 14 days, which allowed my partner to do pretty much a move from a small, small house, a small place in the basement and into the seventh floor in Alberta Canada. And then immediately after that people said that you need to daddy's 25,000 subscribers. I don't think you can break another record a one year later, we did about 56,000 subscribers in 30 days. And of course that is something that I always thought, you know, did many, many times over that in the internet marketing industry, self improvement industry and so on. And I became a hungry learner in a way that I wanted to learn about the high ticket program. I want to learn about affiliate marketing, list building, joint venture marketing, and a whole bunch of different different techniques on how to do life events and all this stuff and all those things. So that is the younger Henry goal.

Freddy Owen: So real quick, is that the naive Henry gold

Henry Gold: Is that naive and regal. Yes, exactly.

Freddy Owen: Okay, so the naive Henry gold had a big subscriber list and was making good money at that point in time. And that's the naive Henry gold Now, I know you have an incredible story. So I'll let you roll into that. But is this is the non naive Henry Gold, the other Henry gold after the story

Henry Gold: I will say that a wiser pipe instead of ego driven is more like thinking but what am I going to do with my life? Okay, that was the point of thinking about, you know, what am I going to do with my life in this case because I knew a lot of things, but the thing is that I felt like there was no reason to know so I knew so many things. So that was back in 2014 that's that was when I met my grandfather and all this stuff and everything in New York. I know that in a Western culture they said that when you talk about godfather meaning that somebody that sees you growing up but for me godfather means that you know I he pretty much is a role model for me. As somebody that I respect a lot and learn a lot. The first time I met him. I didn't like my godfather at all, because he's calling. Let me all the time he says you need to man up and all this stuff and everything. That's the way he coached me in life. And when I met him at a time, my life turned to the 2016 degree differently in a way that I became more humble. Because when I first went when I met him, he was like you know, I was shuffling this I was doing the snow shoveling and all this stuff anyway, I couldn't do it. And so like he's like, Hey, come on, young man. You should do better than this. You are not, you know, like 50 years old. He was 65 years old. And then he was able to do it in a heartbeat for like hours and hours and hours with us. And yet I was there doing it for two hours and I was complaining like oh, you know, this sucks that is no good. This is like this like that, that like that. Then kind of

Freddy Owen: Well, shoveling snow does sucking away but I get your jest. Yeah,

Henry Gold: yeah. But the thing is that for him, he said that you know, you got them. up, you got to, you got to understand what you need to do the rest of your life, if you have no clue what you're doing, then you're not leaving at all. So in 2014 to 2017, I met a lot of incredible people, including you, you know, I travel and then I, when whenever I could, I just simply go to my godfather space, which is I drove from Boston to New York all the time, like a which is about four hours, each three. So on Saturday morning, I would drive to New York and now we'll come back on Sunday night time, and then Monday I will start working on my business and all this stuff and everything my business starts to explode because of my behavior characteristic and so on. And then after that is a transition to the non naive version of Henry and at a time 2017 something hit me which is I got a brain tumor and all this stuff and everything. So the one then during the surgery itself, enough October 17 2017. And after the surgery, what happened is, you know, I was in the ICU room. There was a lady across from me. She told me this one profane word, and she was crying. She was a girl like this all the time I saw like, I was like, half awake, half not awake, because they put it in at Anastasia in my body. Okay, and I said, like, why are you crying? That's what I told her. I mean, she said, I was like, no, it's kind of even. And then why are you crying? So like a ninja like, oh, because I'm dying. So she told me I was dying. He just thought of leaving him on. I just remembered mimicry, because I just, I was acting like, how come I was so rude, I know. And then after that, she said that I'm not I wasn't scared about dying. I'll just regret things that I didn't do when I was still alive. So she told me, and it was a moment in service that I had to get off from this ICU bedroom. This is not where I belong right now. I'm too early for this. So within three days, three and a half days, I just get out from the ICU that gets off from the hospital being discharged and so on. And when I get home, I have two batteries for six months. And during the better, better batteries itself. The one thing that I never mentioned or probably your audience do not know about it is my younger sister passed away. The reason she passed away was not because C was not capable, because he passed away because of the broken soul. We came from a narcissistic family in a way that you know, the word loser, Doc animals are very, very heavily being told to us as a child. As the children and what happened is my younger sister, she passed away because she just couldn't stand it anymore. Secretly understanding psychological abuse in many ways and editing moments itself is like saying that you know what if I keep being in a darkness all the time like leaving a limitless life by myself just for myself, it means that I'm being selfish. So I decided that you know, after my younger sister passed away in February 2018 I told myself that you know what, it's time for me to share with people. What is limitless life is all about is to help people to make sure that everybody will be able to guide themselves, even if their life at that moment itself is no good and so on. They will be able to understand being inspired by what I do, and what happened to me and how I overcame it. regardless what happened in their life that is a new version of Henrico

Freddy Owen: So a Henry Gold that gives, A Henry Gold that inspires, A Henry Gold that has more wisdom and you're driven not by the subscriber base or the money but you're driven by because here's the thing I believe that no matter what, whatever you do, if you do it good and you're the best of your ability, the money will come. Yes. But you're driven by a difference by trying to help people live their limitless life yeah. And it's not a secret pill you take it's obviously you know, he ever seen that movie limitless I think it was limitless yes last secret pill you take it's a daily is it more so a daily like recollection of looking at what you have and and spreading Your wings farther as you get older or what is exactly as you dive a little deeper into the limitless life?

Henry Gold: Well, let me let me let me say this, everybody inside our body, there's a two core existing energy. One is the yen, and the other one is a Yang. And Yin is what is referred to as Mr. demon. The yen is what I refer to as the universe or the light. So every day if we are not careful, Mr. Demon will always be Yin, and will always try to preoccupy our mind, body and soul every single day. And then, Mr. White is someone that Mr. Intuition is someone that doesn't really care whether you follow the light or not basically in a way that If you follow the light, you are going to get to where you want to be, which is you're going to live a life of fulfilling ball and fearless and limitless. And Mr. Demon will always try to make sure that your only destination in your life is you're going to be feeling lonely despair, and in darkness there is a purpose of those to the purpose of the Yin energy. So if you focus on the Yang energy, always say that you know what, this is what you need to do. But it's not going to say things that hey, you have to do it for your family and all this stuff anything nothing. It's just like pretty much that this is what you need to do, you want to do it, you do it if you don't want to do it, I don't care. But Mr. Demon is the one that uses those manipulative techniques, whether it's through people, to internal forces, external forces, they're going to use every single ways To manipulate you to destroy you until the end.

Freddy Owen: So, like for instance, fear,

Henry Gold: well, fear, worry, fear, worry and everything, a lot of things. So when people look at me, they feel like how come I don't have any fear? The reality is because when you are always close to the Yang energy, which is the light, there's no so called fear anymore. There's no so-called fear anymore. There's less why in the limitless level itself if I saw someone, for example, some some just some stranger's, as soon as I speak with this person, I could immediately tell if this person is level one, level four, or level 10 in terms of the limitless level itself. If this person is only level four, in terms of the limitless, this person cannot you cannot change this person anymore. It's just pretty much you're gonna wish your time because this person is already fixated in terms of the rest of his life, or the rest of the life, or her life, the part that he or she is going to take in the future. But when this person is level five, to level six, it means that this person, if you give this person guidance, there's a chance that this person is going to move toward that light and move toward a different route. Now, when I talk about light, this is not just like, Oh, you know what, I'm going to be motivated today to do something. Now you everything's gonna start to change your physiology gonna start to change. I used to be 236 pounds now I'm 173 pounds. And then and than I used to be, you know, didn't take care of my health. Now I'm more conscious of how conscious I used to be like, you know, doing things that half half assed, basically this what they call it, but right now, whatever I do I have to get it done as soon as possible.

Freddy Owen: The best of your ability?

Henry Gold: Yes. Like, if there's a task like for example a couple days ago, because Yeah, because yesterday, you know, yesterday was my wife's birthday. And then the day before the partner said that hey, listen, we got to work on this program itself, which is going to promote a $10,000 program. And what happened is, that slide alone is going to be roughly about 180 page 180 slides. Okay, I will get it done. Because I will get it done on Monday to make sure that I will spend it, I will be able to give 100% of my attention to my wife on Tuesday. Okay, okay, so a lot of people would just delay that bill. That process, you know what, screw it, and it's not gonna work and all this stuff and everything. And then guess what happened next is, you know, the wife was not happy, and then the clients were not happy. And then everybody, then the partners will not be happy and all this stuff, a lot of people will delay the process just because they have this tendency of saying that, you know, what, if God willing, we're going to be successful, but for me, when when I do things, my words mean, my executive orders. My words mean everything.

Freddy Owen: So you're gonna make it happen.

Henry Gold: Yes. regardless what happened is not going to be, there'll be no delay, there will be no. So called, like, you know, I'm going to do it tomorrow and all this stuff and everything because I've seen it many times, right. And then some people are like, I'm gonna write a book and all this stuff and everything. And guess what happened? One year later, the book is not being written. Two years later, it's not done 10 years later, I said, so What are you up to? Oh, yeah, I'm gonna work on the book. I said, like you talk about, is that the same book that you talked about 10 years ago?

Henry Gold: It happens all the time.

Freddy Owen: Oh, no, and I'm not gonna lie to you. I've been there before. Yeah, I've been there. And what happens is, I got to the point where I don't want to be, like you said, sitting in a hospital set, you know, setting and I'm saying if I had known then what I know now, why didn't I do this? You know, you're living with regret. Yeah. And I think a lot of times people let them make the excuse of letting the world take over or like you said outer things. The yen right? is yen bad or yen? angelite. Yen is a demon. Yeah, so the demon holds them down. But honestly, they're letting that happen. Yes. And that's with life in general. I don't care if you're working at a 711 or if you Yahoo. I don't know how Yahoo's doing anymore Yahoooooooo, But the point being is, I think that we all have these kinds of issues at one point in time of our life. Like you had the naive Henry gold, who realized it and had his godfather, who honestly, my godfather was my dad. My dad was the same way he was like he was hard on me. He instilled a work ethic in me and when I didn't do it, he let me know about it. And he wasn't shy of doing that. So that's, that's great and I guess it's more so having belief in not everything nor would you call it beforehand you called it ego, not an ego. But having self belief

Henry Gold: is beyond self belief. Let me explain this to you. Okay. You know, about a couple years ago, a friend of mine asked me to speak on His stage. his workshop is called I believe he called millionaire millionaire workshop or something like that in New York. Okay. And he said that Harry, can you speak at this workshop and see how many people I mean, you can sell anything you want. I said, Sure. And then there was like, about 12 people over there. And then like, he said, like, you know what, I'm kind of worried. I'm going to waste your time and all this stuff and everything. But do you think how many people can use Sal? I said, there were only 12 people. That's not that much room anyway. Right. But for me, I have this attitude characteristic that I said, I don't know. That's what I told him. I said, I do not know. All I know is I can only do my best.

Henry Gold: That's all I know. So when I got there, I didn't have any expectations. I was just being friendly with everyone. And then during my presentation, it was just less than full The minutes, not even one, one and a half hours, I was closing 11 out of 12, which is 95% of the people that were in that workshop. And they were shocked. And the host was shocked, like, how did you do that? What did you do differently? I said, I don't know. I just focus on what I need to do to maximize the value for your clients. For the people that attend this workshop, and then that's all I did. Do I have any extra expectations? People gonna sign up for it as an ID? I say? I don't think so. And the other person like immediately only talking with me for like 10 minutes, like 10 minutes I give them like a free consultation. 10 minutes handing me $10,000 Jessica, how did you work? The reason why it works again, I use the method of going with the flow. Now we are Most people that I know, they have these expectations. They have this expectation expectation mentality. For me. I don't have any expectation mentality. That's what I coach, my clients on. I say, like, do not have any expectation whatsoever. Now, one client recently, $16,000, just like that, how do you do it? The reason he's doing it, he just says, I just focus on doing it first. I just don't care whether I'm gonna make the money or not. I just focus on doing it based on what you just taught me.

Freddy Owen: And I like how you said that because I think it's in a way you're not setting yourself up for failure. You're going in there to say I'm going into my job but also goes back to this before I got on the air and actually started recording. I was talking to Henry. And when I first met him, one thing that really glowed about his personality was his authenticity and the fact that he is just very real, and he doesn't put up a facade in my opinion. And I think a lot of people would probably agree with that. You're just you're authentic. And that's,that's huge. 

Henry Gold: Thank you.

Freddy Owen: I love that because you're not sitting like this, you know, I've seen it and you know, you know, Bobby and James and you know, back in the day we would be setting up for like an event and then we're gonna have 300 people on. Yeah. And maybe 10 people show up and the frustration would show. But like you said, you delivered and you sold 11 out of 12. Yep. So you would even set up that expectation. So you weren't even discouraged. You just did what you had to do, and it paid off. I love that.

Henry Gold: Because when you don't have any expectations, expressing expectations creates pain.

Henry Gold: That is the number one key expectation is ourselves. It associates yourself with Mr. demon. Mr. Demon always wants you to have an expectation, an anticipation. But Mr. Light doesn't care about your expectations. He said that basically the way the universe works like this, you do your best. I'm going to deliver what you deserve based on my own timing, not based on your own timing. Not based like, oh, Fred doing a good job. Now, let me give you this. No, it's not gonna work that way. It's based on the timing. Now, man, share with your audience a little bit about some of the secrets that I use in my dating life.

Freddy Owen: Absolutely. Okay.

Henry Gold: About a couple years. Now, a couple of years. I don't remember the exact timing anymore. But I was single for two years. I was single for two years. When I was single for two years, my axe left me because I almost became blind. I was 90-90% blind on the left side of my eyes and 50% blind on the right side of my eye. So a friend probably at a time when I met you, if I didn't see you seeing me, that was normal, because I wasn't able to see or I didn't have the visual on the side.

Freddy Owen: That was for the tumor, correct?

Henry Gold: Yeah, there was before that. I knew it was a tumor. It was back in 2015 2000. Okay, exactly. 2015 and the thing is that at a time was like, you know, see left me short after that. And when she left me She said she was basically psycho. You will never find any ghosts anymore. That's what she thought. She told me. And after that, I didn't say a word. I just wrote down the description of the girls that I want to date. Like almost five pages long. And if I meet this girl, I'm going to marry this girl regardless of what happened. That's why I wrote and I and then all of a sudden the universe sent me a whole bunch of dates, all bunch of girls. Like there's one girl there stalking me on facebook like crazy me asking me about my relationship back in 2003. So like, How the hell do I know? I mean, I mean, what do I know about this person, that person I have no clue at all. And then there's another girl that you know, just one me for money, money stuff in all this stuff and I immediately send them back home. And then every time that after the date itself, I will go home and I will look into the description. Does this go is something that I want to change, or I don't want to change at all. And sure enough, like I said, Oh I I wish that this is going to be like this, but this cul de sac in terms of the look and physical appearance is cool is like 10. But I wish that I can change this, I wish I can change this, I wish I can change this, I wish I can change this. For two years, I was single. And then I just told myself, you know, what, maybe this stuff that, you know, expectation, giving this description to the universe doesn't work. I almost want to give up on relationships. And then boom, all of a sudden that I got into a, you know, a date with a girl. And then when I went back, I said, Wait a minute, what is going on here? Why see all the five pages description that I have on my papers, match everything, match everything. And then I tested her on the second date. I said, Oh, no, no, this is it. This is what I was looking for. Six months later, like not even six months, I think five months later. I asked her to marry me. And after that in two months after that, we got registered Just like that, and then that is like because the universe is gonna tell you like, okay, you want a girlfriend? No problem. Here you go, we're gonna throw you a whole bunch of girls coming your way. But not the one that you described first, because they want to make sure. Do you mean what you said? Are you men? What use do you mean? Do you really want the thing that you are looking for? Or you're just wanting something?

Freddy Owen: They want to make sure that you're legit. Yeah, exactly.

Henry Gold: So in a way is if people want to become successful and all this stuff and everything like the first time when we deal with these things, they are not successful yet. Guess what happened. Most of the people, they give up, they slow down. But with me, I said, I want this stuff. This is my stuff. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to do whatever it takes, until I become the best

Freddy Owen: I want to go back to what you said about risk taking about that of what people think. And when you said the four, they were given a four or five or six, I think, right? Yes. So the four is, and this is when I first started doing it, I started coaching, I realized that I would be like, frustrated because people weren't succeeding, but a lot of it. I actually took a step back, and I realized that because they were lazy, they gave up. They don't care. Yeah, and you can't do a forum. So is that what you meant by four or five and six? Like, there's some people who can't help.

Henry Gold: I will mention this to you. There are two types of people. Some of the people on the limitless level number four, they are beyond help. Beyond help, meaning that you should just leave them alone. That's exactly what I'm trying to say. I personally always say With my coaching clients and all this stuff and everything I just for me as I as I mentioned to you before I'm the new Henry is different from the old Henry dont Henry is that you know if there's a people want to pay me investing their own education through me and I just take it but right now I'm very selective if they don't meet a certain standard I'll just say you know what, forget it. I don't want you. That is my point. Yes, I'm very blunt. And sometimes I stole it and my clients which is kind of weird like wait a minute somebody pays you for money in your school Adam? Yes, I do. That's why that's why I'm being called like a tough cookie in here because you know, some people say that How come you schooling, schooling and my clients and schooling and my, my mom or my, my, my, my dad or my daughter or my son, because I said that what I came most is not so much about whether he liked me or not. What I came most is whether he was surprised He's going to become successful or not. Because he says yes, because if that person is not successful, I will rather own this person than having him in my inner circle or even call him that he's my student.

Henry Gold: That is how I am.

Freddy Owen: And that's very good. I've had to, you know, have had the same kind of conversation. When you say scolding it, basically I call it like, tell like it is. Listen, we talked about this last week, you didn't do it. So what's the deal? There's gotta be a disconnect somewhere. I know it's not on my end. So what's going on? You know, and that's I. I respect that it's like your godfather. He told you bluntly. As a wake up and listen, you know your Be a man. Yeah, you know, shovel more snow. Because you love snow. And that's crazy. This kid is crazy, but I can't stand And guys Henry does not like summer. And so you don't like summer at all.

Henry Gold: No, no heat 

Henry Gold: i love snow to the point where I used to live in Boston. I would just say hey, do you mind if I shuffle your parking space? How much do you need? So like come on, why are you talking about money now? I just want to make sure that I shuffle your parking space so that I can enjoy some snow. You know because I love snow like if a snowstorm is happening like seven inches 12 inches or desperate, that's awesome. I will just shuffle like the whole parking lot for free for like eight hours 10 hours in a day. That's what I love to do. Because I love snow so much. I do not know where I used to be in my past life and all this stuff and everything but that's who I am.

Freddy Owen: That's an anomaly. I think because you know Bob travels to Florida. Every wintertime because he can't stand snow. But you know what? I think it's great. You've always loved snow. And if I ever have a parking spot and you live in New York still right?

Henry Gold: Yeah, I still live in New York. Yes.

Freddy Owen: Yes. So yeah, you like it if you love snow. So, okay. Now, at the point in time when you switched gears as far as who Henry gold was, did you like to view the industry differently?

Henry Gold: I view in one way.

Freddy Owen: Well, you know how the industry has and has changed since I've been doing it. It's always changed and it's always changing. But do you? Do you view it differently as far as how you do business altogether?

Henry Gold: I don't want to say the industry is a view viewing thing differently. But the way I do things is more like human nature. Never change and always remain the same. So, a lot of industry itself, sometimes I could predict what is going on in the industry, not because the industry is bad or is good. It's just like humans because of human nature itself. It makes one industry collapse. The other industry writes, so is always to the point of yin and yang as well. So I wonder if let's just say there's one industry starting to rise, okay, everybody going to start to jump into that bandwagon. That is a very normal stage. But when the industry is about to collapse going under everybody who is going to start to, you know, jump out from a boat. Now the thing when I look at business is during the good time, I always remain the same, which is I'm always remaining limitless meaning I do What I make every day successful during the bedtime in the industry, I remain the same I make every day successful. So a lot of time when people say that the pandemic affects your business? Not at all. The reason why is because my principal never changes, the quality of my clients remain solid. Like, for example, if you pay attention very closely during a good time, everybody wants to jump into a certain industry. So there'll be more money in that industry during the bad time. The company that focuses on quality will be the one that is going to be going to have a recession proof business. The one that the company that jumped because everybody jumped into the industry itself is the one that's going to suffer dearly, in which the business collapses have to file bankruptcy or are gonna move on to the next industry.

Freddy Owen: So basically, You're a you're a you're a wolf you're not a sheep. You aren't just a leader.

Henry Gold: Ship duck

Freddy Owen: Here's a doozy What do you think that I'm one reason people fail to achieve the limitless life?

Henry Gold: I wrote that on my Facebook. Some people. In my recent article I said that there's a difference between smart and wise, smart people. They want to prove to other people how good they are. They have to prove to everybody how good they are. Okay, wise people are, they don't have to prove to other people. They just have to prove it to themselves how good they are. I love that when in the past the naive Henri was to prove it to everybody, you know that I'm the best one. So right now what I do is if this person, one of my clients, told me a few months ago, he said like he was being bullied by some people. And then like, he said, like, Oh, you know, if I don't bully back and Mr. Deputy, I'm gonna lose my reputation and all this stuff. So like, Listen, based on my 20 something years experience, those people are gonna look cool for a very short period of time. But for customers, they don't care who is being bullied, who is not being bullied. They only care about the value that you are going to share with them. If you focus on the value alone, then that's, that's good enough. But he said like, what about this guy? This guy is bullying me all the time because he's a smart ass. You're not, you're a wise person.

Freddy Owen: Well, and so the other thing too, is I think a lot of people spend so much time looking at what other people are doing and saying that they don't work on themselves and what they're trying to grow? Yeah, which it's a huge, it's counterproductive, it's a waste of time. So I completely agree with that that I don't get somebody bullies me so be it I just I keep on doing what I do you know and then I'm gonna go shovel some snow not really

Henry Gold: I'm still waiting for you on that one.

Freddy Owen: Oh gosh every time I oh I hurt my back but I will do it that's an excuse don't tell photo a godfather that I said that he'll shape so in your so you've been doing this since 2001

Henry Gold: 1999 

Freddy Owen: Wow, Did you at any point because do you have any point ever feel I couldn't like throwing in the towel,like this too much.

Henry Gold: No, no, not in a way. No, never.

Henry Gold: The reason I'm saying that is because one thing when 1999 I was young, I was very young. Young means that if you're young, if you guys listen to this podcast, he is two very young, you're probably less than 30 years old. It means that you are going to win people who are older than 30 years old. If you are above 30 years old, you win younger people because you have more wisdom than the people who are younger than you. So the thing is that for me, because I was, I was very young. And I have a lot of time. I said, You know what, I'm just gonna invest, invest, invest, I'm going to make mistake, mistake mistake, and I'm just going to do whatever it takes to learn as much as possible. And, you know, when people say at all, can you do more about how to Do a joint venture? So I learned about joint ventures. Do you know more about how to do a life event, the island life event? Do you know how to sell a $10,000 product or $25,000 program and all this stuff, and I learned how to do just that. So for me, I don't feel like enough is enough, because my mindset is more like it is just like this is like, if I want to, this is the process for me to build my internal muscles. So if I let's just look at the axonal muscle for now. I just say you want to have a four pack abs, and then you just gonna do like five push ups. And you're gonna ask yourself like, Is this enough to get four pack abs? I mean, seriously, that is not the right question to us.

Freddy Owen: Four pack abs. 

Henry Gold: Five rep is just enough to get four pack abs. Come on you. I don't think anybody will make it reasonable. It's the same idea as building your internal muscles when you're done. Internal muscles even though it's invisible, you cannot see it but you can feel it. Like, you know, the reason why my godfather scholar and me all the time, even until today, until yesterday, yesterday I went to see him. He scored yesterday. I called him yesterday to ask why because he wanted to test. He wanted to test my muscle, my internal muscle, how strong it is. Can I not take it anymore? He always does that as a way to see like, Oh, come on. You're a young man, you still don't know how to do this. Now he's more into doing the fish during the fish pond and all this stuff and everything. Oh, come on. You don't even know about fish and stuff like that. How do I know about fish? So now I know about filters. I understood about you know, there's a filtering system there's a UV light I know about the algae and all this stuff and everything. I was cleaning up the pond by myself and all this stuff and everything I was seeing like whoa, suddenly I know all the stuff besides marketing besides business will just follow. There's something else behind this. So the thing that I'm trying to say is that you build internal muscles here. I mean, I don't understand the question of like, Is this enough? It's like, you, you just like doing five push ups like five feet sit ups, like, Is this enough to get four packs abs? Like,

Henry Gold: I do not know what, Even even here, yeah. What is that?

Freddy Owen: If somebody tells you that it's not true. That's what Henry is trying to say is, My Pastor always used to tell us this. If you're not growing, you're dying.

Henry Gold: Yep, exactly what it is. I mean, I mean, I prefer Personally I prefer to be standing up talking with your audience, talking with you, sharing my story with the audience as well, rather than in the ICU bed and crying and saying, Oh my God, why am I dying? I prefer this right now, talking with you.

Freddy Owen: I still can't believe that you yelled at that lady. I know. I'm just now okay. I asked you if you ever felt like on the talent when you got sick. Did you ever feel like throwing the talent because I hear the thing? That's bad. Scary, huh? So obviously you had some fear at that point, or was this?

Henry Gold: Well, when? Yes, what I want your audience to look at when you want to throw the towel in means that you are on the limitless level number seven. And the question is, would you like to get into Lemos level number eight, nine, or 10? What would you like to drop to Seven, Six of five or four which is the four is beyond repair. Meaning that you're going to be living a miserable life lonely And darkness based on what Mr. Demon wants you to be. Or you want to go through the process of going from seven to eight to nine or to 10. When you are on the level tab, there's no fear. There's no so-called fear. You're pretty much gonna get back to the moment when you were a 13 years old kid. That 13 years old kid is like, when you wake up, you're just so happy, like, oh, wow, great. I need to manage this. Oh, great. I need to do this. I need to do the call, oh, wow, I need to do life code, or I need to talk with clients. Oh, now Well, I need to create 100 180 slides, you're going to be behaving that way. Instead of behaving like, Oh my God, I've got so much work to do. And all this stuff and everything. Your behavior is going to change when you get into level number 10. When you are under level six, you're going to start to say how am I good is too hard? Yes. When? When Fred asked me this question before You will write because after brain tumor surgery I was from level number 10 because I had to rest for six months. I went down from level 10 to level seven. When I went down from level seven I wanted to get back to level eight, nine and 10. I cried many, many times because my internal muscles were too painful. It was too painful. It was just like asking me like oh how come I have to do this? My internal muscle was too sore at a time I was thinking I was asking myself why do I need to do all these things and all the stuff and everything because the moment Mr. The moment you are growing the Mr. Demon gonna start to say like Oh, come on, take it easy. Now come on, what's wrong with you? What's wrong with you all the time. But when you get into level number 10 you cannot get rid of Mr. demon. But you will minimize it. No until the point where there's no talking point in Mr. D. anymore. So he doesn't even exist. No he doesn't exist. He exists, but he cannot many pillars easily. He was still trying to find a way to manipulate you by people, you know your excellent factors or internal factors. But here's the funny thing when you get into level number 10 This is the good thing about level number 10. You will not want to associate yourself with people who are level number four. You're going to refuse to associate with people number four, not because you don't like people who are level number four, not because you hate them, it is because you want to protect yourself to keep your level number 10. Do you understand?

Freddy Owen: Yes, hundred percent? Yeah, hundred percent. It's just like, they always say like you're taught your five closest friends or your future and a lot of cases. Yeah, so hang out with a bunch of level number fours. You're most likely going to be a lover number number four. Yeah. So 321 is there a level three to one One

Henry Gold: not a bad level one is pretty much a view if you look into everybody that walking you know just walking on the street slows down like this. And then when you talk nice with them you say, hey, you're a nice guy. God bless you and all this stuff. And then we just like schooling Adam, did you like this good good Don't get upset all the way. This is pretty much level number one already. You cannot fix those people. They're just all jacked up. Yeah. So the most likely they are what I call the walking dead.

Freddy Owen: The Walking Dead. Zombies

Henry Gold: yes. Yeah, yeah, pretty much is somebody it just pretty much sounds like what the lady just mentioned to me.

Freddy Owen: So I'm going to go ahead and first of all, in other words, stay away from the zombies and the level number fours and always try to get better. at becoming your best you your limitless, you limit This life. Yeah, um, what projects are you working on right now?

Henry Gold: Right now I'm working on a lot of projects. Is this a wait for them to reach out to me? Or is this for them?

Freddy Owen: Here's the thing on our show notes, I know that we're going to be Henry is going to be giving away the limitless traffic blueprint. We're going to give that away. But here's the thing, when we do the show notes I want to put everything that you would like them to know about on the show notes. Okay. So like, I know that you have your limitless it's actually what's the website, it's limitless, the limitless life calm, thelimitlesslife.com, you have interviews on there, and you have training that they can purchase on their coaching. And so that's going to be on there as well. But what else do you have going on?

Henry Gold: I'll be honest with you, I will say I don't know.

Freddy Owen: Okay, 

Henry Gold: what I do know, is my focus right now to help inspire as many people as possible to leave a limitless life.

Freddy Owen: So that's where I want you guys if you're listening to this right now, it's gonna be on the show notes the limitless life and we can take advantage of the limitless traffic blueprint free gift that Henry's gonna be giving out, but also go there. And you'll learn a lot more about Henry but you're going to see what kind of coaching he has. And I'm telling you that when I first met him, and I'm, and I'm not as skeptical of people, like I used to be, I've grown myself, I don't worry like I used to.

Freddy Owen: I always want to give it 110% and I don't like to follow the herd. So I really think I'm probably at a level I think Level 10 I don't know if you know, but do I still have fears? Yes, maybe I'm level nine. I gotta improve on that, but I've gotten a lot better, okay. But he is so authentic and if you can get coaching from him, if you are really struggling down if you're level number four, okay? I want you to know, maybe you got to talk to Henry and I'll tell you straight off then I'll be blunt with you. But to get better, it's a great person to talk to. And he's, he's like in very transparent he's got a lot of on the actual limitless life website, you have a lot of value on there. That's just you give to people and also the Facebook page, you have a Facebook page we're gonna put on there as well. But we'll make sure that on all the show notes, that every anything, any way that you can get ahold of him and then of course, if Henry if you come out with something in a year from now, you messaged me, I'll put it on the show notes. It'll be there. We'll add it because I. This is going to be going on for a long time and I want people to continue to listen to these radio shows because I want to have the best of the best on here. So, I Yes, everything will be on the show notes. But if you have anything else you said nothing right now, but if you do, we'll add it to the show notes. I think I probably could have said that within one sentence, but I dragged it out.

Henry Gold: So you did such a wonderful job I could never have done that. Like you.

Freddy Owen: Okay, so we're gonna put all the information on how you get a hold of Henry. And now it's time for the Super hyper fast Q&A round which I'm gonna ask some questions. You're probably gonna think they're really off the wall which they are but you know what is the best you can answer. Okay. So if you can make a rule for a day and everyone had to follow it, what would it be? 

Henry Gold: Chocolate. eat chocolate. Yes. 

Freddy Owen: Even if you're allergic to chocolate. You have to eat chocolate.

Henry Gold: Chocolate. Okay.

Freddy Owen: If you could have an unlimited storage of one thing, what would it be? I think I know the answer to this

Henry Gold: Toilet paper. 

Freddy Owen: What? I thought you're gonna say snow.

Henry Gold: No toilet paper.

Freddy Owen: Toilet paper is a hot commodity right now. Have you ever cried watching a movie? If so, which one?

Henry Gold: Pursuit of Happiness. 

Freddy Owen: That is a good movie. Oh, you know what? My wife walked upstairs and I'm in the bedroom. She opened the door. I'm bawling my eyes out watching Marley and me, Molly. Have you ever watched that movie?

Henry Gold: Yes.

Freddy Owen: You didn't cry that? Oh, I lost it. I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I was like, it was terrible. So if you had to flee the country, where would you choose to live?

Henry Gold: Ah anywhere, with this Snow anywhere is snow.

Freddy Owen: Yes. So in Antarctica.

Henry Gold: I don't know. That's a good one. Oh, maybe I know something. dreamland. Okay,

Freddy Owen: Sounds beautiful. Last thing before we close out today's episode, get the radio show fam. One last nugget of Henry gold wisdom that you can take and take with them and improve their life. One sentence, two sentences. The final word Henry gold.

Henry Gold: Well, I will say this. You have to live by yourself. You have to live your life every single day. As if today is your last day on earth. Because you will never get a second chance. There is no so-called second chance, a third chance in life. What I do know is after the brain tumor surgery itself is you know, I'm not being given a second chance in life and being given the last chance. If I don't take advantage of this last change in myself to do what I needed to do when I was a 13 years old kid I may not get another chance anymore in the future. So the thing is that you have to ask yourself every single day, what can I do right now? to change my life? What can I do right now? To leave my life? Where I give my all constantly and if you can ask yourself that question every single day, your life is going to change. Okay? And that's all for now. Stay limitless forever.

Freddy Owen: You're a Rockstar Henry, thank you so much for being on today. 

Henry Gold: Thank you. 

Freddy Owen: Okay fam another episode in the books and it was a great one had a blast. A huge thank you to today's guests Henry Gold. It's always a pleasure catching up with Henry. He's a class act. And thank you to you as well for tuning into today's episode of the Freddy “O” Show. Also make sure that you head over to winwithfred.com, that is winwithfred.com to check out the show notes. Grab all that Henry has to offer from today's episode, plus all his contact info. It will be alright there on winwithfred.com in the show notes. Last but not least, visit winwithfred.com/FMA to become a member of the new Facebook group I have, The Funnel Mastery Alliance. I know you will absolutely love it. Tons of value going to be back there so definitely head back there. Easy peasy. That's it for episode number six. It's time to put it to bed. Good night episode six. This is Freddy O, and until next time, fam. Always stay hungry.

Crush your comfort zone with Jesse Harless

The Freddy “O” Show Episode #5: Jesse Harless Wants You to Smash Your Comfort Zone.

ABOUT Jesse Harless,  M.A. 

Trainer | Advocate | Best Selling Amazon Author |Entrepreneur in Recovery

As an entrepreneur in recovery, Jesse is passionate about helping people overcome obstacles and make choices that inspire them to live their best life.

Jesse graduated from Rivier University with a Master's Degree in Mental Health Counseling in 2016, and I now live my purpose running Entrepreneurs in Recovery® workshops, trainings, and events with individuals, recovery community organizations, companies, learning environments, addiction treatment, and entrepreneurs. I've integrated all of my learnings into my workshops, trainings, and events including my XCHANGE and HeartMath® certifications. 

He started Entrepreneurs in Recovery® in 2017 as a way to transform the lives of 5000 men and women in addiction recovery through one-on-one coaching, facilitation, writing, and speaking. Since then, the work has expanded to communities, workplaces, organizations,  addiction treatment centers and sober living facilities throughout the United States. Jesse is an XCHANGE certified guide and faculty member with a deep passion to bring out the best of any individual, team, community, or system.

Jesse’s recovery story started in 2005 when he was arrested. At 22 years old, he was looking at spending many years of his life in federal prison due to his addiction to heroin, cocaine, and prescription opioids. Facing serious consequences for his actions, He started to change his daily habits and get serious about his recovery. He followed a formula of success that he calls F.E.A.R.S. – Focus, Elevate, Appreciate, Resilience, Self-care. These practices are the framework for his online and in person workshops.

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Episode #5 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen: Today on the show, Jesse Harless, the king of cold showers. He wants to help you smash your comfort zone. Episode Five is about to take off in three to one.

My Beautiful Wife: Thank you for listening to the Freddie O show, a podcast devoted to you, the listener, your purpose, your mindset and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now here's your host, Freddy O

Freddy Owen: Oh, yes, welcome to episode number five of the radio show. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to join me Freddie on. It's always a pleasure to have you aboard. And a friendly reminder, you can access all podcast show notes from today's episode at one with Fred calm. Also, the radio shows available on these other fine apps, Apple podcasts Spotify, Google podcasts Stitcher, I Heart Radio podcast addict, pod chaser Deezer, overcast pocket cast Castro and cast box. I truly appreciate your support. It means the world to me. Now. Today's guest was actually mentioned in episode number two by Russell Beebe and I was intrigued. So I looked him up and I sent him a message and boom. He is now here with us today. So without further ado, drumroll please.

Freddy Owen: Jessie Harless the king of cold showers. Thank you so much for being on the Freddy O show today.

Jesse Harless: Thank you, Fred. I'm excited to be here.

Freddy Owen: We are excited that you are here. So to get things rolling. First off, tell us about Jessie Harless.

Jesse Harless: Well, I am someone who is an entrepreneur . I consider myself an entrepreneur in recovery, recovering from drug and alcohol addiction and I am just really excited to be on the show today. Just to share with what's going on and how I pivoted during this time, because my business is an in person business, for the most part, it's being in person, it's being live, it's running events, it's facilitating. And obviously, I've had a pivot quite a bit and bring everything online but everything actually worked very well online. So it's been quite a journey. I'm excited to share that with you and wherever else we go today.

Freddy Owen: Actually, that's a great starting point.

Freddy Owen: So talking about the pandemic, obviously, and the way you have to stay at home, a lot of things have been cancelled. How have you pivoted I mean,

Jesse Harless: So the first thing I did well to kind of back it up I had done it's gonna sound a little wild, but I did a 40 day juice fast to start the year. I wanted to start the year with a bang and I said, you know what's going to really get me out of my comfort zone, and I'm like a 40 nothing, nothing could get me out of my comfort zone more than a 40 day juice fast. So I drank just juice for 40 days and that's how the year started. And then from there, this year is projected to be my best year I was going to have as a business and just ever, whether as a business or work for someone else, and, of course, you know, COVID hit, but right before that I had gone to Costa Rica, right after the juice fast, and I'm in this most beautiful country, it's a very, very healing experience. And I get back, and I have an event two days later in California, and as soon as I'm about the flower, you know, COVID hits like full blown hits hits in California, you know, I you know, I get on the plane, it's like 10% fall on a 747. It was really freaky. And I got there, we did the event, we had to be six feet apart, couldn't touch each other. If you sneeze you have to leave the room. It was just really scary. So I I got back to New Hampshire. And I remember getting back to that Monday, and I just like, got the worst depression that I've had since when I was like, Probably right after actively using or using drugs and alcohol, it was so surprising after a decade or more of not having it, I got hit with a really hard depression and and I think it was a combination of the reality of the situation that all the money that had been allocated to the live events was now going to go away and who knows what the world was going to happen with the world and all these things started happening. And you know, I'm a coach, I serve clients and you know, just what was going to happen with everything and in what I did is I pivoted, I meditated, I did a long meditation and I got kind of back to my truth. And and what I went into happening is, you know, the greatest thing started to happen is the the events, I started to tell them that I could bring this all online that I had the training, I had the skill set, I had the ability to bring all this online, and it took them about eight weeks, some of these these opportunities, but now all of the events are now happening online, and it's really, really powerful. Because now if anything I have almost two businesses right what I can do online and one in person

Freddy Owen: That's fantastic. I actually love online and that's awesome you're doing that because you can reach so many more people. I think the live events are awesome as well. As a matter of fact a live event, there's no comparison between live and online. If I were to do something I'd go live. But it is awesome. And I want to do the same thing as far as depression and when you talk about drugs and alcohol, no drugs, but I literally find myself drinking to ease the situation, which I'm not doing that now. You know, but it was ridiculous. I don't drink, I really don't. If I do I have, you know ever so often but I was finding myself like, okay, I am frustrated up drinking tonight. And it was just a simple, you know, drink But it was happening every night. And then finally I realized I was having chest pains and stomach pains. And I'm like, I'm letting this control me. And I was like, that's it. I'm done. So as far as I love the way you reacted to it too, because, like the meditation, I can only imagine the feeling of starting off the new year. Right, you know, everybody starts off on New Year right? You know, they're they're excited in most cases and that just dies down but you did a 40 day juice fast. And what do you mean by that is you only had juice?

Jesse Harless: Yeah. Nothing else else?

Freddy Owen: How much weight you lose.

Jesse Harless: Okay, so just to back up a little bit. I was already someone who is eating a plant based lifestyle, you know, vegan and eating healthy and exercising. So I didn't have a ton of weight to lose. But what happened is I still lost about 20 pounds but I didn't lose just weight. I lost a lot of the stuff that's stored up in the intestines, so I lost a lot of that waste. in there, that plaque. And so that's really what I lost. So I ended up like, coming out of that, like, literally, it was a tramp. It was a very transformational process. Not only was I, you know, energized from it, I had lost waste that has probably been in me for two decades. Wow. I'm actually intrigued by that. That's, that's amazing. So you took the situation, the Coppa situation, and you went through a little bit of a season of depression, but you were able to get yourself out of it with meditation. And going online and flipping the switch as far as your mentality with the situation. Yeah, and I mean, meditation was what I did right during the Depression. And then of course, I reach out to what I call my recovery team. So I have a team of people, five people that I can reach out to at any time, any place, text them, call them, and you know, I reach out to one of those people and I talk to them and Of course they could relate. So, you know, there were multiple, small tasks I did to help. But the first thing I did immediately was a meditation. Yeah, so that was that was big and yeah, and of course, there's other tools that I use, you know, cold showers is a big one, you know, cold showers is something it's like an alkalizing, like, energy boosting activity that I've been doing for five years. And so I still take them as well, to help to boost my mood, and

Freddy Owen: we're gonna definitely talk about cold showers. We're gonna definitely talk about that. But I want to before we do that, I want to bring up comfort zones. When you talk about comfort zones, everyone has a comfort zone where they keep themselves away from pressure, anxiety, pain, the pain of life. Yep. The problem with that is if you stay in the comfort zone, you stay away from growth, opportunity and success. Of course, comfort is obviously the big, biggest reason why they stay in that zone. Are there any other reasons that come to Mind

Jesse Harless: Yeah, I mean, a comfort zone is it's like even the most successful entrepreneurs in the world have comfort zones, right? They get to a certain level of success and they start to ride that roller coaster. But then what happens is their health fails, marriage fails, things start happening so even though they have all this success financially and you know, it can backfire by backfiring on a comfort zone. Now, it depends where you're at, but like, I just want to say that every person has a comfort zone, even the people you look up to so for someone like me a comfort zone would be okay. Wow. 2020 is going to be the year of clarity. It's gonna be the best year of my life. Oh my god, I'm on track to do all this amazing stuff. And so my comfort zone was that I didn't expect something like, like my comfort zone just expecting everything would be as smooth To ride with just what I was doing, and had no pivot plan. And so that was my comfort zone, I was just writing out this idea that I could facilitate, facilitate in person, write my book, slowly, all that stuff, and then bam, the world goes on fire and all these things start happening. And it's like, Whoa, and that woke me up from a comfort zone. So comfort zones can happen all the time in our lives. But a lot of people are, you know, sitting around saying, hey, this person's asleep. What does that mean? Well, it could just mean that they're in a comfort zone, and something, you know, cold showers come to me right away, that's a way to physically wake yourself up out of the comfort zone, but how do you maintain How do you know not go back to the comfort zone that you're in so a comfort zone could be something small or it could be something major that you've been in a comfort zone for 20 years doing the same job, and you have it progressing your weights, you know, increase and all these things are happening that's that's another example. So it can be a short term or long term comfort zone

Freddy Owen: and as an entrepreneur I believe that staying in the comfort zone really isn't an option. Because I think that's one of the biggest reasons why so many entrepreneurs fail is because they stay in their comfort zone.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, and I've only, you know, just a disclaimer, I was an employee, I worked for a company for 14 years. So I jumped ship to start my own business, entrepreneurs and recovery, and that was only in 2017 of August. So I haven't been an entrepreneur, an entrepreneur for that long, but what I've done is I've studied a lot of entrepreneurs, and I've seen what's gone on with them with comfort zones. I've certainly experienced my comfort zone during that journey, but I've seen other people get in a comfort zone and watch what happens to them. And usually what I see happen to them is, it is health. That's what I see first going and then and then what I see is like a lack of passion for what they're doing, and it just becomes like a hard sell and it becomes really uncomfortable.

Freddy Owen: I also think that sometimes people live in other people's comfort zones. What I mean by that is if they see somebody else fail, they're afraid to even go that route because that person failed.

Jesse Harless: Do you agree with that? Oh, yeah. Yeah, definitely. Definitely. Yeah. I mean, it's, it's easy. Yeah. I mean, it's easy to help people to stay in comfort zones, you know, and kind of promote that. Like, I love this quote, I heard like, people love to hear good news about their bad habits, you know. So it's, it's just like a comfort zone. You know, if you can have people cheerleading on for your comfort zone, it's really helpful.

Freddy Owen: Yeah, it's crazy. So when starting your business in 2017, what was one of the biggest struggles you had when starting it? And how did you overcome it?

Jesse Harless: The biggest challenge was that I had no entrepreneurs in my family. I never did entrepreneurship where I expected to work for my company for 3040 years. And so the challenge was Like, well, what, you know what, like, I had to go dig deep to figure out what was going to be a sustainable business that I could, you know, because I really left my job to start up my purpose, which isn't always the best idea, you know, because you got bills to pay, but I decided that I would go right at, you know, coaching, and, you know, wasn't even facilitation at the time, but it became facilitation coaching. And I said, I'll make this work. And I had one client pay me $100 a month. My bills were much more than that. So it was a little crazy. So it really in the beginning was like, Who do I go to for help mentorship? And I already had a few mentors, but I started to really seek out who's going to be able to really help me and I did within two months, I had found a mentor and a training and that just launched everything. So I was really fortunate. Within two months of starting the business, I got right on a path and a plan with a mentor and a training that really took my business and it's amazing. What I actually do today was from those decisions I made those first two months as an entrepreneur,

Freddy Owen: you seem like a very, very structured person. So now I'm going to bring in the cold shower aspect of things. When did the cold shower? Now let me let me do a preface to this preface to this is I've done this before. And let me tell you something. It's excruciating at times, and it was very rough and then it became consistent. I'm getting back on it slowly but surely, a lot of it was a temperature aspect of it, but when was it in your brain that you were like, Okay, I'm gonna start taking cold showers. Well,

Jesse Harless: it wasn't even in my brain. It was in one of my one of my closest friends' brains, you know, he came over one night to my house and he said, Hey, you need to start taking cold showers randomly and it was December in New Hampshire, so it's 33 degrees out and now I'm not cold. You can call the culture act like I'm not taking a cold shower. I mean a hot shower attic I'm not taking a cold shower. And he said no you have to understand this. There's lots of benefits and he wasn't even taking a cold shower. He was just telling me that for me what he's known about me I needed to do and I ended up taking my first Cold Shower not too long after that. And what happened was, yeah, I lost my breath. I was all read but what ended up happening is I had struggled with anxiety my whole life. And two hours later, I attended a meeting after that first straight, cold five minute cold shower, all the way cold, which was I don't recommend that I went to a meeting that I would normally have experienced anxiety and I had no anxiety. In fact, I felt euphoric. And I was like, What is going on? How could that cold shower be the only thing I did differently? So I decided to do a 30 day challenge, a 30 day trial of cold showers. And that's that was it once I that was through December right the New Year's I ended up winning the highest award My company, all these things started happening was like a snowball effect. Not only did my anxiety decrease, it seemed like that habit stacked with other habits started to have this huge effect in my life with success. And I was like, What is it and it was part of it was the confidence I gained from doing something that caused resilience. I had to be very resilient to be able to take a straight cold shower every morning. And that resilience carried into my day.

Freddy Owen: And that took you out of your comfort zone, obviously. Yeah. So when you say you were at your company, so this is before you became an entrepreneur?

Jesse Harless: Correct? Oh, yeah. Well, yeah, I started the cold showers two years before I'd left my job.

Freddy Owen: So it was like all a lot of the not all of them obviously. But a lot of the things that you had issues like problems that you had, like anxiety, maybe even confidence and stuff like that. It started to melt off you with the cold shower.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, what happened was I started to take risks I would have never taken before I just started to take risks, especially in my job. You know, I started to like, I would reach out to people on the phone, I would walk up to them in person, I would actually drive like an hour out of my way to go to like the headquarters, the local headquarters and talk to upper management to say like, Hey, this is who I am, this is my skill set. This is where I want to go. And they literally be like, Who is this guy? And eventually that led me to landing my quote unquote dream job at my company. And so, you know, it was just working things were just working, my confidence was boosted. My anxiety was higher. I had really high energy. I consider myself a healthy person, but I feel like my health has improved. My skin definitely looks the best that ever had.

Freddy Owen: So it's just a bunch of benefits.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, there's just a bunch of benefits. The biggest ones though, the biggest was again, it was the anxiety reduction. I would say the next biggest one was that was the resilience factor and that confidence boost.

Freddy Owen: Okay, now keep in mind fam that he has a book out and I'm going to put this in the show notes about cold showers and once they have that

Jesse Harless: books smash your comfort zone with cold showers.

Freddy Owen: So I want you guys to literally smash your comfort zone with cold showers and and literally do the 30 Day Challenge like he said, hold yourself accountable. If it worked for him. It most definitely can work for you. I got my pastor started starting to do it. He didn't believe it at first but I'm like, give it a shot. It just for me is consistency. And honestly it's a comfort thing. So I got to get over that comfort thing. So I'm telling you guys, I have not stayed consistent with it. But I'm going to start today. I'm going to stay consistent with it. But as far as turning the dial all the way to the left. I'm probably not gonna do that. I'll probably remember talking to Russell Beebe, and he said he does 58. He talked to you about doing a 58 degrees or less. Yeah,

Jesse Harless: yeah. So that's a big recommendation for people and it's in my book too. I put in the challenges in the book seven day challenge 30 Day Challenge. And then I have the 30 day and all hot showers cold challenge, which is what you can start with. So start with your shower warm is normal, do your washing, and then you end the shower cold like it's called a contrast shower, you end the shower cold so you're going to end it the first shower 30 seconds, the next time you get in 45 seconds and just keep increasing to get to two minutes. So take your normal hot shower but it ends cold.

Freddy Owen: And you'll you'll get

Jesse Harless: all this information is in the book all the Yeah, all the book is super short. I mean, it's a super short book, you can read the book, you can listen to the book on Audible and one hour in six minutes and you can read the book and probably 45 minutes if you're a fast reader.

Freddy Owen: So definitely I'll have that in the show notes and take advantage of that and do the 30 day challenge the seven day challenge that Jesse has In the book, so this is sort of a statement with a question. Okay. So you talk about addiction recovery. And I want to make something very clear. And yes, it's my opinion. But I believe that addiction spreads far wider than the main corporate structure, alcohol, cigarettes, pornography, etc. So Matter of fact, I think each and every one of us has an addiction, even if it's a small one, and a lot of us don't even realize it. And to that point, those addictions, even the small ones can be holding us back from growth. And I think that one of the biggest foot blocks is for someone to actually accept that they have an addiction issue. Am I on the right track by making the above statement?

Jesse Harless: I agree with you. 100%. Yep, I agree with you. 100% I believe every person is addicted to something. And you might say to yourself, oh, no, I'm not. Well, think about some of the things that have happened to you in your life, maybe a trauma that happened in early childhood or something that happened later on. There's an example of your thinking being an addiction. You might have never heard Put Like that. But even the way you think your day to day thinking can become an addiction, because certain limited beliefs are keeping you stuck. And you're addicted to the feeling that they produce the chemicals that those feelings produce. And Joe dispenza talks about this in his book, breaking the habit of being yourself. So it's a great book to learn more, but he talks about addiction as being addicted to the chemicals that your brain releases when you have certain self limiting behaviors. So I truly truly believe that every person is in recovery from an addiction.

Freddy Owen: So obviously, cold showers are one of the methods you use to help with addiction.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, it's one of the ones I found out about, I don't know the 10 year mark of my recovery. Nine. Awesome. Yeah.

Freddy Owen: So let's expand on addiction recovery. I know you have different types of methods and programs, workshops that you have, that could be helpful to people. Can you tell us a little bit about those?

Jesse Harless: Yeah, so that workshops that I Run are, it's an innovative approach to change. So they're not based on what you've seen before. They're based on this idea that number one, that every person has the potential to reach their full potential, that every person has a purpose. And if we can draw, if we can pull out their strengths, we can pull out a vision for their life and have strengths, touching strengths, and people feeling safe to share and vulnerable to take risks. The most incredible change can happen the most incredible change. I've seen it time and time and time and time again, over the last three years of doing this work, that you can facilitate transformation in group experiences. And it can almost become a spiritual experience. It's so empowering to watch this happen. So yeah, so I run workshops and events where that's what happens. We honor all the diversity of all the voices in the brown. We increase the social connection because people say, you know, a day You know, connection is the opposite of addiction. So, you know, so that's what we're doing. We're creating this sense of community. But in my workshops, we're specifically teaching lifelong skills. But we don't, we don't come out and say that what we're doing is we're having everyone; it's a certain choreography so people are getting the pairs are getting the small groups, they're constantly moving. They're constantly moving in and out of this choreography, then we teach them we teach, so we have their emotions engaged, they feel safe, they feel like they can be themselves. So there's wisdom behind it.

Freddy Owen: I think one of the biggest problems that we have, especially with people actually coming clean, if I were to call it that, letting go and telling people about what problems they have is social media. I think social media is a fantastic platform. But I also always refer back to this, it's everybody's highlight. It's not their lowlights. So, I think that if you're listening to this You consistently look at everybody's highlights on social media and you think, Okay, well, they don't have any problems. I think you're very, very misled. I think you need to realize that. Okay, if you do, and you're the only one who knows if you have a problem, but in most cases, everyone has some type of addiction. Okay, some are worse than others, some can kill you. And I think that if you do have something of that sort, I think it's great that if, you know, and I'll have it in the show notes that you actually look into what Jessie has to offer, because he has actually been through depression. He's been through hard times. And he's obviously learned how to overcome those. And with his workshops, I really believe that it could help you out and I think, at least seek some type of help. That's the biggest thing is don't sit back and watch your life go by and not seek help. It's a scary thought to do that and I always go back to it. It's actually a Pearl Jam song. But this one thing that always went through my head that Eddie Vetter said if I knew then what I know now, always remember that if you can conquer it today, you don't have to worry about tomorrow. So it's it's it's crazy that I know addictions tough for a lot of people and I know you've probably seen all makes and models of people and what can you say to somebody that that is listening right now that might be on the fence with with oh my gosh, I'm so afraid to go out there and say this. What would you say to them?

Jesse Harless: Yeah, well, here's the thing is we're dealing with the crisis of isolation. This is one of the most dangerous crises of all time, in many ways where you know, anxiety is creasing, alcohol consumption, increasing drug and alcohol overdose. So, this is the crisis, a crisis of isolation right now. So this is not a time to be alone. So even though You are alone you're almost forced by quarantine to be alone. It's not the time to be alone. It's a time to reach out, it's time to get to zoom rooms to connect. It's the time to get out in nature but asking for help, this is the time to do it. So because you are someone who maybe wouldn't normally ask for help, now you can do it without even seeing your face in a Zoom Room. So start to get out to different types of meetings. You know what I think is in the halls calm or something when you can access meetings around the world every single day all day. And so this is your time now to explore to poke around to see what's going on. Because you know, addiction has many different forms, you know, alcohol, drugs, pornography, internet, you know, games, all these different things. I don't know what it is for you. But you can find one of those groups online. You can google search it but here's the thing: recovery for me as a matter of life and death. For some people, it's not for some people, it's like I never I never got that bad for me. It's a matter of life and death. I took it there. It went there, I was broken, I was bruised, I was near death. So, for me, it's life and death, I treat it like that. So for you, it might be like, well, I'm just on the surface. So I'm just hitting an emotional bottom. Well, that's all you need to start to ask yourself to give yourself the permission to change and reach out for help. I mean, you can reach out to me, I'll give you resources. But you can do a Google search. And you can find thousands of recovery meetings that are happening now on zoom, which never has been like this before. So we're just in an interesting time. We're coming back, right? I mean, there's slowly but surely, we're starting to come back to in person groups. But for now, use the web, use YouTube, go out there, learn what people's lives are like, who have recovery, who are on the other side. You know, that's what I do. I surround myself with all types of people who are in recovery from all different addictions, not just drugs and alcohol. from other addictions to food addiction, porn addiction, sex addiction, I have them in my life as well, too, because those are all potentials for me and they have been porn definitely. Was it an addiction still can be today? Same here. Yeah, it's a huge one. And so that one's the one that I have to stay vigilant about. Because now it's like you're locked down, you're in your home, all these things are happening. So that one has the greatest potential right now to be used and look at the percentages of people visiting sites, pornography sites have gone up exponentially as well. So this is not a time to be isolating. It is the crisis of isolation. So we need to be reaching out for our mental health.

Freddy Owen: I mean, throw out a glimmer of hope and you would know this better than I would as far as you've helped people with addiction. What if you can describe someone's demeanor after they actually come clean? And and and put their stuff on the table? What kind of to give somebody hope that it's not that bad? It actually does it? Do you see it in their face? They feel relieved.

Jesse Harless: So like, if someone comes forward, you mean and starts to ask for help? Is that?

Freddy Owen: Yes

Jesse Harless: yeah, yeah. So that's the biggest thing is once you do that, you're going to realize you're not unique. I don't care what your story is. I don't care what it is. I don't care if you told me and this is gonna sound absurd. I don't care if you told me you got abducted by extraterrestrials, and then you came back, and then you were addicted. It doesn't matter. I've heard it all. There's, you know, there's so many examples of people's stories of trauma, because trauma plays a huge role in addiction. So, you know, there's to come out and talk about it. You're going to realize that there's people out there like you and I didn't believe it either. I was a young person who found recovery. I was 22 years old. I know people who find it at 14. I know people find it younger than that, but I was 22. That's very young. 22 years old facing federal felonies seven years in federal prison because of an opioid addiction. I had to change real quick. And, you know, I can tell you that I had no idea what to do. So all's I did was I found a safe person, and I just spilled the beans with them, and then events out to find more people to share all the crap that has been stored up, that I couldn't share the trauma, the emotions, the feelings, and you know, I it changed my life. And I actually actually because of people, like a drug and alcohol counselor or a therapist, I was actually I pursued my own journey and that I got my master's in mental health counseling because someone held the space for me that was so incredible, that changed me so deeply that I decided to pursue that myself. And so it's, there's always help, you know, I'd have to pay for that because of my felony charges. The court actually paid for that for three years. I had that drug counselor and I didn't pay a dime. So there was a blessing in disguise and there always is, no matter how dark something is. There's always light, always, always on the other side of it.

Freddy Owen: Awesome. And I love that. I love that. So definitely I want to put all the information about everything he has for Jesse's offer in the show notes. So please, please, please make sure to check, take a look at him and realize that you're not alone and situation. And if you're an entrepreneur, you need to literally address any kind of things that are holding you back and keeping you in your comfort zone. Because it's very important that you conquer those. So you're in the process of writing a new book, can you give us a sneak peek of what it's going to be about?

Jesse Harless: Yeah, this process is like a 10 year process. But I know, I didn't start writing it 10 years ago, but it was in my consciousness 10 years ago to write a book about my recovery story, you know, about what happened, and the book about the last two years has been there and I started adding little things. Do it. And I kept putting it aside and you know what I realized with this whole COVID-19. And everything that's happening is like, Who am I not to get this book into the world, it's selfish not to write my book. And I'm, that's a message for everyone. If you have a story of trauma or something, you've overcome addiction or something big or something you've done, or you're an artist that needs to be shared with the world, it's selfish not to bring it out. So this book, I don't have a working title yet. But the reality is the book is getting finished this year. This book is my story. It's a hybrid non. It's a hybrid nonfiction book, meaning that the book is my story for half of it or, you know, a third of it. And then the rest of the book is a formula. It's a formula that I use that helped me to go from survival to thriving in recovery. And that room that I still use today I use them and I've learned I've I've I've stood on the desk, shoulders of giants so that a lot of the formula didn't even come from me. It's learning from others, applying it, doing experiments, and seeing how it works. And yeah, so so that my new book is really a combination of my story. And it's also a formula that I created called fears. What a what a choice. I could have chosen for a word, but fears, you know, focus, elevate, appreciate resilience, self care. And that's kind of the formula that I use. It's not the kind it is the formula that I use, even today to help me to be abundant in recovery to live a life of abundance.

Freddy Owen: That's awesome, man. And here's the thing. I don't know if you have a page to get notified when it comes out. But here's what I'll do is make sure you hit me up and I'll put it in the show notes no matter what. And I will make sure that I address it in future podcasts when it does come out because I think it's going to help a heck of a lot of people. So I really appreciate you and I'm looking forward to reading it myself. Also, I think we're gonna have the show notes I'm gonna have. How do you get a hold of him? And his Instagram is all the social media aspects he really dives into his stuff as he has to offer. Get a book about showers, try the first cold shower, it's gonna be very uncomfortable. Take it from me. It's not it's not a cakewalk, but it's, it's gonna help you in the long run. So definitely do that. So now it's time for the Super hyper fast q&a round. I gotta think of a better name, but I'm going to call it that today. So we gave you some questions there off the wall. But let's see what your answers are for them. Okay,

Jesse Harless: Are you ready? Got it? Yeah.

Freddy Owen: Okay. What's invisible but you wish people could see

Jesse Harless: the energy around their body.

Freddy Owen: That's, that's very cool. Because there are Obviously is there. I want to actually bring up something. Have you ever heard of earthing? I do it almost every day.

Jesse Harless: Really? How? How long? I try to do 30 minutes a day.

Freddy Owen: Okay, if you can't explain to the audience I know what it is, but I'll let you explain it because I just know that it's walking outside barefoot, but if you can explain the benefits, that'd be pretty cool.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, so when I released my cold shower book when it came out in 2018. I actually have a video of me taking my shoes off and walking through the snow to get the first copy of the book that came into my mailbox, so I walked in the snow. It's I don't recommend that that's a version of earthing that's extreme. But what I do is, I actually take I you know, definitely no socks, no shoes, and I just walk outside. I live in a condo unit, I walk outside, and I walk to the grass, grassy patch and I just will lay down in the grass. I literally just lay down and hopefully it's sunny. It's not always, but when it's sunny. I'll just lay there in the grass and I'll just lay on Mother Earth and, and just walk barefoot around and lay on Mother Earth. I tried to do 30 minutes a day right now and it's it's very healing if you don't knock to try it

Freddy Owen: and there's like so many benefits of it I've read out like I was doing it and it literally it helps i think i think it helps with anxiety and because the earth is a healing Earth is it helps healing.

Jesse Harless: Yeah, you know, so even if I heard like inflammation it reduces like it's it's really amazing that benefits.

Freddy Owen: Wow. Okay, so that that was a little bit of a longer question, but I had to dive into that because I had a gut feeling you did that. Okay, so if animals could talk which one would be the rudest?

Jesse Harless: Which one would be the rudest I'd probably say a squirrel.

Freddy Owen: You know what they are, they are jerks. They can be jerks sometimes. We have a bird feeder, and this one squirrel just loves to stretch out and Eat all the food so the squirrel, good answer. Good answer. Okay, what set of items could you buy? That would make the cashier the most uncomfortable? Well,

Freddy Owen: I could tell you, I could tell you mine

Freddy Owen: from past experience, which is stupid, but it's a supermarket

Freddy Owen: What's any kind of place or the kind of place because Okay, I'll just dive in there. When I first got married. I had my wife first ask me to go get her some tampons. I think I was more embarrassed, obviously, or something like that. But, Okay, I gotta take that back. I was embarrassed. I don't know why now, I just don't care. I threw him on the, you know, I was young and you know, married 20 years, but I went the first time he told me that I was like, what are you supposed to do? Uh, she's like, no, but it was

Jesse Harless: like, Oh, no, but do you have any ideas? Man, you know, in a store. I mean, that's a tricky one. I mean, I don't I don't mean for me for a while, it would have been just like a, like maybe condoms or you know? Because it's it's like I've been single for a while off and on and so like to buy them it's like my something my mind's like, they know you're not using those, you know, they'd be like

Jesse Harless: saved everything for myself actually the cashier if you're having a great time

Freddy Owen: Oh yeah, you know that you know there's taking something, you know, so Okay, we move on and what is something that is really popular right now but in five years, everyone will look back on it and be embarrassed by it.

Jesse Harless: Man, that's a good one. Let's see right now something right now. I mean, oh my god, I'm glad I don't follow the trends because I'd have an instant answer but something they'd be embarrassed by the view now because if somebody like dances and things I'm seeing and I'm like, that's probably going to be embarrassing, but I don't even know what they are. Hmm,

Freddy Owen: yeah, I think Well, here's the thing. I don't follow the trends either, you know, you're correct. Absolutely correct. If you go on to you see a lot of people dancing and or they just do something like, especially when they do something so stupid.

Jesse Harless: But is it wearing a mask?

Freddy Owen: Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's Yeah. I really hope that you know, because I know in some states because we went to New York City. Reese this past weekend, it was a quick in and out because we had to get my son stuff out of his college. But in Pennsylvania and in New York, it was mandatory no matter what you had to walk in with a mask. Yes. Any storage or anything in Ohio. It's not that way. Is it? where you're at is

Jesse Harless: the same way. It's like the supermarket Whole Foods. Yes. But for the most part I mean, to be honest, it was the first time I really left to go anywhere, it was like last week. I just been going to Sam's Sam's Club doesn't have that but you know, Whole Foods has the rule that we're to where the mass so I'm not sure the rest of the state actually, I think we just opened up though. So

Freddy Owen: you know, what's crazy is actually I was staying at home a lot more than I usually do, I would very, very rarely go to the store. But when I did go to the store, I felt I was seeing all the masks, you know, and it definitely died down, but it was freaking me out. That kind of seeing all the mass was actually freaking me out instead of making it better in my opinion. But I see the point. Some people have issues I completely understand that by all means, but yes, that's a very, very good answer. Plus, my thing is doing stupid things on video and not really thinking before you do them. And then once you get online, it's not going to be taken off in most cases. Unless you're, you know, so you gotta be careful with that.

Freddy Owen: So the final thing is, is there anything how let's what would you leave with the freedom to show one last thing that you could that you believe like statement or that you live by? That could help them tremendously in life? What would it be?

Jesse Harless: Yeah, I mean really just off the top of my whatever is coming in my intuition you know all is how I look at it all as well if you allow it to be released and let go of what you're trying to control and continue to practice small habits with frequency and consistency. This will lead to a lot of peace, a lot of success and get you right through this quarantine period, to be honest, right through this decade.

Freddy Owen: Jesse, you have been a wealth of knowledge guys make sure you look at the show notes. I want to thank you so much for being on the radio show you have been a tremendous guest and it's been an honor to have you on

Jesse Harless: thank you so much buddy. Appreciate it.

Freddy Owen: Awesome episode today fam. I had a blast having Jesse on today he delivered some great value. And thank you to you as well for tuning in today's episode of The HF radio show you guys are rock stars. I also want to make sure that you head over to winwithfred.com to check out the show notes and grab all the chests he has to offer today. Plus all of his contact info. He is a great great guy and you can learn some really cool information from him. I also highly recommend that you start taking cold showers adding them to your daily regimen. I'm on week number two, and I've already seen some really significant benefits. One of them is that I sleep better. My heart rate is lower. So take action, give it a shot. You'll love it. Last but not least visit winwithfred.com/FMA to become a member of the new Facebook group. I have the funnel mastery Alliance. I know you will absolutely love it. Tons of value going to be back there. So definitely head back there. That's it for episode number five. Thanks for tuning in. It was a great one. This is Freddie Owen and until next time, my friends stay hungry.

NLP Master Paul Turner Wants to Help People their Mindset and Money

The Freddy “O” Show Episode #4: NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Master Paul Turner Wants to Help people with their mindset and their money

ABOUT Paul Turner

Qualified Master NLP Practitioner | Six Figure Online Marketer | Forex Trader

Paul loves living the laptop lifestyle you always hear about.

He loves taking breaks checking on his online business and clients while having a cup of tea overlooking the sea.

Let’s clear this name thing up – Paul Turner is sort of a standard name and there's a famous musician who took all of the highest spots on Google and my chosen domain name. I do not play bass guitar!!! If you thought I did then you’ve found the incorrect Paul Turner and now you recognize why I even have a pretentious domain name!

Paul lives in Grantham within the United Kingdom. Grantham is famous for Issac Newton, Margaret Thatcher (first female British Prime Minister – Paul actually lived a few doors down from where she was born and where her family’s corner shop was.) 

Also, Grantham was voted as the most boring town in Britain! Now you know why he loves the internet!

He is happily married to the lovely Laraine, and has a son, Glenn. He also has three cats as well. 

Previous work has included retail and being a neighborhood manager for an outsized company within the UK – the hours were long and therefore the work was hard, but it taught him tons and enabled him to travel. 

Paul currently has his very own SEO (search engine optimization) business and he also works online in network marketing which is one among the best professions within the world endorsed by many top business people now.

Pauls hobbies are watching cinema and playing guitar. One of the biggest regrets of his life is owning a Gibson Les Paul Custom and selling it because he didn’t have time to play it and he needed the money. 

He loves waking up to sales and also seeing his team members break free from their jobs. So to break it all down, he loves assisting people to get free like he did.

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Free E-Book: An Introduction to NLP “How to Hack your brain for Success.”

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CONTACT

Pauls personal email: paulturnerofficial@gmail.com

Pauls blog: therealpaulturner.com

Episode #4 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen: Today's Rockstar guest Paul Turner on the mic today fam, and I am stoked. He wants to help you break free from the garbage that stops you from getting to where you want to be in life by helping you with your mindset, and your money. Three, two, one. It's Go Time!

My Beautiful Wife Kristy: Thank you for listening to the Freddy” O” show, a podcast devoted to you the listener, your purpose, your mindset and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now here's your host, Freddy O.

Freddy Owen: Oh, yeah, is right, because not only do we have an awesome guest today, but we have an awesome individual listening to today's show as well. And that is you. Yes, you. I'm going to thank you for taking the time out of your day to listen to episode number four of the Freddie O. show. This is Freddy Owen. And now before I get to today's guest, I wanted to extend the invite to a brand new Facebook group. I just started called, “The Funnel Mastery Alliance” that was created to focus on funnel creation strategies, marketing ideas, lead generation plus so much more. To join, all you have to do is go to winwithfred.com/FMA just answer a few simple questions and boom, we'll get you on the inside. So I'm looking forward to connecting with each and every one of you in the Facebook community. Also, you can access all podcast show notes from today's episode at winwithfred.com so make sure you go ahead and do that as well. Now, today's guest The first time I was able to listen to him and what he has to offer I was sucked in. Okay, so all the way across the pond in Cornwall, the United Kingdom. We have the one and only Paul Turner. Welcome to the Freddy O. show. Paul, how are you and I'm super pumped to have you on? 

Paul Turner: Well, I'm very excited to be here. You've popped my podcast cherry. This is the first podcast. So this you've got the honor of taking that.

Freddy Owen: Thank you. So to get things rolling, first off Who is Paul Turner? 

Paul Turner: That's me. Now, okay. So okay, who is Paul Turner. So I am probably like a lot of people who will probably hate their jobs currently, but I really used to hate my job. And so, you know, went to school did what you usually do fell into a job, I used to actually stack shelves in a supermarket. That's what I used to do. And I kind of got built my way up to a point where they were gonna, they were kind of getting rid of the job that I was aiming for. So I kind of have no career progression to get to. Long story cut short ended up, I've sold mobile phones and done all sorts of things hated it always hated having my time took away. And that's why I ended up I guess, in kind of the online world that we inherited, people don't want to know everything else. I guess what I'm married, got one son, come from a place called Grantham.

Paul Turner: In the UK and I will tell you a little bit about Grantham right? Just so you guys are aware he's famous for a couple of things, really three things. One, Isaac Newton was born just outside of Grantham. And I actually went to the same school as Isaac Newton, you know, who discovered gravity? 

Freddy Owen: Really? Yeah.

Paul Turner: That's heavy, right? Yeah. And it's very heavy. Oh, so “Gravity” you see what I did there.

Freddy Owen: Absolutely

Paul Turner: Also, the first female prime minister in Britain was born actually on the same street I used to live on. So with that, that was one claim to fame. And then the other thing and you can look this up on the internet, so you guys know I'm not lying. It was actually voted the most boring town in Britain. Three years. I think it's three years in a row. 

Freddy Owen: Why is it the most boring town?

Paul Turner: There's nothing to do so now you all know why I turned to the internet. It was great. I don't drink, drugs, illicit substances or the internet and I chose the internet and the world of online marketing for my sins. So, yeah, so that's where I'm from and kind of, you know, up until this point, that's what you need to know. I used to really hate my job and I'll let you direct the way this is gonna go.

Freddy Owen: Absolutely. So what would you say? Like, okay, you're in the online world. 

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: What is your main passion that you love so far? That you bring to the table that you actually help others? You know, help others people that are just starting out what is your main passion? What do you what do you love to do?

Paul Turner: Okay, well, I'm gonna I'm gonna kind of answer that by going off on a very short story.

Freddy Owen: Okay, absolutely.

Paul Turner: So you understand the context on why I say it. So here's the thing that is that happened to me. I worked online I worked really hard. I used to work long hours. So I used to put a lot of effort in a lot of sweat equity, as they say a lot missed a lot of family time and stuff like that. And eventually, eventually Fred like a lot of people you get some sort of success if you just keep doing it if you stubborn and when I got to a level of success, not Not where I'm at now, but just the level of success where I could pay bills from my internet marketing. I wanted to go out there and I wanted to share with the world how I did it. And that's very common. I see you do it. You know, I see a mutual friend of ours, Bob, do it. A lot of people that get successful, they want to share what they've done to help other people. Yes, correct. You with me on that? it just seemed everybody that gets successful. That's what they want to do. I wanted to shout from the rooftops guys, I can help you, this is what you do. So I started doing that, thinking, I was going to save everybody. And what I found is I could give to people exactly the same product, the same online opportunity, the same training that I had, I could even introduce them to some of the mentors that I've had along the way to get them personal trainings. And I would spend hours showing them exactly what I did. And yet most people wouldn't get anywhere near the level of success, even though I shared exactly what I did. And what has always fascinated me is how come I could give to people exactly the same stuff. One could take it and be successful and another one couldn't and no actually even failing or not not even making a sale or whatever. So with that in mind, you'll see why I say my passion now is completely completely mindset. And that is what I really love to do. I really love to help people break through kind of their limiting beliefs actually get to a point where they are making some money. And that is why I went off and I studied this thing called NLP.

Freddy Owen: NLP what is NLP stand for?

Paul Turner: I set you up for that because I knew you'd ask, “Neuro Linguistic Programming,” and it's got neuro, the brain linguistic is language and people programming. So it's literally how your brain works. It's how your brain talks to itself. And it's how it does what it does. And it's often called the science of success because the guy one of the guys that came came up with this whole field of NLP. He actually stayed with a psychiatrist and He the course he was on a computer programming course. And he's, he's the lab flooded, I think it was he actually ended up collapsing. So, so he was staying with a psychiatrist had nothing to do. So he started reading the psychiatrists books, and they're full of things like when somebody has a phobia. This is what happens when somebody is scared of this. This is what happens when somebody has blocks. This is how they make those blocks in their head. This is what they do. And he went to the psychologist, he said, Well, you've got loads of books that I've read, and they all talk about when people have got a problem, how they do it. Where's the books that tell me how to get around it? And he looked Okay, so there aren't any, there arent any 

Freddy Owen: And that's where NLP comes into play.

Paul Turner: That's right. That's where it that's where it came from. It was that initial idea. Well, if we can study why people get these problems, why they may be hallucinate and get phobias and do all these bad things. Why can't we study people that are successful and find out what they do as well? So he turned the whole thing on his head and, and sure enough, so let me let me just tell you how it works. Me, I actually went and I'd read books and kind of was interested. And it was interesting. It was great. I learned a few things. Few things worked. But I actually went tonight actually did the course my good lady wife, Lorraine said, you know what we need to do this, and at the time couldn't really afford it. So we went and I actually, it was 10 weekends over the course of a year. And for 13 years where we live now in Cornwall a little bit when Americans say Cornwall so when when we actually we used to come down on air and holiday Fred on vacation, and we absolutely loved it. And it was a 13 year long dream we've been we've been coming for 15 years at the time and for 13 years of that every year we said we were going to move on we never managed it could never afford it could never sort of make it happen within I think it was six lessons in NLP from from that from that particular weekend. I remember the weekend and what we learned. We moved in four months and I made $124,000 In four months. From getting my mindset right okay and and that just made me even more passionate Fred.

Freddy Owen: Now let me jump in there because mindset motivation all that stuff is used very loosely in this and in anything that we see online or listen to so NLP is a set like would you say it's like a scientific method would you say it's just like a psychological method? What would you say? What's the best way of describing NLP?

Paul Turner: It's a series of tools to help you. Do you know what it's always very difficult to give a definition of NLP one reason apart from anything else if something works NLP takes in claims as its own. But it's basically a set of tools to help you change your thinking and your behavior to something that serves you better. So for example, a friend of mine, she was really scared of clowns. When she was about seven years old. They went to the circus clown came out into the audience and grabbed her mom to pull her into the pull her into the circle to do like a trick on her. Yeah, part of part of the fun. Okay, but the seven year old girls like, Oh my god, they're taking my mom away. Right? Yeah. And she ended up with a phobia of clowns  she obviously you showed her a picture of a clown. She couldn't take it. Now, normally, we don't come across times very often in our daily life, do we? So it's not really a problem for most people. But it wasn't a problem for her really, until she have kids of her own. And one day they come running out of school all excited Mommy, Mommy, we've got free tickets to the circus. So she's breaking out in a pool of sweat right in front of all the other parents while she's collecting the kids. So then it's a problem and we got rid of that in 15 minutes. Really minutes we got rid of that and when she said that, the only problem is when she sees a clown now she laughs harder than anybody else.

Freddy Owen: So it's funny you say that because my wife has a phobia of people in costumes. Yeah. Because when she was younger, her, I believe it was her cousin came out. I don't know if it was a Michael Myers or some kind of creepy costume and scared the bejesus out of her. So she needs to do NLP. 

Paul Turner: I will. Tell you what I will tell you what we do guys, I will do an NLP session for your wife if she wants me to do an NLP session. I'll do that for you. And then you can let your listeners know in the comments or whatever in this podcast. Whatever you do, you can let us know if it works or not. 

Freddy Owen: So NLP really helps people conquer their fears.

Paul Turner: It helps people conquer their fears. But more than that, and what what really helped me there's a thing in NLP called outcomes. And so, most people if you think about Sat Nav if and If I say, if I, if you and me, okay, if we were on this podcast, we asked the audience, how much would you make like to make online? What's the average answer as far as you're concerned? Fred? What do you think the most common things?

Freddy Owen: I see a lot of people, you know, especially when they're starting out for some reason, they're saying I would have met, you know, it's a good thing. It's, I want to make a million I want to make, you know, 2 million. Yeah. It's always in the millions.

Paul Turner: It's always millions. The other one that I get a lot is 10 k a month, they seem to be kind of the two. Nobody wants to make five k a month. Nobody wants to make 20 k a month, they want to 10 K, or they want to make a million, right? They kind of want to be, you know that they're always aiming big. Okay. Now, when I asked them, so what would that mean to you? They go, Oh, well, I could quit my job. Okay. Yeah. Well, where would you live? I don't know. I guess I'd get another house. And would you wear the same sort of clothes and would you eat the same sort of food and, you know, what would you do? So here's the thing, see, the your brain if I say to you, Fred, I'm gonna ask you listeners as well. Guys, you understand English, don't you Fred?

Freddy Owen: Absolutely. Mostly.

Paul Turner: So if I say to you don't and or do not you understand what that means? Correct? 

Freddy Owen: Yes

Paul Turner: You understand English, right? So I'm going to tell you now whatever you do, Fred, under no circumstances, do not think of a blue elephant with wings flying over the Eiffel Tower in France in the moonlight. What shade of blue was the elephant Fred?

Freddy Owen: Yes, you're right. I did it right when you came, okay.

Paul Turner: So here's the thing, people want to make a million dollars, they want to make 10 k a month, but they don't know what it means because their brain can't make sense of $10 million, or 10,000 a month or a million. It can't make sense of it. It has to go and make a picture in its brain of what you want. And unless you are specific, it can't make the picture. Anybody that's got young kids will know if you tell your kids don't go in the kitchen. Don't spill your milk what's likely to happen. The reason is they're making a big picture of spilling them In their heads, they're making a big picture of going into the kitchen and kids are great because they don't have filters that's why they believe it certain Christmas time they believe in certain figures that may just be jaysus children listening go ahead

Freddy Owen: Can you believe it's also involved with self belief?

Paul Turner: 100% 100%

Freddy Owen: NLP helps fight that.

Paul Turner: So here we go so if we work it through Okay, a we have a thing called a score model it might be relevant to go through that so the first one S stands for symptoms so you know with the Sat Nav when we talked about you know, you can't just put in a sitemap take me to where do you live Fred? What what what city?

Freddy Owen: Akron, Ohio, Home of LeBron James.

Paul Turner: Okay so if I put in Sat Nav and put  in Ohio, is that going to get me to your house? 

Freddy Owen: No.

Paul Turner: So how can he can't take me there and be specific where I want to go? The other thing is, does the satellite navigation system work unless you know where you are now?

Freddy Owen: Say that one more time.

Paul Turner: So there's the satellite navigation system, can it get me to you? Unless it knows where it is right now?

Freddy Owen: It does not, it cannot,

Paul Turner: It needs two things. So the first at the first thing in the model we use in NLP is  called S. And that's for symptoms that is, Where am I now? Am I making enough money? Am I free from my job? Do I end? Do I have all the knowledge I need? What what where am I just where am I? That's like Sat Nav going you are here, you know, where am I? So then we need to know the causes. Because unless you know the causes, you can't put them right, can you so the next thing is, well, I'm stuck in a job I hate the reason is because I can't afford to get into that business with Fred or Paul or whatever. So that that's the cause of it. I don't earn enough money. So you get very clear on your causes. Then what we do we look at outcomes and this is where you get incredibly specific about where you want to go and then because Your brain doesn't understand English we need the brain takes information in through the five senses. Okay? Through your sight, through sound through feeling in the body, you know when you feel excited or you feel depressed or whatever, okay, and by touch, so we can we need we need to program the brain, okay in the same way. So if somebody wants to make a million that's great, that's noble, but you need to know what will you get? How will you know when you've hit a million not just by it could be seen the numbers in your bank account that's the visual element. But what will you feel in your body? What will you hear? We be in the same house? What sort of foods will you eat? Will you drive the same car? You need to think about it guys and know your outcome? That's the Oh, we call this the same as a goal but we call it outcomes, okay? But it goes way beyond.

Freddy Owen: So you're to me it sounds like you're programing someone, programing is a weird word to say, but you're putting them in that situation before they're even in the situation. 

Paul Turner: 100 percent because then the brain can work out how to get you there. And we have lots of brilliant we have lots of tools. And so what I find is we often the The next one is R and that's resources and resources is what what resources have you got to get you where you want to go, Okay, and what resources will you need to get you where you want to go? Now, this is the interesting thing. If you take if you get a newborn baby, it's only scared of two things. loud noise and fear of falling. So if you if you pick a baby up and you look like you're gonna go and drop it, it will try and cling. And if you make a loud noise, it will cry. They're the only two things if you put a baby in front of a king cobra snake, right? The baby isn't afraid. And babies naturally love themselves. They're fascinated by every part of the body. You seen a baby look at its feet and it's hands and play around. A baby will even play with its own poop It's true. We're only born with two fears. You know everything else fear of people in costumes, fear of clowns, fear of doing a Facebook Live video that might help you grow your business. Yeah, all of that is learned. So what the biggest insight I think I have in NLP and what people do is they do it to themselves. They go down these routes, they get stuck in these grooves, we call them strategies in NLP. And people are naturally confident it gets knocked out of them as they get as they grow up. If you ever said to you kids, anybody listening, think about this, if you say to if you've ever said to kids, so listen, when we get there, you'd be good. Now. If you've ever said anything like that, what does that mean? It means for them to have to be good. They must be bad. When you get there, you'd be good.

Freddy Owen: So when you're before you get there, you're going to be bad.

Paul Turner: But yeah, that's the presupposition isn't it? that assumes if you're telling me when I get there, I have to be good. That assumes that you expect me to be bad. Maybe I'm bad.

Freddy Owen: It's very true.

Paul Turner: How do we screw our kids up? How many times do you tell your kids? No, because you love for them and you care for them? How many times do you tell your kids? No. Compared to it? Yeah, go for it. You're doing great. Fantastic.

Freddy Owen: Very true. Yeah. And that's one thing I've always tried to instill in my son is, is positive reinforcement. And it can definitely, you try and you say you're trained. being trained. It's like more so you're being trained by the world and the world's habits.

Paul Turner: Yeah, you'll definitely definitely be affected. And like I say, up until the age of about seven, eight, you have no, you have no filters in your brain to that's why you believe in monsters under the bed as a kid. It's why you can pick a stick up as a boy, I'm sure a lot of boys have done it. You pick a stick up as a young child, and it's a stick, but 30 seconds later, it's a submachine gun and it's making all the noises and you're, you're saving the world against the bad guys. And it's all like really, real in your head. That's because you don't have the same filters you have as an adult. So unfortunately, your parents, your grandparents, your teachers, your religious authority figures, everything that goes on around you kind of programs you at an age when you're most vulnerable. And we also learn to be victims. If you think about it, you got when you're born, you're helpless, right? So your parents quite rightly have to take care of you. So not only do they do everything for you, they whipe your backside for you, they feed you, they clean you. They'll also entertain you and make Goo Goo. They'll entertain you while they're doing it. So you become reliant on them. And as you go through life, what happens is, you have to go to school and you have teachers telling you what to do and headmaster's, and Headmistress is and then you go to college, you got people telling you what to do, and eventually get a job and you got a boss telling you what to do. And it's no wonder we go through life program this way to kind of be you know, think it's the world has an effect on us and we have no effect on the world. The best way I heard it put is we tend to be the thermostat. The thermometer we Yeah, we tend to be the thermometer rather than the thermostat. We should be the thermostat we should kick in, and we should dictate our environment. And then that score model I mentioned SCORE symptoms, causes, outcomes, resources. E stands for effects. When I've done it, what will the effects be? But the biggest the biggest insight Fred I want people to know is you are born confident you can do it. It's just that you've had you've been told no a lot through your life. Okay. You've had stuff happen to you. You've had bosses tell you what to do. Okay, you've had religious people tell you what to do. You've had peer pressure. With the people around you, you've learned you've had it knocked out of you. NLP really doesn't build you up. It just removes all the bullcrap that you've had in your life that took it away. And that was..Go Ahead.

Freddy Owen: It takes you. It basically takes you out of your identity into your essence. 

Paul Turner: Yeah, yeah.

Freddy Owen: Of who you really are.

Paul Turner: Who you really are before all that stuff changed you. We're all naturally confident at times are all so a lot of people I'm involved with forex trading big time. And one of the things with that is consistency. And a lot of people say, Oh, I'm just not consistent. And I say, Do you brush your teeth every day? And they go well, yeah. When you've been to I like to be a little bit, I like to kind of shut people out of the matrix. So I'll say, when you go to the toilet, do you want your backside and they go? Yeah, every time of course today, I'll see you consistent. Do you have breakfast every day? Yeah. Are you consistent? See, we all do it. We all do these things. We are consistent. We are naturally confident we're confident when we go and do like make a cup of coffee. We're confident doing that, aren't we? And  NLP can help you tap into that as well and adapt it and take it into other areas of your life. Like maybe building a business whatever it is.

Freddy Owen: Now, he said that NLP helped after the six week 

Paul Turner: Yes.

Freddy Owen: Or sixth visit.

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: Help transform your mindset. 

Paul Turner: Yes.

Freddy Owen: After and how, if you don't mind me asking how old were you when you started doing NLP? 

Paul Turner: I wish I'd done it a lot earlier so I would have been 48.

Freddy Owen: Okay, so 48 years old, you had 48 years of programming? 

Paul Turner: Yes.

Freddy Owen: Of? And in six sessions you said. 

Paul Turner: Yes, six weekends.

Freddy Owen: Six weekends, you completely flip the switch?

Paul Turner: Yes.

Freddy Owen: That's amazing. So, I know that we had talked about before, doing the interview that you are going to be able to introduce them a little bit deeper into NLP because I know that it's a lot deeper than what we're talking about. Correct?

Paul Turner: Yeah. And, you know, some of it is, you know, we're on a podcast so it's difficult to conduct a can't show stuff. So the visual element and most you know, 70% of people are visual, we do visual a lot. So I'm going to do that. I'm going to do what I can.

Freddy Owen: You have a you have something that we're gonna give, I'm gonna actually put on the show notes. Okay. Link a link that they can go to that they can learn more about it.

Paul Turner: I've got an introduction to NLP guys. So if you go it's my blog on my blog, therealpaulturner.com and on the right hand side in the sidebar or maybe underneath if you're on your phone, but Fred's gonna put the link in and I've actually got an intro to NLP. And if you're interested, you can go and read a bit more about it. You know what it means what it can do for you. And then I've actually got a course you can go check out but that intro absolutely free. It's some good stuff in there that will help you make sense of all this.

Freddy Owen: I will definitely have the link on there. And if you do go on to therealpaulturner.com. You scroll down, it's under mindset help and it has Paul with his hand up. And definitely you guys won't take advantage of that. I have had phobias I have had built in fears I have had fears to where I didn't want to go on live because of I didn't I? First of all, a lot of it's holding on to the past of what happened to you When the past.

Paul Turner: Yep.

Freddy Owen: And that's dangerous because that can hold you back. You know so much. And it took me I don't know 40, jeez louise, to finally get to where I was brave enough to actually take this step outside of my job that was in 2012. So I was like, I can't do the math right now but you know it's 2020 I'm 46 if I know like you said I wish I would have done earlier if I would have if I had known then I know now, it's that thing. So if you are listening to this, take advantage of that because you do not want to live the status quo. You do not want to live under the the false I guess you could say it's like false comfort of the life you live in when it could be so much better.

Paul Turner: Well, the thing is, if you I mean a lot of people read the book, “Think and Grow Rich,” for me. It's a classic If you a lot of people are into self development, there's so many people that have read it and they're not rich. You know, if it was as simple as reading a book, it would be great. But what happens is like you just mentioned that I love what you just said stuff from the past. So what your brain does anytime you get in a situation, your brain is trying to help you and it does a wonderful job of pulling up things from the past to keep you safe. We have a we have a thing called a psycho cybernetics system in our heads and its job is to keep you safe. Have you heard that expression, “better the devil you know?”

Freddy Owen: No, I have not. Say it again?

Paul Turner: “Better the Devil you know.”

Freddy Owen: No.

Paul Turner: So it must be an English thing. So we have an expression and it's like okay, look, I'm not happy in my job. But if I go to this other job, or I do this online marketing thing, I might get scammed and I had a family who's got a friend's dogs, uncles, cousins, sisters brothers, twice removed Ex wife's friend says that they tried something like this and it was a scam. So even though I'm not happy where I am, maybe better the devil, you know, I know this devil, I'll stick with this devil, I'll stay here. And I think a lot of people are in that sort of groove there that they're unhappy. But they're not unhappy enough that book “Think and Grow Rich,” was written in the Great Depression. People literally couldn't afford to eat. Now I get people telling me they're broke, go and check them out on on Facebook, check out their profile, two cars on the drive. We've got cell phone, they've got an iPad, they've got a computer, they've got internet access, they can watch films anytime they want. If we went out in locked down at them at the minute, I don't know, it's like in the States, but even now, I can get Chinese cuisine, Indian cuisine, Mexican cuisine, and I've been in I live in a little village in Cornwall I can I can get cuisine from all around the world anytime I want. Okay, just from going to the local Chinese takeaway, you know, and people tell me they're broke. We're not actually that broke. We're not that unhappy. Really are we? You know, they're everything we've got. So so what happens is you think, Well, you know, I'm I would like to maybe improve my life and I'd like to give this a go. And I'd like to have a recurring income like Paul and Fred and I'd like to be able to make money anytime I want for my own skill. But I'm doing this because what happens is your Psycho Cybernetics system helps. It's like an autopilot and it wants to keep you safe. anything out of the norm, isn't say. So what it does is it does a great job of pulling up things from the past and say, Hey, do you remember when you try to do that and you failed? And it could be when you were a kid? You remember when that person said that you'll never amount to anything that was put in years ago. And what we do with NLP in that case is like with the phobias, okay, when there's a specific event, but you mentioned with your wife there, what we do is we change that memory we reprogram that memory we make we change the colors we change the size of the image, we put different sounds in we do all sorts of things, other people laughing at their phobias, that it was a phobia to start with 15 minutes later they are laughing at their phobias. We reprogram it and then you've got your whole life to move forward without that baggage holding you back.

Freddy Owen: That that part of your brain basically rationalizes why you shouldn't do it.

Paul Turner: Exactly. And it's trying to keep you safe. It's doing a great job, we shouldn't be angry with it. It's trying to do a great job. But it's that is that is recognizing it. And then, you know, realizing that it's not actually helping you anymore, and even doing some NLP getting some help. And you can just if you keep reading self development, you can do it. You can do it eventually. But I like I say, so many people read, Think and Grow Rich, so many people read it Robbins books, and they're still exactly where they are. It's like diet books. I always use the example of diet books. How easy is it to lose weight Fred?

Freddy Owen: Oh, it's simple. No, it's not. Not at all

Paul Turner: It is! You eat less calories than you burn. So if you eat less, and you move more, you'll lose weight. Well, unless you've got an underlying medical condition maybe, but but 99.9% of people. If you put less calories in then you burn you're gonna lose Because you probably have used the fat reserves. Everybody knows it. How many diet books are there? How many diet DVDs, exercise DVDs, how many pills Can you buy? How many potions? How many lotions? Yeah, it's because it's easy. It's so easy, but it's not. Because you want to eat the cake.

Freddy Owen: That's, are you kidding? Are you doing NLP to me right now with dieting? That's amazing. No, you just. Well, he made a good point. It's like we have it right in front of us.

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: We know what we have to do.

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: But something whether it be like for instance, if it's dieting gluttony is going to hold us back from gain. Where do you want to or laziness?

Paul Turner: Yeah. A lot of people know that. I mean, I say to a lot of people do Facebook Lives, build your business. Without a doubt Facebook Lives is what has built my business. Give me a nice six figure recurring income. Okay, and I tell people, this is what I do. Do a Facebook Live and Do you know when when they ask people their fears? Did you know that fear of public speaking comes above actual fear of dying? So you're better off in the coffin caught in the coffin at the eulogy, rather than giving the eulogy?

Freddy Owen: And I it's crazy because it Why is that? It's literally it's a self image thing.

Paul Turner: People don't look stupid. I don't give a crap.

Freddy Owen: Oh, I definitely I. And my first I would say. Honestly, I've been doing this for 10 years now. My first five, six years, I was trying to do videos, and I would literally record a full video. Watch it over, pick myself apart. 

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: And then delete it.

Paul Turner: I've done it.

Freddy Owen: And then do it again. And then delete it.

Paul Turner: Yeah.

Freddy Owen: And if I would have just put it out there I would have gotten better. And now and I do have some out there. I actually go back to and say I look at myself and I'm like, Wow, you've come a long way from back then to now because you really started to stay consistent but it was not easy by any means. That so that's good.

Paul Turner: Yeah, I was just gonna say you reminded me of that joke actually, how do you get a fat person off the diet? 

Freddy Owen: How?

Paul Turner: Piece of cake.

Freddy Owen: You're a trip. So um what what time of the day, umm, with with NLP. Do you like just, is it something that you use every day you wake up and how do you get your day rolling with using NLP?

Paul Turner: Well, okay. There's very there's various things you can do. But listen, NLP practitioners, they're human like everybody else and my wife. Really interesting. Actually. My wife did the course with me. Thank God we did it together because three we were the only couple. Three of the people on the course actually left their partners

Freddy Owen: Woah.

Paul Turner: They realized they were on a different path and it kind of gave them the confidence to me and Lorraine very much together and some of the other people by the way, they got much stronger as couples I don't need to think that no people getting divorced, okay, but it gave people that that personal freedom but I will say is we're all we are still people and sometimes we'll walk around me and Lorraine and we'll go over this pain and we'll remember to say, you know, the other person will say well have you have used that NLP exercise to help get rid of that pain? Oh, no, no, I haven't you know, so it is about catching yourself so so one of the things that I do I don't consciously quite wake up and go, ah you know what, today I'm going to do NLP for this and do NLP for that. A lot of the things like I say if you change the past, in your head, we have a saying in NLP it's never too late to have a happy childhood. If you Change the things in the past they stopped affecting you now and in the future. So you kind of can deal with it. You know, it's like my friend with the clown she she laughs at clowns now she doesn't have to get up every day and consciously do anything. So what one thing that I am very aware of though is something called anchors. The core anchors in NLP Have you heard of Pavlov's dogs?

Freddy Owen: I've heard Pavlov. But Pavlov's Dogs?

Paul Turner: Pavlov's Dogs. But just in case anybody hasn't heard of them, basically, Russian scientists, Pavlov. Fed his dogs and he'd notice his dogs would salivate every time he went to feed them, okay. So he was interested in psychology and he was interested in something called conditioned response, which we now call anchors. So what he did is every time he fed these dogs and they would salivate, he'd ring a bell, and they got to the point where you could just ring the bell and the dogs would salivate. You didn't need to have any food around. He'd get a physical reaction in the dogs just by ringing the bell. Okay, conditioned response, and I'll tell you how. How I really understood them before I actually did the NLP course right? was when I used to work I used to travel to a place called Peterborough is about a 24, 25 mile journey from my house. And as I was approaching, it was a computer shop I used to work and used to sell computers. And as we they done some road repairs and as you drove down the road towards the store, the roadworks would meant that the car made a noise as the tires went over and it went. The only reason I remember it is because if you watch Terminator 2, that's the music.

Freddy Owen: Oh Gosh, yeah, sound just like thinking the same thing.

Paul Turner: And that was the only reason I remember it. Right? That's the only reason it stood out because it's a bit like Terminator 2 as your tires went over. And it was also coincidentally just before the store. So it was time when you'd like check your name badge, maybe comb your hair, check your look in the mirror as you drive into the car part, right. So anyway, leave that job right and it was about four years later I was back in Peterborough. For something, I thought, you know what, I'll pop in and see my old store and used to work. So I'm driving along. And all of a sudden, I went to check my name badge for a job that I frickin left four years ago.

Freddy Owen: That's crazy. So it's a trigger?

Paul Turner: It's a trigger, and we say fire an anchor. So it's like you pull the trigger, you fire it. Okay? So how many times have you smelled something and it's taking you straight back to a previous time?

Freddy Owen: Numerous times,

Paul Turner: And the smell goes straight into your brain. There's no filters. That's why smell is very powerful in terms of like taking you back somewhere. And it's the same sometimes you see something it reminds you and you feel the way you did you act like the way you did, it takes you straight back. Now, it's also why when you have an argument with somebody, sometimes and you can make up but when you see them again, you still really cross and you can't really work out why? It's because anchors are done. They're installed. It's called installed, either by repetition or you me driving to that place of work five days a week. I want to comb my hair now. So it's a repetition and or strong emotional intensity, like an argument. And the example I always give is if you put your hand in a flame, how long does it take you to work out not to do it again? Only once, right? 

Freddy Owen: Yeah.

Paul Turner: Strong emotional intensity because it really hurts. Now, I will tell you a story about a forex trader that I had, and he was basically he had a he was trading with a friend. They were doing it together because his friend was shorts had, he had sight problems. Okay, so he could barely see the screen. So guess which one of them was going to be doing all the trading, right? Because it wasn't just his money. He was scared of trading because he didn't want to lose his friends money. So it was a real problem for him. And I pointed out to him that when you go and you sit at the same desk, and you look at the same computer every day in day out, and you've got that fear of trading or fear of doing Facebook Live or not Taking the actions to build your business. Well, that in itself can become an anchor. Okay, so you sit at the chair, you naturally felt kind of a little bit down on himself before it even started, right. So what we did is I got him to change his desk around, he moved the monitor around. And I said to him, if you could trade successfully, what what would it be like for you? And he said, Well, I'd be a happy bunny. So I made him go out to a toy shop and buy a stuffed rabbit. And he put that on his desk. Last time I spoke to him 76.4% win rate from being too scared. 

Freddy Owen: Wow!

Paul Turner: Just by putting a toy rabbit on his desk. So we associate you being a happy. 

Freddy Owen: And moving his desk!

Paul Turner: And changing a few things round to break the anchor.

Freddy Owen: It's quite amazing. 

Paul Turner: I know. NLP is crazy.

Freddy Owen: I want to go back to something you said. And because I have friends. It's actually hit me in a weird way, but you said it's never too late to have a happy childhood that is amazing. Fantastic saying, because a lot of people, and I was blessed to have great parents, but a lot of people I know, had it rough. And they always go back to that. And that's their anchor, obviously. 

Paul Turner: Yeah. Okay.

Freddy Owen: So that's just amazing.

Paul Turner: So one of the things you can do real quick, quick demo for you and your listeners, I'm assuming you're going to do this at home, but obviously, I can only talk to you, Fred. So Fred, can you think of a food that you really like to eat? 

Freddy Owen: Yes.

Paul Turner: Okay. So this will this work for dieting as well, by the way, but it's a good example to use food. So how much at attend would you want to eat that food now?

Freddy Owen: I say about a seven

Paul Turner: About seven? I want you to make a nice big, vivid picture of that food. 

Freddy Owen: I'm looking at it right now.

Paul Turner: Okay, I want to make the picture bigger and make the colors brighter.

Freddy Owen: Oh it's there.

Paul Turner: Now. How much do you want to eat it now?

Freddy Owen: Probably about a ,about nine, ten, 

Paul Turner: So it's gone up. So now what I want you to make the picture smaller, let the color drained from it so it goes black and white, and make the picture smaller again and smaller again. And now make the picture that you're thinking of that food, make it a bit fuzzy, like you've changed the focus, so it's a bit blurry. How appealing is it now?

Freddy Owen: About a five.

Paul Turner: See it's coming down, same with, by the way, put the color back in correct. Make okay to the right size. Again, I don't need to not want to eat that food. If we if we'd spent another two minutes Fred would actually almost be repulsed by that food. Okay, and we can do that. Now. It's the same with childhood guys. Maybe you've got incidence in your childhood that made you unhappy and you will see a picture of that play in your brain might be a movie might be a still try playing it backward. Let it go. Let it go black and white. Make all the characters in that movie, a cartoon rather than remembering it as real life. Put a different soundtrack in it. Do do anything like that to change That memory and reprogram it, and then you can take the sting out of the unhappy stuff. Now we all have points in our childhood where we were happy. Guess what, like we did with Fred with the food there. And it was more appealing when you make the picture bigger and brighter. And you can increase any sounds that are in there. You can put a nice soundtrack in, you can put music that you find uplifting you know, and that's something I do a lot with the phobia stuff I actually get people to give me a guilty pleasure, pop tune or something. And we play that over over the experience and they associate that cheesy pop music with the it with a phobia and it just takes the sting out of it.

Freddy Owen: It's incredible. It, guys take advantage of what he's going to be giving away. Just take a look at it. I think this can help a ton of people. Obviously it's helped Paul out with his business. And I think it's fantastic. I want to switch gears a little bit.

Paul Turner: Here we go.

Freddy Owen: And I really appreciate you gave some really, really golden nuggets as far as NLP and I want them to dive into what you have to offer so check out the show notes. So if what do you wish you had known before you start out in your online business?

Paul Turner: What do I wish I'd known that I could do it but I could totally do it and and basically basically guys, I wish I'd realized this sooner and people will respect you for giving it a go. They won't laugh at you or judge you only think they're judging you. Because of all the bullshit that has been Sorry, I shouldn't.. the BS that all the BS that you've been fed, okay, it's all BS. Most people don't judge you like you think they judge you most people actually respect you for giving it a go.

Freddy Owen: How long it took you to see success.

Paul Turner: Oh, probably. From my.. that's a good question. I can't remember the exact dates but it will probably be at least. I would say probably at least four years of work. I used to work long hours to be fair. But yeah, four years probably before I saw some success, then I kind of just valid along at that for a little while and like a lot of people, I think you go from one business to another. It's not the business guys. It's you. So you know,

Freddy Owen: Wow, I love it. I love it. So if you could give any like somebody brand new. I think what you basically said it but let's say it in just in this one statement. I'm brand new. What advice would you give me? When I'm starting online? 

Paul Turner: First of all.

Freddy Owen: What direction would you send me? 

Paul Turner: Forward just as long as you move forward, as long as you're moving forward. Here's the thing. Here's the biggest thing, guys, right. And there's so many times I've just moved forward with that knowing what the hell I'm doing. What is it? Bob Proctor always talks about this. Kennedy wanted to put Americans on the moon. So he got one guy was the Chief Scientific advisor or something. And and he said to him, what would it take to put Americans on the moon? And he said, the strong desire to do it, that's all. That's all you need a strong desire to do it. I can't tell you the amount of times I've just moved forward, even though I don't know what I'm doing. I know my end goal. I know what I want to do. JIRA is my outcome. I know what I want to do. I know what my next outcome is, right? I've got, I've got a picture on my wall that represents my outcome. So I see it every frickin day. I know what I want to do, how I'm going to get there. I don't know how to do that. Right. I don't know how to get there yet. What's the difference between where I am now here, and where I want to be over there? What's the difference between here and there? T. That's the only difference between those words here and there. The only difference is the word t It stands for travel. It's a journey. We have the same The map is not the territory. I know where I want to go. And I can try and put a plan in place and I can move forward but I don't know The territory. And what I will promise you guys and this is an absolute promise for me. If you move forward, even though the videos may not be perfect, even though the blog post might not be perfect if that's what you want to do, even if you talk to people and you completely screw it up, and I've done that a lot of times, I've made loads of mistakes, get over making the mistakes, don't worry about it, because you you're not losing, you're gaining experience. The more you do, the more you screw up, the more experience you gain. You as long as you keep moving forward, you and appreciate and accept. You owe it to yourself to make some mistakes because that's how you learn. Good things will come. I didn't know Fred was going to come into my life. Fred's an awesome guy. He's great at building funnels. He's a great resource in NLP we call it a resource. sounds awful to say that guy's a resource. Okay, Fred, Fred is a Fred does great work. This podcast is great. I've listened to some of the podcasts and he gets great people. No pressure for me, then, you know, it's like Jesus. I gotta do something good here. Now, I didn't know that was gonna happen. I didn't know I was gonna meet Bob, I didn't know that I was going to be one of the top leaders in the company. We do trainings from him something I did, I didn't know I was going to discover the strategy. I didn't know somebody was going to program, this amazing piece of software for us in the Forex trading. I didn't know that NLP was going to be such a big part of my life moving forward. I didn't. I didn't know any of that. When I started out, guys, I just had the strong desire to get there. And if you that, sorry, I've rambled on Fred. But that is so important, you move forward, guys, even if it's not perfect, even if it's not right, move. I promise you, I promise you, you'll have good times and bad times. I promise you stuff will come into your life if you keep doing it consistently that you could never have expected that will move you far forward than you would ever know

Freddy Owen: Where, you already got the last question I was gonna ask you before the super hyper fast q&a rounds like I told you about is I've said is there one thing you could tell listeners that you feel could help them tremendously in life? What would that be and obviously that is move forward,

Paul Turner: Move forward.

Freddy Owen: Move forward.

Paul Turner: I would also I would also try and get you out of the matrix. I say that a lot to people. I'm trying to get people out of the matrix. You got to realize most of the stuff you do, guys, listen, fold your arms for me real quick. Do it Fred. Fold your arms. 

Freddy Owen: I'm doing it.

Paul Turner: Look down. I bet you have one hand over one arm and one hand tucked in, correct?

Freddy Owen: Yes, I do.

Paul Turner: Okay, that's what 99.9% of people do quickly as you can reverse that. Do it the other way around.

Freddy Owen: I just did it again.

Paul Turner: How easy is it?

Freddy Owen: Pretty easy. 

Paul Turner: You can do it. But is it just an instant? Like it is like doing it the normal way?

Freddy Owen: No, no, I was fumbling a little bit. 

Paul Turner: Yeah most people fumble. And actually, I could tell I could hear you do it. Most people do it. Actually a lot slower than you. So you're obviously good. But my point is, guys, you have what's called a strategy for doing that. You have a strategy for folding your arms. You have a structure for how you think about money? Yeah, okay, you have a way of doing it that you you fold your arms Fred, because that is most likely the way that your parents did it, or you saw somebody do it the first time you learn, you learn to from that you have a strategy for yourself, belief in your self confidence for how you feel about money, or how you feel about success. And you got to remember 95% of what we do is subconscious. You don't think about how you fold your arms you don't think about Have you ever driven anywhere, right? And you've been in the car an hour and you get where you go, and you're here already have that happen. You've been or you've been in charge of a car, you could kill people, you could mow them down and you're not aware of what you doing. How scary is that?

Freddy Owen: My son says that I'm a terrible driver. And so does my wife, so a lot of my friends, but yes, 100% you get in that into a mode? Absolutely. 

Paul Turner: So you guys just need to realize that all of this has been put in without your consent. So it's time to get out the matrix and wake up and realize that a lot of the way you do things isn't necessarily your way of doing things. It's been picked up has been programmed in by peer pressure by authority figures at a time when you were young and vulnerable and didn't have any adult filters to be able to determine what you want to do so once you realize that you can start working on that and trust me life opens up tremendously

Freddy Owen: Beautiful man I I'm just you've been so knowledgeable man and it's great. So I really want people to take advantage of that. So I will leave that put the link for NLP and we're gonna have more information on Paul obviously in the show notes so make sure you visit winwithfred.com for the show notes. What are you working on right now? I know you said I actually know this. I have to ask this question like this. I know we talked about forex. I'm doing forex, forex as well. What are you working on as far as forex?

Paul Turner: Okay, so the reason that I'm very passionate about the Forex side of things is because so many people in the world of online business network marketing, if I see this, if so, if I have a Facebook ad, and Fred has a Facebook ad. And Fred is very successful. And I'm struggling, Fred could say to me, hey, Paul, don't worry about it. I'll give you my ad. I'll give you my funnel. I'll give you my audience. So you've got everything that I've got. Fred's ad could work brilliantly. And mine will fall flat on its face. But for no apparent reason, it's the same ad. It's the same picture. It's everything could be the same. And all and I've found I've got very burnt out and very frustrated that I couldn't save the world. You know, when I said that I want I got success. I wanted to share it. So a mutual friend introduced me to this guy, and he said, He's making money just off his phone. And I'm like, Yeah, well, that's a scam. That's a total scam. And because it was a mutual friend, I kinda had to take the call and you know, start up the call, and it was forex trading and I I had preconceived ideas. And thankfully, I was open minded enough to actually just look a bit more, and I did and what I found is that your bank trades forex. So if anybody's forex is a scam get money out the bank because the banks trade forex, it's just that they give you very little of the money they make back to you in the form of interest. So I had to look at it, I, I had some money from an affiliate program I said, Well, I'll give it a go and actually ended up doubling my money in 20 days, then it was sold. Now what I will say guys, to be open and honest with you is I lost most of that money in the second month, because I didn't fully knew what I was doing and it is not advisable to go for that. But over the course of the last three years, we have really developed it with a group and we have got very simple strategies that are newbie friendly you will never be scammed because you are putting the trade on yourself. And what I love about it, it's a level playing field. The price that a forex trade, if it goes up, it goes up for Fred. It goes up for me, it goes up for everybody around the world at exactly the same time. It's completely level playing field. The other thing is the zero competition. And what we do in our group is we trade live every day up to seven hours. If you want to take my trades take them it doesn't affect what my my outcome whatsoever, because it's a $6.6 trillion a day industry, if you think even if you're putting thousands if you think that's going to affect the markets you rob, people like me and Fred, we make up about 20% of the total market. And if we all took the same trade, it wouldn't make a dent in what goes on. So I'm very passionate about that, because I see so many people struggling to make money online. And, you know, I have to give the disclaimer here, this is a mathematical formula I'm going to tell you now is not real life. But if you go in with a calculator, if you take $100 and you add 3%, and then you add 3% on top of that, and then you add 3% on top of that, and you add 3% on top of that, and you do that 240 times your $100 turns into $120,000. Now that is the math that's the magic of compounding 3% on 3% on 3%. Scuse me I need the water. Excuse me? So.

Freddy Owen: That's a good question. I may get water to now.

Paul Turner: Yeah, water is catching guys it's catching. So that you it, that will not happen because we do not win every trade. My current win rates at the minute is nine out of 10. Okay, so I'm going to lose the trade here in there. But if the game is how close can you get? And what I say to people is listen, if you did a 10th of that, if you turned 100 into 12 k in a year, would that be okay? And they're like, Yeah, because next year rather than start with 100, you started with 12 K. And then you don't I'm not even going to tell you what the numbers work out on that. Now again, it isn't to tell you that's what you're going to do guys that we just went that clip. But what it is there to show you is that even if you're in a network marketing business, I know 95% of people the the official figures, so I think it's more like 98% of people in network marketing. Don't actually make anywhere near the money they want to make. But if you could make $100 You could compound it with forex, you're just a customer. It doesn't affect anything you do. There's no conflict 92% of the people in our group their customers only, although there is an option to refer and get free service, you can actually get the tools that we use, you can actually get it for free. So but the main reason I'm passionate about it is you can do it from a phone, you could do it locked in a garage. You don't need to speak to anybody, you don't need to sell anything, you don't need to refer anybody. You just need to get good at reading the charts. And we do that with very simple strategies, up to seven hours a day as a group. So that's why I love forex.

Freddy Owen: Now I'm going to jump in there and say I am actually a part of this and it's crazy. Because one thing I really respect about Paul is on one of his lives. He said, The biggest problem people have is they they don't listen to the trades. They either they trade too much. Now there's a story behind this. When I first started doing this, I put an eye I put $200 in it I started doing it on my own. And I went up to like $500. within two days. I was like, This is crazy. But but the remember you said 3%. That's 3% of I got greedy. Yeah. And then what I did was I made a trade, and I sincerely did not realize I was doing $6 and seven cents a pip. So this thing starts going way backwards. I don't like losing so what did I do? I'm like, I'm gonna hold on tight. It's a wild ride. So then my smart self. I'll be nice, decides to try to reverse that. And I bought the other way. Yeah. And then it said, right off the bat. Oh, well, here's a problem. I didn't realize that. brokers. It's it's a percentage, that if you go below a certain percentage, they'll close out your trades. So I don't know where I was dabbling. Like $90 and boom, they close out that trade. Yeah. Because my equity wasn't there. I lost it all within two days. Because not because of, you know, anything else but me being greedy me trying to, to fight I would say I was fighting the numbers back and forth. It was so stupid. And I was but I wasn't here's what it was a good learning experience for me. So what did I do? I'd put more money back in. And now I'm doing it. The 3% roll, and it's working ahead. Three wins yesterday. And it's blast doing it. I'm actually addicted to it. What so I have a lot of fun doing it. So I wouldn't have that information in the show notes.

Paul Turner: Could you imagine going to a job and the more hours you worked and the more you put in the less they paid, you know, so that's forex. There's this weird thing with forex guys that it's actually not about the money. The money is the side effect. And what most people do is they chase the money with it. It's actually the consistent See, the money is the side effect of being consistent. But guess what plays right into the mindset thing, what you will find is most successful forex traders, they have a limit. And when they hit the limit, they stop trading that account and then they might go to another account or they might go on demo. So they're not using real money. So they're practicing and gaining experience. But when my trading was up, down, up, down, up, down, when I started just going for 3% a day, and when I made my 3% I walked away. Okay, and there were various things we do in our group. That means you can often get more than that with various things, you know that that manage some of the trades for you to a degree. Okay, but I mean, that that completely changed my trading. And let's just say it's going very well since I actually, less is more one trade 3% I'm often done before breakfast. It's amazing. So it's like going to that job where you like, I want to work more or more and they're going okay, well, we'll pay you less because the second trade after you're done you target Guess what? That will be the one that loses. So always the way. And if you lose the first one, guess what, you've got all data taken off a trade. So it's very, it's very, very true. And I will say, guys, if you if you like the idea of forex trading, and you've liked the NLP stuff I've talked about, and we're recording this at the start of June, last month, I actually did five bonus sessions completely free of charge for our trading group. And the feedback has been amazing, right? So I actually did five NLP sessions, to help stop people over trading to help them be consistent, to help them manage their money better. We did all sorts of things, okay. And it crossed over into life skills and stuff like that as well. But it was very rewarding. And I've got loads of great comments. And if you're interested, you can actually get access to all that NLP training. If you want to get into the Forex side of stuff. So Fred will set you know, Fred says he'll put a link to what we do in the show notes. That would be awesome. Check it out. And I'm all about mindset money marketing. Okay. I want to help people get a recurring income with the marketing Want to help them make money with compounding with forex? And mindset is obviously the RP that's that's what I'm all about three M's. MMM

Freddy Owen: MMM. And seriously, it's gonna be the show notes. I'm very skeptical. Uh fam about anything somebody comes to me with when it comes to like online marketing. This is how it works. And the cool thing is, you can literally get a demo account and just have fun with it. See if it works. And if it if it doesn't work for you, if you don't feel it works, which I know it does. But if it doesn't work for you, you don't have to do it. But you can have fun just playing with a demo account. So we'll have all the information in the show notes. Because you definitely want to take advantage of that, especially if you want you can literally have a side source of income doing this. And it does work. So they go over all the rules with you the do's and don'ts and obviously Don't overextend yourself like I did, and make money and then lose it in two days. It's a terrible feeling.

Paul Turner: What you said about giving you all the do's and don'ts and everything. Do you know? Do you know what guys, if you think about it, most people in an online business, that the things that people are short of the excuses, you always get a time and money, I don't have the time or don't have the money. Okay? That's what always comes up. So what happens is, people like me and Fred, Fred does this. Oh, you know, we're very helpful. We're very well meaning. So we say, yeah, we've got the solution. It's this training course go and watch this video. It's like two hours long, or watch get through this course and stuff like that. So for those people who are like, well, I don't have time or money, what we're actually doing is we're actually giving you another problem in terms of time because we're giving you a whole training to watch, okay, and that can't always be helped. So what we do inside the Forex group, we can take care of your money, you can start with a small amount, we can take care of that. That's not a problem. Okay? We can take care of that you can actually get access to the tools and stuff we do for free if you're willing to refer a couple of people. So We take care of the money that way. But in terms of the training, we understand, you got to learn some stuff. But we since we did the live sessions, we get new bit. I was told 90 days when I started, it will take you 90 days before you probably sort of starting to see success. We had somebody there three weeks in their first day, they won three out of three trades the first day live trading three out of three. And that just three weeks. We had somebody yesterday, I think it was posted. It was their first week in and they were all ready winning trades. Because we've we've got rid of that you have to go and watch all this training. You can get on the live trading sessions with us from day one. And you might not understand it all. But you can get your questions answered. And you can play straights. And that has been so much fun. Yeah. Oh, yeah. We have a life as well. It's fun.

Freddy Owen: It's fun. And And literally, it's, it's real. So definitely, it'll all be in the show notes. Paul, you're awesome. But guess what, it's time to start the super hyper fast q&a round,

Paul Turner: I don't know what's coming up. 

Freddy Owen: Oh, it's gonna be simple. You got this. So just a few questions. Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?

Paul Turner: Out.

Freddy Owen: Why? 

Paul Turner: So I can easily waft some cool air and if I get too hot.

Freddy Owen: Same here. Easy question, right? Easy question. If you could choose your own nickname, what would what name would it be?

Paul Turner: The Paulternative.

Freddy Owen: The Paulternative? I like that. That's cool. That's cool. What's your favorite kind of cereal?

Paul Turner: I don't really eat cereal but I would say, what's it called? Just Right. There's a cereal here called Kellogg's Just Right. And it's kind of got a bit of fruit in it a bit of dried fruit. It's got a few nuts and it's got a few like conflicts and

Freddy Owen: So you know, like Lucky Charms.

Paul Turner: We don't, they're very, very expensive over here because it's not a normal thing that we have but it gets imported from the States. That's very expensive. The can't be good for you. 

Freddy Owen: But it is magically delicious. So, and last but not least your favorite action hero on movies.

Paul Turner: Oh in the moves?

Freddy Owen: Yes.

Paul Turner: Oh man, I was gonna say $6 million man. Uh, Batman because he's a real man. He's not got superhero superpowers. He's a real man. He uses his intellect and his resources, as we would say in NLP to be awesome.

Freddy Owen: That's amazing. Love the answer. Brother. I sincerely appreciate you coming on today. Thank you so much for all the knowledge and I am looking forward to putting all the links in the show notes. Guys take action with it and really consume what he has to offer and it's giving it away.

Freddy Owen: Okay to give it to you. So you can actually learn get like get a head start in NLP figure out what that is. And then we'll have some information on the trading and then I'll have some contact information if you want to somehow some way. somehow somehow some way contact him we'll have that all in the show notes. Paul, thank you so much. I truly appreciate you. You have been a fantastic guest you dropped a lot of golden nuggets. And thank you so much for being on the Freddie O. Show.

Paul Turner: Thank you for breaking my podcast cherry.

Freddy Owen: You are absolutely welcome you're Rockstar brother.

Paul Turner: Cheers Fred

Freddy Owen: Cheers.

Paul Turner: Thank you.

Freddy Owen: Amazing show today fam so much fun having Paul on today. Plus he delivered amazing value. Thank you to you as well for tuning into today's episode of the Freddie O. Show. Also, you wanna make sure to head over to winwithfred.com to check out the show notes, snag all that Paul has to offer today plus, all of his contact info. He is the real deal. Last but not least visit winwithfred.com/FMA to become a member of the new Facebook group. I have the Funnel Mastery Alliance. I know you will absolutely love it. Tons of value going to be back there. So definitely head back there. So episode number four is in the books and it was a great one. This It's Freddie O. and until next time, my friends stay hungry.

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Episode #3 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen:
Rock star guest today, Patricia Hicks is in the house. She loves helping people

Freddy Owen:
Gain clarity about their goals, their priorities, and their direction. That's right. She wants to bring out the best in you. Let's rock and roll.

Patricia Hicks:
Thank you for listening to the Freddy O” Show a podcast devoted to you, the listener, your purpose, your mindset, and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now here's your host, Freddy O.

Freddy Owen:
Yes. What an amazing day to be alive, to forge forward and to pursue your passions. Every day, we had that choice to either stay stagnant or to move that needle forward. Building momentum to a better you every day. No exceptions. I want to thank you so much for joining me today, taking the time out of your day to listen to episode number three of the Freddy O show. This is Freddy Owen. And now before I get to our special rockstar guest today, I wanted to extend the invite to a brand new Facebook group. I just started called the “Funnel Mastery Alliance,” that was created a focus on funnel creation, strategies, marketing ideas, lead generation plus so much more. I love that stuff. So to join, all you have to do is head over to winwithfred.Com/FMA. Just answer a few simple questions and boom, we'll get you on the inside. So I'm looking forward to connecting with you all in the Facebook group. Also, you can access all podcast show notes at winwithfred.com. So make sure you do that as well. Yes, our next guest is excellent. Absolutely. Excellent. She wants you to be your best. She really does. She focuses on bringing out the best in people and honestly who doesn't want to be their best. Right? So without further ado, Patricia Hicks, welcome to the Freddy O. Show. Super pumped to have you on.

Patricia Hicks:
I'm excited to be here. Thanks for inviting me.

Freddy Owen:
Absolutely. So we're gonna get things off. Rolling really quick. First and foremost, who is Patricia Hicks?

Patricia Hicks:
Well I am a kingdom entrepreneur. I am an author, a speaker, trainer, coach, and I'd like to think of myself as a matchmaker. I like to match solutions to problems, ideas, to products, and I love matching people to tools and resources and each other.

Freddy Owen:
Very cool. So what is you said you were a kingdom entrepreneur. What exactly is that?

Patricia Hicks:
Well, a kingdom entrepreneur, first of all, I see myself as a, “Child of the King.” So I'm a Christian and that means that I'm about really helping serve people solve their problems and really saw the co-creating with God, his kingdom.

Freddy Owen:
Fantastic. I guess that means I'm a kingdom entrepreneur too. So I am Christian as well. That's fantastic. So with that being said, what would you say your main passion that you love to bring to the table to help others is?

Patricia Hicks:
Well my passion is really to help others live their best life. And that really means a life where a person is really living on purpose. It's balanced, it's abundant, they're blessing others. They're they're doing what they're passionate about and when they are stepping into a space, they, their light is shining wherever they go. They're focused on others. They are about meeting others needs with excellence and they're using their time wisely.

Freddy Owen:
Okay. So when you say that you have a history of doing this, can you tell us a little bit about your history and what you've done in the past?

Patricia Hicks:
Well, yes. So I have a company that's called the “Outcomes Management Group,” that I founded 25 years ago. And it bears the name outcomes because I'm really passionate about results. And so around 2008, I decided to take a look at why were some organizations and people getting better results than others. And I looked at 125 organizations that represented 50% were nonprofit, 25% were in the private sector and 25% were government. And what I found was that when people and organizations stayed focused on four key characteristics, they achieved extraordinary results. And that became a cute acronym “BEST”. And I can come back to that later. And then about, I guess, 2016, I was interested in moving into the online world and I was hosting some focus groups to get some feedback and primary, primarily millennial's showed up and I was curious as to why they were there. And they said, well, you know, we really wanted to see if your best could help us to get things done fast. And so at that point, I had not looked at the relationship between best and fast. So I went back to the drawing board and sure enough, I was able to find a relationship between best and fast. And it was at that point that I realized that I could really help people really live their best life. And that saw that incorporated this model of best and fast.

Freddy Owen:
So the best and fast is like your core values.

Patricia Hicks:
Yes. so let's talk about fast and why that ties to a best life. We don't really know how long we're here. We don't, no one knows, but we know we have a finite period of time. So therefore time has to become a value and you need to use that time really well. And typically what we've done is, you know, we decided to go along and we do things, but we're not looking at whether those things can really get done faster. And that's what I love about this millennial generation, because they're challenging us to say, Hey, do we have to always do it that way? Could we do it differently? And that led me to, yeah, could we do things faster? And if we really focus on our time and getting things done as fast as we can, and by goodness, we could probably make sure that we have this best life before it's time to go. So that's kinda how that all evolved.

Freddy Owen:
So if somebody were to come in to your, like your program, I know you have a, I believe it's a coaching program, correct? Yes. Okay. So they come to your coaching program. What do you look at? Like for instance, you know, being an entrepreneur, especially an online entrepreneur, you've been in it since 2016, you've talked to millennial's. And you know that a lot of people don't succeed in this space because a lot of it I think is because they don't have the, the right direction and they're maybe not utilizing their time. Cause I always believe that time is money and you don't, you can't get time back. And I know that ever since I've gotten older, time goes faster. It's like you can't grasp a hold of time. So you have to use what you have in front of you to the best of your ability. So what do you like really focus on when it comes to someone, for instance, starting an online business and they want to go to that next level, how would you help them? What would you do to help them?

Patricia Hicks:
Okay. So there's like five pieces to this. First is really helping them first get clarity about their destination to your point. You know, they want to go to the next level. What does that really mean? So we have to really get clarity about that. And then once there's clarity about here is what the next level means. Here's what it looks like. Let's take a look at you because you are going to be the driver of whether you to the next level. And now I'll bring in my “BEST”. So those four characteristics that I was talking about B is about bright and bright is about your image and your image is what allows you to attract. And of course, when we're in business, we need to be able to attract customers and partners and funders and so forth. E is about excellence and the characteristic that's tied to excellence is having standards.

Patricia Hicks:
And when you have standards that allows you to grow, that's the outcome. S is about satisfaction. It's my favorite discovery. And that's when you're focusing on meeting the needs and expectations of others and the outcome is energy and it takes energy to get things done. And then T is about time and meeting deadlines. And the people who are disciplined at managing their time are better able to seize opportunities. So you can probably see now that when you focus on all four of those areas collectively, that's why you can get those extraordinary results. So I have an assessment tool that allows you to take a look at where you are, so what's your best condition. So we want to see where we are. We want to see where their blind spots that we need to be cognizant of because that's going to all impact our ability to move to the next level. So that's the personal examination. And with that personal examination and where we want to go, we can now start thinking about what do you do? And, you know, create this, what I call a best roadmap, a blueprint that can begin to help you to chart your path. And now we have to also tie into this roadmap, looking at your speed, because we want to go as fast as we can. And there are six influencers of our speed. Would you like to know what those are?

Freddy Owen:
Absolutely. I'm intrigued. I mean, I, first of all, I want to say that I need to know where this assessment is because I like to see where I have. I haven't had

Patricia Hicks:
That, you know, where it is and that you could get it. Okay. So here are the six influencers and this came really from my millennials. You know, that forced me to take a look at speed and fast. So the first influencer that's the most significant influencer of speed is your environment. You see that?

Freddy Owen:
Okay. So your environment, as far as like what you are, what you have around you, like where you're working,

Patricia Hicks:
That's right, because that's where you spend most of your time. And so in that environment, you may not be aware because if you let's just say, people tend not to pay too much attention here. So it's influencing you, but you don't realize that it's influencing you. But if you just make some adjustments in your environment, all of a sudden you can boost your speed. You can make some adjustments that adjustments that will help you keep focused and eliminate distractions. You can make some adjustments that will allow you to have the energy that you need. You'll have, you can make adjustments that can help you to stay more focused. So you can do some things in your environment that will actually really boost your state. That's a good point. For instance, is a speed. Something that takes away speed. Would you say clutter is one of those things? It is.

Patricia Hicks:
And to your point, you know, right. People say, well, I can find it. And usually they can find it. They just don't realize that it's taking a little bit more time to locate it. That if it was, you know, or if it was organized and, and, and just how I set my desk up, you know, whatever my priorities are, how do I set it up? Where I have focus, where there things that remind me of what I'm trying to accomplish so that I don't allow other things get to get me off track from what I'm trying to accomplish. So that environment is just key. So that's number one. So we'll keep going real fast. So number two, it's all about people, relationships and relationships. Your life moves at the speed of relationships. And people have showed you about relationships and money and relationships and results.

Patricia Hicks:
Now I'm going to tell you how it relates to speed. So there are six different types of relationships that you need to have that influence your speed. One relationship, a very critical one is an accountability partner. You need somebody who you really trust, who loves you curious about you that are gonna, it's going to make sure that you're staying on point. My husband is my accountability partner. He wears me out, but I know he loves me. So it has to be, it has to be somebody that you know, that they love you. Cause they gotta call you. They gotta call you on it when your behavior gets out of alignment or when you're not doing things or they're checking on you and so on. So that's one and there are others, but I'm going to just go to the other one that I think is most critical here for let's just say this new person that we're talking about, do they have a mentor or a coach?

Patricia Hicks:
And that becomes essential because that's the one relationship that the greatest speed. If I don't have someone who's been where I'm wanting to go, then I have to figure it out myself. Now I can figure it out, but it will take longer than if I have someone who already has been there and can guide me, give me feedback, help me to avoid things and so on. So to my millennials, I was saying absolutely positively, without a doubt, you got to have a mentor. You gotta have a coach. And no matter what stage you are in life, when you're starting, whatever it is, you can better find a mentor or a coach because you're going to go slower in the absence of that relationship. So that's number two, number three, it's all about your mindset, right? So your mindset just think about it. If you think immediately “can't”, “but”, it slows you down.

Patricia Hicks:
It stopped you stop right there. Cause I can't do it or I won't happen. I mean it does. So your mindset is really critical to speed, to balance. Everybody tells you, you know, Oh, you know, you really need to be focused on balance. Well, balance impacts your speed and we can get that right? If we're sick, we're not able to get anything done. So we've got to make sure that we're balancing our mind, body and spirit said that that stays in balance because when any of those get out of balance, you're slow. You're really moving slower than you would. If you were imbalanced. Could I jump in there real quick? Yes.

Freddy Owen:
Balanced. This is a good, this is a good one because when I first started out, I was so focused on building the business aspect of it, spending time and you know, a ton of time focusing on in front of the computer and what I was doing as I was neglecting other things that were important. Like my health, my family, my wife was starting to say stuff, Hey, listen, you know, we're still here. And I realized that that was a huge problem I was running into. So now my days are not nearly like that. It's time to shut down and it's time to go to work. You know, as far as focus on what I'm doing, I think that's fantastic that, that you do teach that. What would you say to somebody? Cause let's go back to the mentor one, two, and then I'll let you finish up on that. What you were describing, but the mentor one, what would you say to somebody that you recommended a mentor, not a person, but they got a mentor. What, what's a sign of a bad mentor?

Patricia Hicks:
Well I think a sign of a bad mentor would be a person who really not focused on understanding you and what your needs are in a bill and, and wanting to be available to help you to achieve those, you know, what your goals and needs are. Okay. Very good. Very good. I'm sorry. That's okay. I love it. So balance is critical. And to your point, what we don't realize is that that impacts your speed. From the standpoint, if you work, work, work, work, work, you don't realize you think that you're being more productive, but the reality is you're not getting things done as well as you could. And as fast as you could, if you took breaks and so forth. So I even teach people how to build that into their day as well. So, and, and how to build in taking care of yourself into your day, into your actual work day so that you are keeping that day imbalance.

Patricia Hicks:
Okay. So the next area is communication. What we say and how we say it influences our speed example. Well this is so interesting. Let's think about I always tend to think about president Barack Obama is a good example of this. So he used the words. “Yes We Can” remember that. Uand, and those words are real interesting cause it wasn't “Yes I Can.” It wasn't “Yes You Can.” It was, “Yes We Can.” We can. And then think about it's it's if you said yes, we can. Our yes, we can. Our, yes, we can. You see, just depending upon how I say things can actually motivate somebody else to do the thing that I need for them to do,uif that's what I'm, you know, if that's what I, and of course, most of the times as entrepreneurs, we're needing to get people to do things, you know, either with us or for us, or, you know, whatever.

Patricia Hicks:
So how we say things is going to either move them to do it faster or take a while to get to where we want to go. So we want to really think about what words we're going to use and how we're going to say those things so that we can really get people going as fast as we need for them to move along with us. So so it's, and even today, the other piece is also where we communicate with young millennial's. You'd better text. If you're going to be trying to reach out, you need to phone them, or, you know, that's not going to work or email. So even where you communicate. So I always try to find out from people what their preferences of communication, so that I can go there. I don't have to waste time sending something. And then they say, well, I didn't get that.

Patricia Hicks:
Or I didn't see that, you know, I understand that front, this is going to be, how are we going to communicate? So, and listening to people to see what words they use so that I can use those words back, cause that helps them to connect with you and to all that. So communication is a big deal. Then the last area that's, most people will probably go like what it's called celebration celebrate. Now we don't do enough celebrating and think about it when you celebrate, you get excited about it and it encourages you to want to keep going. So if you wait until the end of something. So when we talk about moving to the next level, if we're going to wait and celebrate six months in as opposed to every step along the way, if we celebrate, I'm going to get geeked, I'm going to be excited.

Patricia Hicks:
You know, I, I compost that. Yeah. So now I can go on and do the next thing. So it, it, it really propels me to keep moving and I really ended up going faster than bumping in the things and not going so well. And that slows me down and, you know, and so on. So the celebration is really key to really helping you to move along faster. So those are my, those are my acceleration areas. And so again, that becomes a part of my, you know, my working with you is helping you to examine those things and help you to, you know, figure out how to use those, see, see where you are with your speed so that we can try to make some adjustments to get you going a little bit faster. And then the last thing that I like to focus on in this whole piece of course, would be, are we getting results?

Patricia Hicks:
Because the goal here is to get to the next level. So make sure that we're clear about, you know, what results we're going to need to make. You know, I mean, what results we are going to achieve and how are we measuring to make sure that we are achieving those results so that we can make adjustments where necessary, which will help us go faster. Because if we aren't measuring and we're not getting what we should at different points along the way we could end up getting somewhere and it's gonna really fit figure out, Oh, I'm not, we're not where we need to be. And now there's more time that we had expand into this than we needed to. So those are the sort of five key areas that I focus on when I'm working with someone.

Freddy Owen:
That's fantastic. I'm going to actually, I'm going to go back to, first of all, celebration, I think is, is really key because if you wait till you're finished, it could be like, when you're talking about celebration, like the baby steps, the small things that you, that you accomplish within your journey. Yes. Okay. I think that's fantastic. I think that I need to do that more. I think that if you have a you're a business and you might be going through a rough spot celebrate things that you may have done recently to overcome a roadblock or obstacle that you have in front of you right now. And then when you get that through that obstacle, it's just another celebration. Correct?

Patricia Hicks:
Right. Yep. That's right.

Freddy Owen:
And secondly, you brought the millennial's and how to communicate with them with like, for instance, text, I understand that they love texting. Do you ever encourage the people that all they do is text? Cause I feel that as sort of takes away an aspect of communication of their own, because they're so intent on just typing and they have a hard time getting face to face with people, or do you not see that?

Patricia Hicks:
Oh, no, absolutely. And so I want to help them to see the benefits of multiple ways of communicating. So just as they prefer to receive messages one way they have to be cognizant of the people that they're trying to reach and the lays and which they like to communicate. So that it's a reciprocal process. Communication is so helping them to see that is really, you know, very important. And the other piece that is really important is that in communication, 90% of our communication is really nonverbal. So when we can't see the other person, we can make assumptions about what the communication means or is saying that it might not be. And so therefore that is another variable that has to definitely be taken into consideration. And it makes me nervous today as we are in our pandemic and are moving to more communication via technology that this is going to be very challenging because communication is just much more than just the actual, you know, sending words or talking to someone, be you know, zoom. There's a lot that comes from that interaction with the person or person. So you are on point that we don't want to totally live by. But if I need to reach you, that's where the fast comes in, I know that that's how I got. Yeah. Yeah.

Freddy Owen:
And a lot of times, if I'm in a texting, you know, especially I've had friends where I've, I've texted back and forth and they're taking what I'm writing way out of context. It's like, they think I'm arguing with them, not arguing. And finally, I get off the texting I get on the phone. I'm like, bro, listen, we're not, I'm not mad. We're not fighting. I don't know what's but this is coming from, so it's, there's gotta to be, like you said, there's gotta be a balance.

Patricia Hicks:
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because it is, you know, we all process communication through our filters. We have different filters, you know, our past experiences and you know, just our perceptions of things. So you could say a word, you know, like boy and, and you mean nothing by it. And because of my cultural background, when you say, boy, I get offended because boy has a meaning to me that you didn't realize it had. And so when we're texting, that's how that can get escalated because if we're face to face and I, you know, I could it's, you can easily see that that was sort of offended might have offended me because she couldn't see that I squared it by eyes rolled my eyes or something. And you're going to say, Oh, something's going on with Pat. But if it's a text, you can't see me rolling, you know? And so you're just continuing on and now like taking everything you say, you know, now through this filter that I put it in that you didn't realize it was now residing in as you were talking to me.

Freddy Owen:
Yeah. Big time. Yeah. So what's the most important thing you've learned in your life? What was your life like before you learned it? And what was your life after you learned it? The most important thing.

Patricia Hicks:
Ooh. Oh. Cause they're so witty. Oh boy. You gotta pick one. Just one. I know you're making me choose, I am going to say that the most, maybe the most important thing is recognizing that it's important to, Oh, you're making me, I'm having a hard time. It's cause it's probably blend together, but okay. I'll just, I'll just, I'll just stick with this one. Yeah. When I was in my doctoral program, let's just say, cause you said be pre and post. Okay. So prior to my doctoral program, I grew up, my family was, my parents were very much, this is right. This is, and I was in a dichotomy of, you know, it was just either or, and then I got into my doctoral program and I had this experience where I was facilitating a family, you know, SIS counseling session, like, and when it was over, my instructor said, how did they go?

Patricia Hicks:
And I said, Oh, it was awful. And she said, awful. And she's he said, well, well, let's think about that. What, what went well? And I rattle off some things that went well and all of a sudden, just by her getting me to focus on something went well, I realized that everything didn't go bad. So immediately then I realized it really wasn't awful. Now it wasn't great, but it wasn't awful. So I realized that it was, there was a, you know, an ad in there. And, and I would say that that has been a really valuable lesson to me that I really don't see things anymore as either. Or I see things with and.

Freddy Owen:
So perspective perspective is huge because I have people that I've talked to and they say that they, everything is terrible. Their life is a wreck. When it's really not as like look around at the blessings you have, and the thing that the blessings you see and the blessings you don't see, it's crazy perspective is huge in life in general. So that's that's great. And I'm sorry if I, if I three off a little bit, but

Patricia Hicks:
I just had to choose that was all it was, I was just having, I was just trying to decide which of my big three was it. And I decided that would be it. Cause I want to say, can I just say this one thing that's, what's bothering me about today? You know, the, you know, we're in this pandemic. And so we hear well, the way it's other projected is today, let us tell you here's how many people have the virus. Who's how many people have died? Here's this, here's that. And so we get this picture that becomes like a one sided picture. And there's another side to the picture and we don't have conversation going that relates to both sides so that people can have an, an perspective. And so we have, and this is sort of going on in our country in so many ways. So therefore people are going either I'm this or I'm that. And we're seeing the intensity now of conflict because they're very few and's and there's no, we don't have any and's rising up in the leadership of any place in space. That's helping us to realize that each view has some, there is something in each view that we can appreciate until then that's, what's sort of bothering me. So that's why I picked that one because I'm getting annoyed that there is not, I'm not seeing, but, and the crew's active.

Freddy Owen:
It shouldn't be, in my opinion about choosing your side, yes. Life should be about the, about being able to have discussions and figure out the happy medium, because what happens is when you say choose your side, it's like a team mentality going to beat them and it gets nasty. So I, a hundred percent agree with you. That bothers me too. And hopefully we can shake that mentality because it doesn't do anybody any good. So I'm going to jump to how can people get a hold of you? And I know you're going to give away something for free today. So how, and we're going to have this all in the show notes, everybody. So you can she is a wealth of knowledge, 25 years doing this. And if you have been listening, you can see that she is fantastic, great knowledge, and you want to learn from her. So how can they get a hold of you and what are you going to be giving away today?

Patricia Hicks:
Okay, well, there are lots of places in spaces that I can be reached. You are going to provide everybody with the link, to my best life community. It's a free community. And it's a place that if you're interested in living your best life, that you want to come and be a part of, because I share a tools and resources and every day I'm, I'm putting out some information you know, that will motivate you and give you some ideas about your best life. So that's one place I am on Facebook and I have a “Be Your Best Fan” page, and that'll be posted as well so that you can join me on Facebook if you're there, I'm on Instagram. And so if that's where you are I am personally there. So that link will be available to you as well. I'm on LinkedIn. And so you can catch me there. So I'm just about everywhere. I also have a website that bestfast.org Which is pretty easy to, to remember, cause it's all about, you know, my movement. And I think those are all the places

Freddy Owen:
That's fantastic. It will be on the show notes, take advantage, join the community. Take advantage of her, the, the, a free giveaway that she has. Wealth of knowledge. Now, are you ready for the fun stuff? But a lot of it's, everything's fun. I enjoyed my, what job. Put that crazy questions. August a super hyper fast QA round, not real hard. So first one is who would you I'm sorry, what would you pick for your last meal and who would it be with? Oh, my,

Patricia Hicks:
My last meal. Does it have to be a person or could it be a group of people? One person. Oh, one person.

Freddy Owen:
It could be famous. Could not be famous.

Patricia Hicks:
And does it have to be someone that's living, you know, living? Yeah.

Freddy Owen:
No, no, not at all. Not at all.

Patricia Hicks:
Okay. So for my, my last meal I'm originally from Florida, so I love seafood and my absolutely favorite is crabs. So last meal, I love some crabs and since it's the person, it doesn't have to be someone here. It would definitely be Jesus Christ, because I would love him to help get me prepared for where I'm headed next.

Freddy Owen:
Amen to that. Okay. Here's another one. If you had to replace your hands with something other than hands or claws, what would you put at the end of your arms?

Patricia Hicks:
Oh gosh. What were they? Something that we replaced my hands. Oh, okay. I would, I would put my, I would add some eyes.

Freddy Owen:
Wow. I, that's a good question. I think that's a good answer. I mean, so you're going to have four eyes.

Patricia Hicks:
Yes, because that would help me with my blind spots.

Freddy Owen:
Boom, love that. Love that answer. And then what is something you enjoy doing that you think other people might think is a bit strange?

Patricia Hicks:
Well, I don't know the people that are around me, they think that the fact that I could just live out on the beach all day from sun up to sun down, is strange. But I love it sun up and down. I mean, I can literally all day just be on the beach.

Freddy Owen:
So, and plus with what you do, you can do that on the beach with a, you know, a hot spot and your computer, if you wanted to and just chill that way. I love the beach. You know, if I had a choice, well, I always say, you know, Kristy, that's my wife. What do you want to go? You want to go beach her mountains? I want to go to the mountains. I'm like, Ugh, but that's… She loves the mountains. I love the beach. I love sun, sun just reinvigorates me. And unfortunately where I live at right now, there's not a lot of it at points in time, but it's all good perspective, right? Perspective.

Patricia Hicks:
We are kindred spirits Freddy. That's my thing. And I'm in Columbus, Ohio. And so I had a hard time adjusting here because it's gray and I need my son. So I tell my husband I'm here because of love.

Freddy Owen:
I'm in Akron, Ohio. I'm here because of love too.

Patricia Hicks:
Okay. Here we see where we're kindred spirits. I love it. Are you a Buckeye?

Freddy Owen:
I don't really watch college football, I guess. I, yeah, I am. I, I'm a Buckeye. I love sports. I love. And that's another thing about this whole pandemic thing as it's taken away sports away from us, but not, but, and I know what's going to come back. Is that better? And I know it's going to come back. I'm learning. I'm a work in progress,

Freddy Owen:
Patricia. Thank you so much for being on the Freddy O. Show. You have been a wealth of knowledge and I just, I hope everybody takes advantage of what you had to offer today. Thank you so much. And you know, what, if you could say one last thing to the listeners, what would it be?

Patricia Hicks:
I would say only your best is good enough. So be your best.

Freddy Owen:
Boom. Thank you so much, Patricia. You're a rockstar.

Patricia Hicks:
Thank you so much.

Freddy Owen:
Amazing show today, fam. Thank you so much for tuning in today. Also thank you to Patricia for dropping some golden nuggets of wisdom. Also make sure that you head over to take a quick look at the show notes for today's podcast to take advantage of all that Patricia has to offer. Plus all of her contact info will be on there as well. You can find all of that on winwithfred.com last but not least. Visit winwithfred.com/fma to become a member of the new Facebook group I have the called “The Funnel Mastery Alliance,” until next time my friends stay hungry.

Life and wellness coach Russell Beebe, He wants to help you Eat better, think better and awaken spiritually

The Freddy “O” Show Episode #2: Life and wellness coach Russell Beebe, He wants to help you Eat better, think better and awaken spiritually

ABOUT Russell Beebe, Life & Wellness Coach

Russell Beebe, LCMHC, MLADC
Licensed Therapist | Addiction Specialist | Life & Wellness Coach

Russell is an addiction specialist, life and wellness coach in addition to being a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor/ Master Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor. 


Russell owns and operates Wellness Seekers Unlimited, LLC an online life & wellness coaching program that helps people transform their lives through eating better, thinking better and growing spiritually.


Russell's primary focus is to help clients both in his coaching practice and his clinical practice to cultivate personal wellness practices simultaneously in areas of mind, body and spirit in addition to helping them create the life they love.


Russell has overcome his own personal issues around addiction and mental health through hard work that included the 12 steps, nutrition, exercise, prayer, meditation and written cognitive practices. His goal is to help others do the same.

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Episode #2 Podcast Transcript

Freddy Owen: Got an awesome guest today, Mr. Russell Beebe.

Freddy Owen: He wants to help you eat better. He wants to help you think better and awaken spiritually. You can't beat that, right. Let's go

My Beautiful Wife Kristy: Thank You for listening to the Freddie O Show, a podcast devoted to you, the listener, your purpose, your mindset, and your marketing efforts designed to help you go to that next level. Now here's your host, Freddy O!

Freddy Owen: Gosh, you are awesome and I thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to listen to episode number two, number two of the Freddy O show. This is Freddy Owen, and now before I get to our special guest rockstar today, I wanted to extend the invite to a brand new Facebook group. I just started called the Funnel Mastery Alliance that was created to focus on funnel creation strategies, marketing ideas, lead generation plus so much more. That is the Funnel Mastery Alliance and how do you join? All you have to do is go to winwithfred.com/fma, a that has winwithfred.com/fma, this is a funnel mastery Alliance and you answer a few simple questions and then myself or my assistant will get you on the inside. So I'm looking forward to connecting with you in the Facebook group. Also, you can access all podcast show transcripts at winwithfred.com so make sure you do that. It's easy peasy, my friends. So question, do you want to eat better? I do. How about think better? I think we can always think better. Maybe even give your spirituality a wake up call, well giddy up. All three of those things are what our next guest thrives on. So without further ado, ladies and gentlemen, Russell Beebe, welcome to the radio show Russell. And I'm super pumped to have you on. Welcome.

Russell Beebe: Thank you so much for having me, Freddy.

Freddy Owen: So we can get started right off the rip and just ask you Russell who is Russell Beebe and what makes you tick?

Russell Beebe: Yeah, absolutely. So I am formerly a musician, a French horn player, turned into a therapist, counselor and a clinical director and then reformed to what I like to call a life and wellness coach. And I do that work online. Basically. So I help people with their wellness. I help them with their life purpose. It's a little bit like counseling but it's a little bit, a little bit different than doing clinical work. So that's basically basically what I do. I'm a life and wellness coach.

Freddy Owen: Okay. So what, what actually made you dive into that particular niche? Was it something that you would just because of your past or is it something deeper, something more personable, personal for you?

Russell Beebe: Yeah, that's a really good question,, so and I can kind of give you a, I'll try to give you sort of the brief version of this. So I was a musician and I was doing that thing and then over my life, I would say about 20 years ago, I started to recognize that I had some pretty significant addiction problems with alcohol and drugs. And I got into AA and I was sober for a bunch of years. Eventually relapsed, kind of went on sort of a about a year and a half of a, of what I would consider to be a pretty horrific bender. And I ended up back in, in substance abuse treatment, got sober again, started cultivating health and wellness in my life and then decided I wanted to, I really liked helping people. That began for me in the 12 steps.

And as soon as I started doing that, I realized, you know, maybe I could be a therapist cause I found that I was like counseling. I was sponsoring them, but I was also counseling them. So I went back to school and got a graduate degree in mental health counseling and that was probably about nine and a half, 10 years ago. And then I went through sort of a sort of a stream of different types of jobs in the mental health and addictions field. You know, out doing outreach, doing outpatient therapy. And then eventually I landed as the clinical director of a substance abuse treatment center up in New Hampshire, which I worked in for about three and a half years until the end of February. And that's kind of like where I came from in terms of helping people and, and you know, doing health and wellness work was really out of my own, my own recovery in the 12 steps on my own. Like really my need to get healthy in my life so that I could kind of live a good life. Because when I didn't, when I don't do that, drugs and alcohol happened and really bad things happen.

Freddy Owen: Oh, a hundred percent agree. And like, for instance, right now with the pandemic it has affected a lot of people. It surely is showing a lot of people their weaknesses they maybe didn't even realize they had. And if you look at the liquor stores, they're the most packed places right now with, you know, people are falling back into previous addictions. It's really, really frustrating. So it's, it's good that you, that you're doing this for people. It's helping people out. So when was the moment that turned the idea machine on that made you want to take your passion online and bring it to the masses?

Russell Beebe: Yeah, that's a, that's a really great question. I'm so glad you asked that because it's like, it literally gets me pumped up to think about and I, and I, like literally yesterday I did, I talked about this live in my Facebook group, so but yeah, so, and I know exactly when this happened. It was probably early September, 2000 I had been working as the clinical director of this substance abuse treatment center up in New Hampshire. And there I was again once again in my life, very unhappy in a job. And I was in a sort of a corporate structure. I was stressed. I'm working 50, 60, 70 hours a week. I'm getting calls on the weekends, you know, it's, am, I'm frustrated with staff, great program, you know what I mean? Doing a lot of good stuff, good help with people.

But once again, I was miserable at my job. And I remember having, you know, doing what I do as somebody that's in recovery is you sort of get quiet and kind of ponder what's going on with yourself. And I was like, I knew because I had had several different jobs that it wasn't the jobs that were to blame. It wasn't the sir, the like the, the employer that I, that was to blame. I started to realize that it was jobs in general. Like the thing that you, that people do where they go to work for 40 hours a week, they get two weeks of vacation and they live till they're 75 and hope that they have enough retirement so that they can retire and live off the money that they make. I had, I realized in that moment back in 2017 that I had an issue with that.

And I also realized that I really wanted more freedom in my life. And it's funny, this interesting thing happened. I suddenly got turned on to a book that talked about you know, passive income. It talked about being an entrepreneur and you know, outsourcing some of the things that you do and being a business owner. And I got very much interested and then how that, the internet could make that possible that the internet could make it possible. If I had a business that was online, I could run that business from anywhere. So like my parents have a place down in Rhode Island. I could be in Rhode Island or I could be on a vacation and then I would have the freedom to run the business the way that I wanted to do. So I started to realize the power of the internet in order to do that.

And I set out rather obsessively to find sort of my niche for that. Because I was, I was clear that that's what I wanted to do. And the reason and the why and the reason I wanted to do that is I wanted to get away from the nine to five grind of a job, do my own thing, be able to work wherever I, wherever I, you know, from where, anywhere in the world. And then to be able to scale that to a point where I could make a living doing that. And that's kinda like, that was the, the epiphany that I had. And it was a long journey to get where I am now. You know, where I am doing that. I'm not working a job and I'm making a living online.

Freddy Owen: That's awesome man. Let me ask a question. Do you ever have a point in time where you stray away from your passion? You know, your focus and get hit between the eyes, the old shiny object syndrome? Because a lot of entrepreneurs struggle with that. And did you ever struggle with that? Because it's very easy to do in this space.

Russell Beebe: I did shiny object like you wouldn't believe actually. And I, by the way, when I say that, a lot of people say, you know, there, there is some negative connotation to that, but I have to tell you that every shiny object I followed, I learned a ton from. And I learned about what I didn't want to do. And I also learned about the game of life. You know what I mean? So like I always tell people when I, when I coach them like nothing is ever lost. Okay. And I spent a lot of money going down different sentences, shiny objects, believe me and my wife was starting to get very unhappy with that. I did start out, I started out with a random online money making thing, but I did quickly kind of turn into like, I wanted to take my recovery experience and my experience as a counselor and utilize that.

So like the course idea and the ebook idea was there. But I went down, I went down some rabbit holes with affiliate marketing which is awesome stuff by the way. Like I have no problem with that. That just wasn't my cup of tea. So I went these different ways and some, you know, and, and bought a lot of different courses and, and set out on a trajectory going one way and then it wouldn't, didn't turn out very good. And then I'd do a 180 degree turn. So, yeah, I mean I did the shiny object thing like, like crazy. 

Freddy Owen: But it's good though that you went through that?

Russell Beebe: Yes, it was a good, no, it was a good thing. I don't now that I'm actually successful, I look back at it and I go, everything that I did was for a reason and I learned a ton from it and I met a lot of good people. I met you through that process. You know what I mean? I met Bob Beckett through that process. My current coach that I have, Mark Crandall, I mean like, Oh, like I met him through that process. So it's, it's

Freddy Owen: Because you can look at it in two different ways. You can look at it. Either A. I lost a lot of money, okay. Or B, I learned from my mistakes and the shiny object syndrome and I'm going to get better not do those mistakes again because here's the thing. A lot of people do the same mistakes over and over again. They just don't learn from the previous mistakes and that's why they fail. I like to put it like this. If you're driving on the road and you see a brand new building, my wife loves like new restaurants. She's like, Oh look, there's a new Starbucks getting built here. That's fantastic. So, if you're driving on the road, you see a brand new business, it's got a nice shiny new sign and you can tell that they're like pumped the rate at the grand opening and boom, they're up and ready to go.

So then you drive down the same road five years from now. The signs dilapidated. It's like they gave up on their idea. They gave up because either a business was not as easy as it was supposed to be. You know, B, they lost their passion, but usually it's because they don't know how to reignite that fire every day. Like, okay, I'm going out there to do what I am. You know, my purpose, what I am blessed to do. And a lot of people cannot keep that mentality. They just give up. And it's frustrating

Russell Beebe: Real quick. The problem that I had. But the problem that I see with shiny object syndrome is that a lot of the programs people join part of the marketing sends a message that this is going to be easy and it's not easy starting your own business. All the people that are like working four hours a week, they were, they've grinded like nuts. Absolutely. To get there so you can get to that point. I'm not there yet. I'm still working. I'm still working my butt off seven days a week to grow my business and I love it. Like I would do it all day if I could, you know what I mean? But eventually I want to get to a point where some of that stuff is outsourced and I can, you know, get some freedom. But the problem is people expect it to be easy and it's a lot harder than people think, but if you stick with it, the miracle will happen. You know what I mean? Like that's just, I'm just here to say that.

Freddy Owen: And the sad thing is that some people don't give themselves enough time. They could be right there. Right at that point to where they're about to cross that momentum, that tipping point and they give up. And it's something I've come to realize that after  coaching a lot of people is that I used to take it very personal if they did not succeed, but if they don't want it bad enough, there's nothing you can do, you know, no matter what motivates them, to encourage them. There's nothing that you can do to make them want something bad enough. Usually they just, they don't have that tenacity that has needed to run their own business and it is just frustrating. But I guess they're more, it's easy for them to just go to a 40 hour work week and be told what to do by somebody else and actually do it for themselves. And I truly believe that there are people out there that give up way too easy and if they just stuck with it, they'd be in great shape. They just got to stick with it. Now, what would, what kind of advice would you give to somebody brand spanking new about the dive into the online world and getting ready to start their own online business or actually regular business? What advice would you give them? Like you're starting from scratch

Russell Beebe: The best way, If I was to go back and do it all over again, the best advice that I would do is to find a mentor or a coach that can do two things. One, help you identify exactly what you want to do. You know what I mean? Rather than going like all these different directions, like to really dig in. I didn't get that coaching, that particular coaching until it was about like the middle of March actually, where I was forced by a coach to like identify exactly, like what's my, why? Why am I doing this? How do I want to help? What's my niche going to be? And then to develop a plan to go and do that. And then to, and then, so for that to be, to, to have a process where a person can get really clear on what it is that they want to do and then go into it and with the understanding that it's going to be a lot of hard work it's not this easy plug and play thing that you see everybody promising out there.

I mean, I still get the emails, learn how to make a thousand dollars a day. I'm just like, that's, that disgusts me. Like, are you kidding me? Like, I don't, can't tell you how many times I tried that BS, you know what I mean? So that's kind of like, to sort of realize that and then to just do that long enough for, you know, to, to stay the course long enough for the miracle to happen, you know what I mean? Like I'm in a place, I spent two years figuring this out. I'm in a place where I have my own business. It's paying the bills, I'm working from home and I love the work that I do. But that took me two and a half years to get there.

Freddy Owen: And like you said, you coach people. So have you ever had an issue where like when I coach people, there's been times where I've had to have like some, a tough love type kind of talk. Like, Hey listen, you know, I told you to go ahead and do this last week and then you're asking me, you know, what do I do? And you didn't do the first thing. Have you ever had that, that tough love kind of talk? Because sometimes, you know, people need to be like woken up and say, Hey, listen, you know, you paid for this. You know, why aren't you doing the work? Put in the work?

Russell Beebe: I, to be honest with you, I have like, so I just started being profitable in my business. I have enrolled, I have six in my wellness coaching program. Okay. And then one that I'm doing kind of that I'm about to do some business coaching with. She wants to learn how I did what I did. So I'm going to show her how I became a coach and a consultant. I, I have a package that costs a certain amount of money and I have found that when people commit to this financially and emotionally and they have to commit on the front end, most of the time to two months with me, I have found those people that commit like that financially and emotionally they're doing the work. So my experience as a therapist doing like people come in for a week for like an hour session and then go and they come back the next week and they don't do anything I asked him to do.

That hasn't been so much my, my experience with coaching just yet. But I will, I'll tell you what, that conversation, so I just started and I'm sure that's going to happen. I'll tell you what that conversation is going to look like. It's going to look like, Hey, you paid me X amount of dollars and yet you're not doing anything that I'm asking you to do. Can we talk about why that's going on? And then I, as a therapist, I would dig in like, why is this happening with you? Try to get that person to pull their head out of their butt and get them moving forward. That's what a coach does. It's like on a football field,

Freddy Owen: Right? Yeah. Oh yeah. And then people, it's like they care more about what other people think than about themselves. And that is just really, it's sad. It's frustrating. It's sad. I love the football coach reference by the way. I always do football coach references. And personally I like to have a real targeted list. Everybody says it yet to have a huge list, a huge email list. I just want to have a targeted tribe of people that are go getters that want to make a difference in their life. And honestly then they give me great feedback that they learned something and they're successful. That's huge to me. So here's a question. Uif you were like Forrest Gump, hopefully you've seen Forrest Gump. Have you seen Forrest Gump?

Russell Beebe: Yeah, it's been awhile, but yes. Okay,

Freddy Owen: Good. So what would you want to build a tribe and just FYI, everybody Russell has a free Facebook group. We're going to go ahead and put the link in the show notes, so make sure you check that out. You can join that and that's awesome. And then you're gonna get something else for free when I talk about the, at the end of the show, but what would you Russell want them to follow you for? Like Forrest Gump was running, you know, because he loved running, but they believed in his vision, his mission.

Russell Beebe: I think the one thing that a person would follow, so I would say people, let's not talk about acute mental health, acute mental health issues or, or acute addiction issues. There's a lot of people in the world that are like me and you and they, and they have this, this section of their life, like 20 to 30% of their life where they are somewhat miserable. Like maybe it's having trouble getting out of bed in the morning. Maybe it's eating bad, it's wanting to lose an extra 40 pounds. Maybe, you know, they get a lot, they have a little more anxiety than they would like to have. There's some kind of wellness or health issue that they're, that they're having, the people that I work with mostly have something like that going on and they desperately need a program that can show them how to cultivate a daily wellness routine where they, where they sort of, they, they achieve the goal of that 20 or 30% in their life to kind of level up in their wellness. And that's what people would follow me for.

Freddy Owen: And I think that the people that are going to actually follow you, like Forrest Gump are ones that can really admit that they have an issue. A lot of people don't do that. Like on Facebook, you see everybody's highlights. You don't see all the lowlights that sometimes people have, but everybody has something you've never arrived. If you think you've arrived, I think you need to do a gut check because no matter what, you're continually climbing, getting better, getting better every day without fail, no exceptions. And honestly, it's brave to do that. It's brave to say, okay, listen, I have an issue and I need to make it better. So I'm going to go ahead and get Russell's coaching to make my situation better. That would be huge for somebody because guess what, one little thing can change your life for the long run. You know, and that's what's so powerful about what you do.

So if you're listening to this and you do have an issue, you want to get better with your health, you want to get better with your regimen, you want to get better with your mindset. Russell has a coaching program and we're going to show you how to get a hold of Russell at the end of the show. Or you can look at the show notes because guess what? He's somebody that you want to call and take advantage of his services. So let's switch gears. Let's talk about daily rituals. If there was only one daily ritual that you could do what would you, which one would you do? What would you say? What would, which one would you do? Not sacrifice.

Russell Beebe: Yeah, hands down. Absolutely. And by the way, this is 95% of why I sit here feeling healthy and well in my life for the most part I'm like a 9.5 on a scale of 10, right? Is the morning routine, period. End of story. Which basically is prayer, meditation, some reading visualization, some writing. There's a couple other things. It's sort of like the miracle morning, how L L Rod's miracle morning. If I miss that morning routine the day is much more difficult for me and if I, but if on the other hand I do it, everything flows really nicely from there. So that's, that's what I would say.

Freddy Owen: That's fantastic. But what I want you to do Russell's, I want you to give me one. You're running late, you have no choice but to pick one of those habits or rituals, which one would you not sacrifice?

Russell Beebe: For me it is sitting down with a pen and a paper and writing out my goals and writing out a plan for the day. And it's pretty brief. It's a writing process.

Freddy Owen: Oh yeah. That's fantastic. That's some gravy right there. So your whole morning routine, all the things you described earlier, how long does that usually take you to accomplish every morning?

Russell Beebe: My whole morning is about an hour, but I can do it in 20. If I really need to.

Freddy Owen: Also, Russell obviously when you first started out, it took a lot longer. When you first started doing the routine then it does like right now.

Russell Beebe: Yeah. You mean longer than an hour?

Freddy Owen: Yeah. Like for instance, I started this app, it's called elevate and cause I like to stay sharp. I like to stay sharp and I'm glad I started doing this. But this thing notifies you every morning at a certain time. Hey, listen, let's go through your training. You know, and then it just keeps your mind sharp. And there's been times I've looked at it and I've had to force myself to go ahead and, and like dive into it because a, I was getting frustrated because some of the stuff that they were having me do was really frustrating. I just wasn't getting it and I was like, dang, I feel dumb. But here's the thing. It just, it's not my forte, but it really does help me stay sharp. So, exactly. And it goes back to doing it for you.

Russell Beebe: Yeah, that's right. And the funny thing is is I couldn't even force myself to do any of it. The turning point for me was when I was in substance abuse treatment, this was over 10 years ago. I could, they wouldn't let you sleep in. I couldn't even get out of bed in the morning. I couldn't get up when the alarm went off. So I was forced to get up when I was in treatment and it created this habit and then I started to feel the benefits of it. And so then it wasn't difficult to get up in the morning. So it's kind of weird. Like I didn't, I didn't feel like one day I need to start getting up in the morning. I just couldn't do it at all. And so at first it was, it was a struggle to, to be like, I'd rather be sleeping right now. But as soon as I started doing that, day after day, I started feeling the benefits and I was fine. So, yes, I mean it did, it did take, there was a period of discomfort of some, you know, you know, a week, two weeks or something like that where I had to, I had to do that new habit for it to become automatic. If that makes sense.

Freddy Owen: Absolutely it does. Now, Russell, I like to try different things. Have you ever heard of the cold shower thing in the morning where you wake up and you jump into the shower and all you do is take a cold shower and it's miserable? Have you ever heard of that?

Russell Beebe: Yes. You know, it's funny. I, I'm literally, and I can, I can show you right here, day 62, this is my book that I write on. I'm on day 62 of cold showers. I got turned on to it from somebody that I met actually about a year ago. And this covert thing went down and then somebody was like, Hey, you want to do a cold shower challenge? I did. It was like a 21 day challenge. Unbelievable. So, yes.

Freddy Owen: Yeah. I, yeah, I, I, I've, I've tried it out. And the thing is, I don't know what is cold, what is considered a cold shower because if you turn it all the way to cold, it's horrific. It feels terrible. And I fought through it, but it like sort of put my body into a crazy shock mentally and it didn't feel good. I just need to know what is cold.

Russell Beebe: I asked that question at the beginning when I started this chat. This guy, by the way, his name is Jesse Harless, he wrote a book called Smash Your Comfort Zone with cold showers. It's really good. You could listen to it on audible in about an hour. Anyway, he goes over that and he, and it's, but I asked this question when I started the challenge, how cold is cold and he basically said 68 degrees or less is fine. That's not bad.

Freddy Owen: No, that's like pool water temperature.

Russell Beebe: So you can, but I want to tell you my experience though. You can also start, you can do a hot shower and rinse off for a couple of minutes cold. But here's what I experienced at first. I would do it moderately cold and I've got good benefits from that. After about a month of doing that, I started to, I had this period where I was really struggling doing them. Like I didn't want to do it and I felt really uncomfortable doing it and I went to, and from that point I went as cold as I could get it, like the thing pinned on cold. So now for, I would say for the last 20 days or so, I've been doing it like piping cold to the point where I have to like back out of the shower sometimes. You know what I mean?

And there's something about doing that that pushed it to another level for me. And part of the reason I started doing that and I started seeing all these pictures of the Wim Hof method of people sitting in like in baths with with ice cubes and things like that. And so it intrigued me there. But I just found there's something easier for me about doing the like extreme cold thing and just like taking deep breaths and just being uncomfortable for five minutes and then I get out and I just feel like on the top of the world,

Freddy Owen: Yeah, five minutes. Yeah. You know, here's the thing, I'm going to get back to it. It's, but I can tell you right now, it was, it was crazy when I first started doing it, but I also had it down to probably 30 degrees or well, not 30, but you know, low. It was all the way to the, the cold end of it, the spectrum. And it was, it was beaten me up. I was like breathing like crazy. I had to get my breathing under control, but 68 isn't, is it 68 degrees isn't too bad. I'm actually even lower than that isn't too bad. So yeah, I'm definitely going to get back to it and and do that, cause I know the benefits really are amazing, is what I've been told. So obviously it's the game changer for you.

Russell Beebe: My life. I was fairly I don't have it high, a degree of anxiety when I started doing this and stress in my life. But I would say from my baseline, which that bad, I would say 20 or 30% reduction in my overall stress and anxiety. It was like really profound from like day one. It was unbelievable. So it's very powerful and apparently it's good for your immune system. Like, which is good these days with the Covid thing going on. He talked about all the science of it in that book and stuff like that. So.

Freddy Owen: Well, I'm definitely gonna grab that book, so yeah. Okay. So we're going to switch gears now to the digital marketing aspect of what we do in this industry. There's a good, the bad and the ugly. What would you do if you had a button? What would you do to change? What one thing would you change in the industry? Because I think we both know there's a dark side to the industry.

Russell Beebe: I mean it's just what I was saying earlier, I think that this message that jump on to this thing and you can, you know, make X amount of dollars a day working 30 minutes a day, like that whole thing. Like I just, that makes me ashamed of being part of the digital world to be honest with you.

Freddy Owen: Yeah, and that's, that's understandable. The sad thing is if it's too good to be true, it's, it's most likely not true. And it's great that a lot of the companies, the networks have really cracked down on some of these guys that were putting out straight garbage offers and taking advantage of people. You know, they were here one day and then the next day they're gone. It's just, it's a shame.

Russell Beebe: One, one quick, one other thing I would say is don't, don't underestimate organic. A lot of people are paying for clicks and Facebook ads and all that's really good. But I, I, I've been successful with organic at this point and I spent a ton of money paying for ads that I didn't, I didn't need to. I may at some point to scale, but you can grow this deal. Organic and social media is really good with it if you're willing to put the effort in, you know what I mean? So

Freddy Owen: Yeah, you gotta put in the work, you gotta put in the work, you got to, you know, step out of your comfort zone every day. There was a point in time in which I had a hard time doing that. I kept on looking at everybody else and how they were doing things. And it's good to, you know, learn from people, but you have to make it your own. If you don't make it your own and you don't put in the work, you're not gonna get anywhere. You know, there's nothing, my, my father always just telling me, you know, there's nothing for free. Okay. You're not, you know, some people consider, think it's free, but in the long run it's going to cost you time and a lot of headaches. So realize you've got to put in the work and eventually it's going to pan out and be successful. And unfortunately, some people don't want to put in the work. So do me a favor. If you're listening to this and you really want something bad enough, you're going to go ahead. You have to put the work and you're going to get dirty and you're going to have some struggles, some roadblocks, but make sure you fight through them. So Russell, what are you going to be giving away to the audience today? I know we've got the Facebook group. What else are we looking at as far as they can get from you? To learn a little bit more about you?

Russell Beebe: Yeah, absolutely. So I have a free training where I basically talk about the top three things that I have done in my life to be consistent in a health and wellness routine. And how that basically became automatic because of the ways that I did it. And because of the quick benefits that I got from, from, you know, doing a daily routine. And I actually in this, in this training I talk about, it's funny cause I did, I planned out the training and it kind of went differently than I had expected. I talk a lot about my own depression and trouble getting out of bed in the morning and sort of trouble, you know, being a successful human being and showing up for life and all that thing. And I talk about my struggles getting into recovery and, and all the things that you need to do in terms of mind, body, spirit with healthy eating and meditating and exercising, you know, mind, body, spirit stuff.

So it's a, it's basically a free training where I talk about how I got to where I am in my life and and you know, the main points that people need to sort of realize in order to get to a point where they can kind of level up their health and wellness. You know, whether that be they're eating poorly or, or whether that be they're feeling depressed or they have a high degree of anxiety. There's certain things that are common amongst everybody that they can do to get to a point where they have this routine where they, you know, literally transformed their lives. I'm seeing it in my coaching clients now cause that's how I have structured my coaching program.

Freddy Owen: Fantastic brother. Okay, so definitely you guys want to go to winwithfred.com/podcasts, and you can get the show notes, get everything that Russell has offered, join his Facebook group. You want to definitely go ahead and do that because I'm gonna tell you something. This guy is a super, super wealth of knowledge, has tons of knowledge and wisdom and he's been through, he's been through it, you know, so if you're struggling with your mindset, your purpose and anything like that, definitely go ahead and go to the podcast notes and hit Russell up and take advantage of what he has offered today. 

So now we are going to have a little bit of a, I'm going to call this the, what can I call this? This is going to be called the super fast, super hyper fast Q and A round where I'm going to ask you some crazy questions and you give me the answer if they're, they're not going to be anything that can be off the wall questions, but I want to see what your answers are and just have some fun with it. So here we go. So question number one, would you rather have a third eye or a third arm?

Russell Beebe: A third eye.

Freddy Owen: Okay. A third eye. So why would you want a third eye?

Russell Beebe: I think there's some real spiritual significance to that. As a person that meditates every day. I don't know. I feel I get a lot of pleasure out of my visual sense. So that's why.

Freddy Owen: Yeah. And I would have a third eye too, but I wear glasses. So if you can imagine where that I would be probably in the middle of your forehead. Glasses. It would be really weird unless they invent that down the road, but they may, who knows? Okay. Second question. Do you watch Seinfeld or have you watched Seinfeld in the past?

Russell Beebe: Yes.

Freddy Owen: Perfect. What is your favorite Seinfeld episode of all time?

Russell Beebe: Okay. I don't know what it's called, but it's the one where George, I gotta explain this. Is that okay?

Freddy Owen: Absolutely. I'm a huge Seinfeld fan, so please explain a way I love, love, love Seinfeld.

Russell Beebe: This is really cool because it relates to like sort of a surrender and kind of a relaxing principle that I talk about sometimes in my coaching. So George comes into the, into the coffee shop. Jerry sitting there, I don't know if Elaine's there or not, but George sits down with Jerry and he's like, my whole life has been a complete disaster my whole life. Everything I've done has been wrong. I've done everything wrong in my life. Something like that. I'm kind of paraphrasing. Jerry says, well, why don't you try doing the opposite of what you've always done? And George goes like, yeah, that's interesting. And it goes over to a lady that's sitting at the bar in the coffee shop and he's like, hi, I'm George. I'm fat, I'm bald. And I live with my parents and she goes, hello, hi. He stopped showing up to work and they give him a promotion. He just completely gives up on life and like relaxes and all these great things start to happen. I think it ends up like snowballing and it starts, it gets really bad, but by the end of the thing. But it makes me realize how much we grip up on life sometimes. And it's like when I relax and sit back a little bit, sometimes really great things happen. You know what I mean?

Freddy Owen: Yes. 100%. Sometimes you have to slow down to speed up. Slow down to speed up. Okay. So here's is a 3 part question. If you are a pro wrestler, what would your stage name be? What would be your entrance music and what would be your signature move?

Russell Beebe: I gotta make up a name. Okay. Live in Lavita. Loca I'd be a Luchador. I'm thinking that live in Lavita. Loca what was the second part of that?

Freddy Owen: What would your intro music be for your wrestler? What was your intro music? What music gets you pumped up? Ready to rock and roll?

Russell Beebe:I would say Chalk Dust Torture by Phish.

Freddy Owen: I have never heard of Chalk Dust Torture, by Phish, but I'm going to Google it by fish. And now what is your, what is Russell Beebe’s signature move?

Russell Beebe: Mmm. I dunno why, but I'm picturing myself and I know that that could not even ever do this, but I'm picturing a backflip off a ladder, mid ring. Okay. Onto somebody's body slam.

Freddy Owen: So the BB crush, huh? 

Russell Beebe: There you go. 

Freddy Owen: Yeah, buddy. Okay. So thank you for your answers. Now how can people get a hold of you? We talked about the free giveaway on winwithfred.com/podcasts. Your group, go into some depth with that, how they can get ahold of you. Because I really want people to take advantage of your services and honestly get to know you cause you're an excellent person. Awesome individual.

Russell Beebe: Yeah. So I have a Facebook group called Wellness Seekers Community. The problem with that is the name might change. I've got a, I've got a trademark issue going on with that. So I would say the best way to get in touch with me. You can look me up on Facebook, send me a friend request, send me a message. Wellness seekers, community Facebook group or just email Russell@thewellnessseekers.com. Very cool. Totally fine. But you can, you can find me on Facebook. Send me a message, let me know what's going on and I'm happy to. Happy to help.

Freddy Owen: Well Russell, thank you so much. Truly appreciate you stopping by the Freddy O Show show today. It's been a lot of fun. You are a great individual and I really implore, if you're listening to this right now, first of all, go to winwithfred.com/podcasts So you can go ahead and get everything that he's offering. Join his Facebook group has free giveaway and also honestly look into his coaching and plus I'll put in the show notes ways you can get ahold of him on Facebook. His profile, he is authentic. He is a great individual and he is here to help if you do need it. And honestly he'd be a great mentor with somebody that is struggling with purpose, with their health, with their, no matter what, you could be the best in the world or you can be starting from scratch. Everyone needs something like this to help them get to that next level. So definitely you want to hit Russell up. Russell, I truly appreciate you joining us today. Thank you so much and I'm looking forward to having you on again on the Freddy O Show. Thank you so much.

Russell Beebe: Absolutely anytime

Freddy Owen: Great show today Fam. Thank you so much for tuning in today. Also, thank you to Russell for bringing the gravy today. I hope you soaked it up and we'll take action with what you learned and yes, I'm going to get back to taking those cold showers. Yes, yes. I am also make sure that you take a quick look at the show notes for today's podcast and join Russell's Facebook group plus all his contact info will be there as well and that is on winwithfred.com/podcasts. Last not least, visit winwithfred.com/fma…. I'm talking too fast. I say, visit winwithfred.com/fma to become a member of the new Facebook group I have The Funnel Mastery Alliance. Until next time, my friends stay hungry.


Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to listening to the Freddy “O” Show. This is Freddy Owen,  I wanted to extend the invite to a brand new Facebook group I just started called the Funnel Mastery Alliance that was created to focus on funnel creation strategies, marketing ideas, lead generation plus so much more.

To join all you have to do is go to winwithfred.com/fma, this is a Funnel Mastery Alliance. Answer a few simple questions and then myself or my assistant will get you on the inside. So I'm looking forward to connecting with you in the Facebook group. Also, you can access all podcast show transcripts Here.

Are you stuck in the gap

Are you feeling stuck in the Gap in your online business? Are you feeling like you hit a roadblock and nothing seems to be working? you're feeling like waving the white flag, giving up, not wanting to keep going.

Do me a favor and take a deep breath, sit back and relax and let's dive into why you are feeling this way. You may be deep in the notorious gap, a very uncomfortable and unrelenting part of life.

The Gap! How Do You Know if You're Stuck in it?

The gap feels like a prison sentence, and there could be a plethora of reasons why you are in the gap…

You are super frustrated because you have chipped away at this dream for so long that you thought was going to happen and it didn't come into fruition?

Then self doubt kicks in and you ask yourself the question of all questions.

Is there even a point to keep going on with my dream of building an online business?

First off, If you want to have success in your life, then, you better get rid of some of the thoughts in your brain that is holding you back.

Is Stinking Thinking Throwing You in the Gap?

Get rid of the stinking thinking that only you can hear inside your brain.

Getting rid of the negative thoughts in your mind is one of the biggest steps you can take to becoming successful in your life.

In order for your business to thrive, you have to thrive internally first.

There’s always a gap. It sits between who we are and who we strive to be.

It can feel like that gap is continually getting bigger, so that the farther we go, the farther the prize gets away from us.

The Gap is discouraging, and it can make it harder to pursue our dreams when they always feel so far out of sight. But you can’t let that stop you. Not now or ever. You have to continue to be persistent and keep going. 

You owe it not only to yourself, but to others as well. Keep moving forward and claim the power your message has over the world and people around you.

People need to hear your story, and you need to speak it for them to listen to it. Don’t let the gap that stands between where you are at this very moment and where you want to stop you from chasing your dreams and unlocking your best self. Instead, seek the reason you were put on this earth to do!

Keep going and keep making great strides. The one way you will undoubtedly get there is by moving in a forward motion. That’s how you’ll close the gap and call your success to come.

If Being on the Wrong Path Causing You To Be Stuck in the Gap?

I always ask myself whether I’m on the right path, even though my thirst to succeed is incredible. However, I have often felt overextended, like I’m clinging for balance in a world that’s constantly changing around me.

It wouldn’t be a trial if it weren’t difficult. And if receiving what we wanted is meant to be easy, it wouldn’t be worth the gold at the end of the rainbow. 

Besides, we would not be able to achieve what we want if we weren’t a little uncomfortable in pursuing our dreams. 

So keep going. Keep being creative. Keep moving forward, yet always be aware of the gap. Truth be told, being stuck in the gap is not a fun place to be.

Tap into real-world expectations.

This one has been critical to me.

So how do you Tap into real-world expectations?

First off you need to stop listening to people that promise you quick results.

Tap into it by listening to the people and or person who has already traveled where you want to go. Listen to the person or people who know what works and how you will fall and not succeed along the way!

Also, stay away from the people who tell you how long your adventure is going to take before success, How in the world do they know that?

I can tell you that my first year I bought into the hype and it got me nowhere.

By listening to someone that you know has been through the trenches, and came out on top. Obviously you won't get an exact blueprint. What you will get is wisdom to help you create your own blueprint that will get you unstuck and out of the funk you are currently in.

Why are you doing this?

Losing the big picture in the busy everyday life is easy. But if you feel like quitting, then really try remembering why you are doing what you are doing. I find this is the best way to get out of the gap and back on track.

SO ASK YOURSELF WHY ARE YOU DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING?

Is it to financially support your family?

Live a healthier lifestyle, so you get to watch your kids grow up?

Travel the world and explore new and exciting things?

Write your answers to these questions in a notebook, and keep it close by!

Then, whenever you feel like waving that white flag, pull out your notebook with your most important why(s). It will be a game-changer for you!

It is always the darkest before dawn.

This idea has helped me to keep a grip when things have felt hopeless, and I felt like giving up and really not wanting to keep going. 

When certain things seemed to be at the lowest spot with my business, with my gym life, or with my get up and go in life in general something always happened.

Quite often because being at that lowest point forced me to change how I did things. But maybe also because life always seems to have some kind of balance if I just keep pushing. If I just keep going instead of giving up and doing nothing, then something good always seems to happen.

Seeing this cycle strengthened my belief, and holding on, always reminding myself to keep going even on tough days, weeks or even months at a time.

When I have run into a bump in the road or a more extended rough patch these two things have been helpful:

I admire people who operate from a place of love and who have gone through the rigorous process of finding and articulating their purpose, whatever it may be.

Caroline Ghosn

Keep it simple and take it back to the basics if your feel You're Stuck in the Gap

It is easy to become very overwhelmed by all the information out there about any change you can make in your life. That leads to confusion and trying to do too many things at once.

Learn more and make the correction in your direction. Reconnecting with the basics is an amazing thing to do! To look at how you are doing things, what results they are bringing in, and to compare it to how people who have done this sort of thing before me have done things.

Learn to be completely honest with yourself and admit that a shift in direction could be the reason you have fallen into a funk.

I often find it a great idea to take a step back and go back to the basics when I get stuck in the gap.

When I get into a funk mentally, I love to remind myself with these 4 words…

KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID!

These 4 words are music to my ears, because I tend to over complicate things. So, I look in the mirror and remind myself to keep it simple stupid!

I promise you it is super refreshing to wake yourself up with those four fantastic words!

Final Thoughts

If you feel like quitting, that’s great. It means you’re intensely involved. Go ahead and feel like stopping. Just don’t actually leave. Instead, experience the power in that feeling. That’s your power. With that, you can do amazing things. What a shame it would be to walk away from it.

If Feel like quitting, you need to keep going! Significant success is right around the next corner. 

Have you been stuck in the gap before, and how did you get through it?

I would love to hear your story or ideas below.

Are you failing to make any money with your online business?

I can promise you $0 to 6 Figures and beyond is genuinely attainable, but there are a few things I think you need to know first before you either throw in the towel because you have been at it for some time or you are starting from scratch and don't know where to start.

When I first started my online business in 2012 I was all over the place

When I first started online, I did not have a clear direction, and it cost me. I made things way too complicated when I should have had a concise and straightforward mindset. Does this mean that you don't have to work hard and invest in yourself? Absolutely not, It says you avoid doing things that DO NOT make you money.

Also, not being stupid by thinking that you are going to build a 6 figure plus online business in a month. I've coached a lot of people in this industry, and the top 3 reasons for their lack of success are…

Three prime reasons people fail building an online business 

1. They're lazy
2. They don't feel confident investing in their business (yes friends, running an online business does cost money)
3. They lack consistency and never master that one thing that can help you make a living from the comfort of your own home.
There are also other reasons that may be out of their control, but for the most part, it is those three culprits.

It drives me crazy to think that someone is ok with working for someone else 40 hours a week and not to hustle for themselves.
Is being an entrepreneur for everyone? Not a chance, but don't start something you plan on quitting. If you sincerely believe that you're going to make a ton of money without putting forth some effort, then you need to wake up and shake yourself.

three reasons people fail to build an online business

The traits of successful people I have mentored through the years

Some of the characteristics that some of my students have that have had the most significant successes…
1. They listen
2. Invest in themselves
3. they know what that it doesn't happen overnight.
4. Laser focus on building their audience and building their online business.
5. They turn roadblocks into learning experiences.
6. They continually try to get better at their craft by learning from the best and applying what they learn.
7. They don't make excuses (that is a bonus one for you)

learn how to build your online business

I don't care what you set out to do online, email marketing, your own product, e-commerce, blogging, etc. You have to build an audience, and if you do that, your earning potential is limitless. That along with consistency and mastering the skill is priceless.

You have been hustling and still, have not made a dime

Why and how could this be happening you ask?

It could be a various list that is causing you to be in this rut. Ask yourself this question, how much time do you legitimately focus on money making tasks? When I first started online, I was like so many others, all over the place and getting nothing accomplished. Now, I focus on things that I know will bring in revenue.

Do I focus on blogging every day for hours on end? Not a chance.

Yes, you can make a substantial amount of money blogging, but it can take a lot of time to build up to a decent amount of revenue and site authority in most cases. If you're a writer and have an unquenchable thirst for blogging, then go for it.

My first year and a half I dabbled in a bunch of different things and imagine what it got me?

A lot of wasted time, Confused and broke.

What that first year and a half did do for me was wake me mentally on what I did have to do to make this work.

If you genuinely want to succeed here is my best advice

Be patient but be persistent! If you're going to learn to master something, then stay focused on it and get it done. You have to make sure that whatever you set out to do, you love it and you know that you can make money doing so.

I did this with building audiences thru email marketing and building audiences. Mastering this and staying consistent opened up numerous opportunities financially.

Imagine this…

Let's say you have an undeniable love for having an e-commerce store. You build it, master the ins and outs of setting it up, formulated the perfect method generating targeted traffic towards that specific niche and monetizing the store.

That's great right?!

But it doesn't have to end there.

You could branch out and create training showing the exact methods you used to build your e-commerce store sell that as a product as well. What you end up doing is creating another targeted audience of people that want and need to learn exactly how you achieved success.

So now you have 2 viable streams of income, your store, and your coaching.
But wait, let's not stop there because you also have tools that you use within your coaching that have some pretty good affiliate programs so now you have more streams of income coming from those avenues.

Let's get a little crazier and have a high ticket one on one coaching platform. Yes, there are people out there that want to accelerate the learning process, and they have no problem paying a premium price for your one on one expertise, and you help them build their e-commerce empire. Remember, you mastered what your teaching and they need someone with your skill set and knowledge.

Wow, another stream of income. I hope you see where I am going here.

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Conclusion

There is a reason why you chose to become your own boss online, and if you want something bad enough, you're going to do whatever it takes to make it happen. You want to have the choice to decide when and what you want to do online and how you plan on doing it.

If you think it is going to be free, without any failures and frustrating days, I recommend you go back to working your 9-5 job and help create someone else's wealth.

If you are ready to actually take the bull by the horns and create something special, Master it and make it happen!

Be the best at whatever you set out to do and finish what you started.

You are worth it!

#FaithFocusFinish

“Just stay positive!”

We’ve all heard it–that vague nugget of wisdom tossed around like a hacky-sack. Maybe you offered it to a friend who was backslidden and feeling down; perhaps that coworker or neighbor said it with a shrug over coffee. At the time it may have meant the same as “Just hang in there!”…and of course, that would be encouraging to anyone feeling stuck. But is there something more to the concept of “positivity”?
We think yes.

What is the power of positivity?

For some, caught in the fray of modern life, positivity is so foreign of a concept, it’s darn near impossible to pin down what it even is. On top of that, positivity can look different from person to person, making it even more complicated to root out and understand. But let’s start with this–have you ever been around someone and found yourself inexplicably energized by them? From a project leader at work to the cashier at Target, there are people out there that inspire you without even really meaning to. Why?

Positivity.

Generally, we can rely on positivity to manifest itself as “happiness”…even if happiness is just a side-effect of being positive. At the very core, positivity is a living goal: it can change shape, and it takes work. Thankfully, when it comes to positivity, a little effort goes a long way.

How does it help?

Endlessly.

From your physical health to your emotional well-being and deep, interpersonal fulfillment, there is no end to the benefits of positivity on your life. Let’s take, for just one basic example, The Nun Study. It’s been called the quintessential study in positive psychology, and the findings genuinely live up to the hype. The short of it is, in the 1930’s and 1940’s, young nuns were asked to write a few pages about themselves–these autobiographies were dissected and coded, giving the researchers clear groups of the young women based on the overall “positivity” of their work. Remarkably, the “happiest” or “most positive” nuns outlived their less positive counterparts by ten years in some cases. The nuns which exhibited the least positivity in their autobiographies continued to pass away at a more frequent rate than the “happy nuns.” By the time the ladies were in their nineties, only 15% of the “least happy” group had survived…while 54% of happy nuns were still alive and well.

But the benefit doesn’t stop at longevity.
In fact, we’ve hardly scratched the surface.

The Benefit of positivity…

The Workplace:
–Employees in a positive environment outperform those in a negative workspace.

–Positive people make better leaders.

–People who are positive tend to be more successful.

In Your Daily Life:

–Positive people form stronger, more meaningful relationships with their friends and family.

–Overcome stress more easily (or eliminate it altogether) by adopting a positive outlook.

–A positive attitude will almost miraculously give you a boost of motivation.

In Your Personal Health:

-Positive people get sick considerably less than negative people.

-Positive people enjoyed longer, better sleep than negative people, allowing them to feel refreshed and rested in the morning.

We know–that sounds like an infomercial-style list of promises–it can’t really happen, can it?
It can–all of it–but it takes a little work.

As a human, your brain is hardwired to look for the threat and danger in every situation–but in our modern age, we tend to focus on the negative and problems with any idea when no real danger is present. Negativity can blind us from opportunity, and breed fear where it shouldn’t be. Remember when we said positivity is a living goal? What we mean by that, is what it takes to be positive can change–sometimes it’ll be effortless when things are going well, and life is good! When you feel great, there’s no limit to what you can do.

But, the real test of your resolve to be positive comes in when things are not so great–the setbacks, the plateaus, the unexpected tragedy. When it takes an effort just to get out of bed.

In times like those, a positive attitude can make an opportunity appear out of thin air. Choosing to think positively will keep you in tune with the solution that is right around the corner–all you have to do is grab it.

It won’t always be easy, but truly successful and confident people tend to turn all of their stumbling blocks into stepping stones. The more you actively choose to focus on solutions, not problems, and positivity rather than negativity, the easier it will become. Change your life by changing your thinking–and there’s no time like the present to start a new, positive chapter of your life! We can’t wait to see what you can accomplish after you throw off the chains of self-doubt and start living for the very best life has to offer!

#FaithFocusFinish