Are you stuck in the gap

Are you feeling stuck in the Gap in your online business? Are you feeling like you hit a roadblock and nothing seems to be working? you're feeling like waving the white flag, giving up, not wanting to keep going.

Do me a favor and take a deep breath, sit back and relax and let's dive into why you are feeling this way. You may be deep in the notorious gap, a very uncomfortable and unrelenting part of life.

The Gap! How Do You Know if You're Stuck in it?

The gap feels like a prison sentence, and there could be a plethora of reasons why you are in the gap…

You are super frustrated because you have chipped away at this dream for so long that you thought was going to happen and it didn't come into fruition?

Then self doubt kicks in and you ask yourself the question of all questions.

Is there even a point to keep going on with my dream of building an online business?

First off, If you want to have success in your life, then, you better get rid of some of the thoughts in your brain that is holding you back.

Is Stinking Thinking Throwing You in the Gap?

Get rid of the stinking thinking that only you can hear inside your brain.

Getting rid of the negative thoughts in your mind is one of the biggest steps you can take to becoming successful in your life.

In order for your business to thrive, you have to thrive internally first.

There’s always a gap. It sits between who we are and who we strive to be.

It can feel like that gap is continually getting bigger, so that the farther we go, the farther the prize gets away from us.

The Gap is discouraging, and it can make it harder to pursue our dreams when they always feel so far out of sight. But you can’t let that stop you. Not now or ever. You have to continue to be persistent and keep going. 

You owe it not only to yourself, but to others as well. Keep moving forward and claim the power your message has over the world and people around you.

People need to hear your story, and you need to speak it for them to listen to it. Don’t let the gap that stands between where you are at this very moment and where you want to stop you from chasing your dreams and unlocking your best self. Instead, seek the reason you were put on this earth to do!

Keep going and keep making great strides. The one way you will undoubtedly get there is by moving in a forward motion. That’s how you’ll close the gap and call your success to come.

If Being on the Wrong Path Causing You To Be Stuck in the Gap?

I always ask myself whether I’m on the right path, even though my thirst to succeed is incredible. However, I have often felt overextended, like I’m clinging for balance in a world that’s constantly changing around me.

It wouldn’t be a trial if it weren’t difficult. And if receiving what we wanted is meant to be easy, it wouldn’t be worth the gold at the end of the rainbow. 

Besides, we would not be able to achieve what we want if we weren’t a little uncomfortable in pursuing our dreams. 

So keep going. Keep being creative. Keep moving forward, yet always be aware of the gap. Truth be told, being stuck in the gap is not a fun place to be.

Tap into real-world expectations.

This one has been critical to me.

So how do you Tap into real-world expectations?

First off you need to stop listening to people that promise you quick results.

Tap into it by listening to the people and or person who has already traveled where you want to go. Listen to the person or people who know what works and how you will fall and not succeed along the way!

Also, stay away from the people who tell you how long your adventure is going to take before success, How in the world do they know that?

I can tell you that my first year I bought into the hype and it got me nowhere.

By listening to someone that you know has been through the trenches, and came out on top. Obviously you won't get an exact blueprint. What you will get is wisdom to help you create your own blueprint that will get you unstuck and out of the funk you are currently in.

Why are you doing this?

Losing the big picture in the busy everyday life is easy. But if you feel like quitting, then really try remembering why you are doing what you are doing. I find this is the best way to get out of the gap and back on track.


Is it to financially support your family?

Live a healthier lifestyle, so you get to watch your kids grow up?

Travel the world and explore new and exciting things?

Write your answers to these questions in a notebook, and keep it close by!

Then, whenever you feel like waving that white flag, pull out your notebook with your most important why(s). It will be a game-changer for you!

It is always the darkest before dawn.

This idea has helped me to keep a grip when things have felt hopeless, and I felt like giving up and really not wanting to keep going. 

When certain things seemed to be at the lowest spot with my business, with my gym life, or with my get up and go in life in general something always happened.

Quite often because being at that lowest point forced me to change how I did things. But maybe also because life always seems to have some kind of balance if I just keep pushing. If I just keep going instead of giving up and doing nothing, then something good always seems to happen.

Seeing this cycle strengthened my belief, and holding on, always reminding myself to keep going even on tough days, weeks or even months at a time.

When I have run into a bump in the road or a more extended rough patch these two things have been helpful:

I admire people who operate from a place of love and who have gone through the rigorous process of finding and articulating their purpose, whatever it may be.

Caroline Ghosn

Keep it simple and take it back to the basics if your feel You're Stuck in the Gap

It is easy to become very overwhelmed by all the information out there about any change you can make in your life. That leads to confusion and trying to do too many things at once.

Learn more and make the correction in your direction. Reconnecting with the basics is an amazing thing to do! To look at how you are doing things, what results they are bringing in, and to compare it to how people who have done this sort of thing before me have done things.

Learn to be completely honest with yourself and admit that a shift in direction could be the reason you have fallen into a funk.

I often find it a great idea to take a step back and go back to the basics when I get stuck in the gap.

When I get into a funk mentally, I love to remind myself with these 4 words…


These 4 words are music to my ears, because I tend to over complicate things. So, I look in the mirror and remind myself to keep it simple stupid!

I promise you it is super refreshing to wake yourself up with those four fantastic words!

Final Thoughts

If you feel like quitting, that’s great. It means you’re intensely involved. Go ahead and feel like stopping. Just don’t actually leave. Instead, experience the power in that feeling. That’s your power. With that, you can do amazing things. What a shame it would be to walk away from it.

If Feel like quitting, you need to keep going! Significant success is right around the next corner. 

Have you been stuck in the gap before, and how did you get through it?

I would love to hear your story or ideas below.

Are you failing to make any money with your online business?

I can promise you $0 to 6 Figures and beyond is genuinely attainable, but there are a few things I think you need to know first before you either throw in the towel because you have been at it for some time or you are starting from scratch and don't know where to start.

When I first started my online business in 2012 I was all over the place

When I first started online, I did not have a clear direction, and it cost me. I made things way too complicated when I should have had a concise and straightforward mindset. Does this mean that you don't have to work hard and invest in yourself? Absolutely not, It says you avoid doing things that DO NOT make you money.

Also, not being stupid by thinking that you are going to build a 6 figure plus online business in a month. I've coached a lot of people in this industry, and the top 3 reasons for their lack of success are…

Three prime reasons people fail building an online business 

1. They're lazy
2. They don't feel confident investing in their business (yes friends, running an online business does cost money)
3. They lack consistency and never master that one thing that can help you make a living from the comfort of your own home.
There are also other reasons that may be out of their control, but for the most part, it is those three culprits.

It drives me crazy to think that someone is ok with working for someone else 40 hours a week and not to hustle for themselves.
Is being an entrepreneur for everyone? Not a chance, but don't start something you plan on quitting. If you sincerely believe that you're going to make a ton of money without putting forth some effort, then you need to wake up and shake yourself.

three reasons people fail to build an online business

The traits of successful people I have mentored through the years

Some of the characteristics that some of my students have that have had the most significant successes…
1. They listen
2. Invest in themselves
3. they know what that it doesn't happen overnight.
4. Laser focus on building their audience and building their online business.
5. They turn roadblocks into learning experiences.
6. They continually try to get better at their craft by learning from the best and applying what they learn.
7. They don't make excuses (that is a bonus one for you)

learn how to build your online business

I don't care what you set out to do online, email marketing, your own product, e-commerce, blogging, etc. You have to build an audience, and if you do that, your earning potential is limitless. That along with consistency and mastering the skill is priceless.

You have been hustling and still, have not made a dime

Why and how could this be happening you ask?

It could be a various list that is causing you to be in this rut. Ask yourself this question, how much time do you legitimately focus on money making tasks? When I first started online, I was like so many others, all over the place and getting nothing accomplished. Now, I focus on things that I know will bring in revenue.

Do I focus on blogging every day for hours on end? Not a chance.

Yes, you can make a substantial amount of money blogging, but it can take a lot of time to build up to a decent amount of revenue and site authority in most cases. If you're a writer and have an unquenchable thirst for blogging, then go for it.

My first year and a half I dabbled in a bunch of different things and imagine what it got me?

A lot of wasted time, Confused and broke.

What that first year and a half did do for me was wake me mentally on what I did have to do to make this work.

If you genuinely want to succeed here is my best advice

Be patient but be persistent! If you're going to learn to master something, then stay focused on it and get it done. You have to make sure that whatever you set out to do, you love it and you know that you can make money doing so.

I did this with building audiences thru email marketing and building audiences. Mastering this and staying consistent opened up numerous opportunities financially.

Imagine this…

Let's say you have an undeniable love for having an e-commerce store. You build it, master the ins and outs of setting it up, formulated the perfect method generating targeted traffic towards that specific niche and monetizing the store.

That's great right?!

But it doesn't have to end there.

You could branch out and create training showing the exact methods you used to build your e-commerce store sell that as a product as well. What you end up doing is creating another targeted audience of people that want and need to learn exactly how you achieved success.

So now you have 2 viable streams of income, your store, and your coaching.
But wait, let's not stop there because you also have tools that you use within your coaching that have some pretty good affiliate programs so now you have more streams of income coming from those avenues.

Let's get a little crazier and have a high ticket one on one coaching platform. Yes, there are people out there that want to accelerate the learning process, and they have no problem paying a premium price for your one on one expertise, and you help them build their e-commerce empire. Remember, you mastered what your teaching and they need someone with your skill set and knowledge.

Wow, another stream of income. I hope you see where I am going here.

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There is a reason why you chose to become your own boss online, and if you want something bad enough, you're going to do whatever it takes to make it happen. You want to have the choice to decide when and what you want to do online and how you plan on doing it.

If you think it is going to be free, without any failures and frustrating days, I recommend you go back to working your 9-5 job and help create someone else's wealth.

If you are ready to actually take the bull by the horns and create something special, Master it and make it happen!

Be the best at whatever you set out to do and finish what you started.

You are worth it!


“Just stay positive!”

We’ve all heard it–that vague nugget of wisdom tossed around like a hacky-sack. Maybe you offered it to a friend who was backslidden and feeling down; perhaps that coworker or neighbor said it with a shrug over coffee. At the time it may have meant the same as “Just hang in there!”…and of course, that would be encouraging to anyone feeling stuck. But is there something more to the concept of “positivity”?
We think yes.

What is the power of positivity?

For some, caught in the fray of modern life, positivity is so foreign of a concept, it’s darn near impossible to pin down what it even is. On top of that, positivity can look different from person to person, making it even more complicated to root out and understand. But let’s start with this–have you ever been around someone and found yourself inexplicably energized by them? From a project leader at work to the cashier at Target, there are people out there that inspire you without even really meaning to. Why?


Generally, we can rely on positivity to manifest itself as “happiness”…even if happiness is just a side-effect of being positive. At the very core, positivity is a living goal: it can change shape, and it takes work. Thankfully, when it comes to positivity, a little effort goes a long way.

How does it help?


From your physical health to your emotional well-being and deep, interpersonal fulfillment, there is no end to the benefits of positivity on your life. Let’s take, for just one basic example, The Nun Study. It’s been called the quintessential study in positive psychology, and the findings genuinely live up to the hype. The short of it is, in the 1930’s and 1940’s, young nuns were asked to write a few pages about themselves–these autobiographies were dissected and coded, giving the researchers clear groups of the young women based on the overall “positivity” of their work. Remarkably, the “happiest” or “most positive” nuns outlived their less positive counterparts by ten years in some cases. The nuns which exhibited the least positivity in their autobiographies continued to pass away at a more frequent rate than the “happy nuns.” By the time the ladies were in their nineties, only 15% of the “least happy” group had survived…while 54% of happy nuns were still alive and well.

But the benefit doesn’t stop at longevity.
In fact, we’ve hardly scratched the surface.

The Benefit of positivity…

The Workplace:
–Employees in a positive environment outperform those in a negative workspace.

–Positive people make better leaders.

–People who are positive tend to be more successful.

In Your Daily Life:

–Positive people form stronger, more meaningful relationships with their friends and family.

–Overcome stress more easily (or eliminate it altogether) by adopting a positive outlook.

–A positive attitude will almost miraculously give you a boost of motivation.

In Your Personal Health:

-Positive people get sick considerably less than negative people.

-Positive people enjoyed longer, better sleep than negative people, allowing them to feel refreshed and rested in the morning.

We know–that sounds like an infomercial-style list of promises–it can’t really happen, can it?
It can–all of it–but it takes a little work.

As a human, your brain is hardwired to look for the threat and danger in every situation–but in our modern age, we tend to focus on the negative and problems with any idea when no real danger is present. Negativity can blind us from opportunity, and breed fear where it shouldn’t be. Remember when we said positivity is a living goal? What we mean by that, is what it takes to be positive can change–sometimes it’ll be effortless when things are going well, and life is good! When you feel great, there’s no limit to what you can do.

But, the real test of your resolve to be positive comes in when things are not so great–the setbacks, the plateaus, the unexpected tragedy. When it takes an effort just to get out of bed.

In times like those, a positive attitude can make an opportunity appear out of thin air. Choosing to think positively will keep you in tune with the solution that is right around the corner–all you have to do is grab it.

It won’t always be easy, but truly successful and confident people tend to turn all of their stumbling blocks into stepping stones. The more you actively choose to focus on solutions, not problems, and positivity rather than negativity, the easier it will become. Change your life by changing your thinking–and there’s no time like the present to start a new, positive chapter of your life! We can’t wait to see what you can accomplish after you throw off the chains of self-doubt and start living for the very best life has to offer!